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ChristinaM128
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When your DH watches the kids....
Not to throw DH under the bus or anything, but when your DH watches the kids, does he literally JUST watch the kids, or is he capable of cleaning (cleaning up after the kids an/or general housework) while watching them? I just walked home from a long day of work to dishes in the sink, toys all over the place, NOTHING done...and it's like this every time!
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Loveme
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When your DH watches the kids....
He literally just watches the kids. Drives me crazy but I SAH so he'll only watch them for an hour or 2 while I run an errand. If I were working I would absolutely make him clean up after himself. It isn't fair.
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| Posted 6/2/17 5:09 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
DH is a SAHD and yes, he does most everything.
I'm the one who leaves the house a mess, dishes in the sink, etc.
I don't clean, I'm a slob
He's the neater one.
We have a definite role reversal- I could give two shitts about a clean house and don't get the point of it.
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| Posted 6/2/17 5:11 PM |
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PitterPatter11
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When your DH watches the kids....
He only watches him...
Read this article, it perfectly describes my life:
http://www.scarymommy.com/emma-you-shouldve-asked-mental-load/
Don't get me wrong, my DH is willing to help, but the mental load Moms deal with is very real. My DH does really rely on me to be the "project manager". I have to specifically tell him what to do in terms of household duties.
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| Posted 6/2/17 5:11 PM |
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sunnygirl
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
Just watches them and plays with them. Sometimes I don't even look forward to going out cause I know I'm coming home to a mess
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| Posted 6/2/17 5:12 PM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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When your DH watches the kids....
Watches
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| Posted 6/2/17 5:21 PM |
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MrsT809
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When your DH watches the kids....
On special occasions and with specific instructions he will clean up after them. Otherwise it's mostly watching them but he does engage with them and have them help him with whatever he wants to do. Like a pp said, I stay home but if he were with them while I was working I would absolutely expect him to clean up regularly.
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| Posted 6/2/17 5:31 PM |
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JME78
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When your DH watches the kids....
We both work so neither one of us is home with them all day, but if I am working late or out somewhere on a weekend day he cleans, does laundry, etc, same as I do.
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| Posted 6/2/17 6:15 PM |
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nycgirl
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
When watching the kids, he totally ignores the mess.
He does do his share around the house though. We both had the same job. The inequality came when we had an issue with babysitting... it is ME who is ultimately responsible for the kids, so my job, career and accomplishments took the hit. I feel that that is partly why there is inequality in salary between men and women.
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| Posted 6/2/17 6:44 PM |
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M514
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When your DH watches the kids....
if I'm not home, DH will do what he needs to do with DD like make dinner,, do homework, help her pick her clothes for the next day, get ready for bed, etc... He'll clean up the kitchen after cooking and DD is responsible for cleaning up her toys.
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| Posted 6/2/17 6:52 PM |
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Pinkisles
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When your DH watches the kids....
I work Saturdays so he is home w our little guy. He does the dishes, laundry, cleans up the baby's toys. He's pretty good but I do text
Him reminders
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| Posted 6/2/17 7:19 PM |
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LuckyStar
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When your DH watches the kids....
He watches and cleans. By clean, I don't mean heavy housework, but he'll pick up after her, do a load of laundry, load the dishwasher.
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| Posted 6/2/17 8:28 PM |
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petvet
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
He gets "done" about the same things I do. Some days are good days, other days its enough to just keep them alive
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| Posted 6/2/17 10:00 PM |
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MrsM84
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When your DH watches the kids....
Just watches DD. If he cooks a meal for her, I come home to the dirty dishes in the sink. If they played with puzzles, I come home to puzzle pieces on the floor. If he changes her into PJ's, the dirty clothes she wore that day are on the chair in her room. If he gives her a bath, the bath toys are still in the bottom of the tub. DRIVES ME F#$%ING CRAZY! If I just watched DD, our house would be in a constant state of disaster. The reason it takes me an hour to do a simple task is that as I'm doing that task, I'm doing 30 other things I come across. A towel on the floor which initiates a load of laundry. Taking the bath toys out of the tub which leads to cleaning the bathroom. I. am. so. exhausted.
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| Posted 6/2/17 10:05 PM |
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backfor3
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
When my husband will watch the kids, he folds laundry, vacuums, load/unload the dishwasher, cleans the kitchen/bathroom, will cook or bbq. He's very good like this and he's cleaner than I am!
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| Posted 6/3/17 8:00 AM |
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Summergrl14
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When your DH watches the kids....
Unless I give a specific instruction like "please make sure you put DD's toys away while she is napping," then he literally just watches her and that usually just means the two of them sit on the couch and watch tv.
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| Posted 6/3/17 8:10 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
Posted by NervousNell
DH is a SAHD and yes, he does most everything.
I'm the one who leaves the house a mess, dishes in the sink, etc.
I don't clean, I'm a slob
He's the neater one.
We have a definite role reversal- I could give two shitts about a clean house and don't get the point of it.
Minus the SAHD part, this is us exactly. DH cooks, cleans, shops. He's a bit of a control freak and wants it all done his way, so he just takes over.
My complaint when he's alone with the kids is that he doesn't let them do much 'fun' at home. He'll take them out places but if they're home he won't let them bring out a bunch of toys and make a mess like I will. He wants the house to be constantly spotless, which is tough with three kids!
Message edited 6/3/2017 9:52:12 AM.
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| Posted 6/3/17 9:51 AM |
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bunnyluck
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When your DH watches the kids....
Hmmmmm mine cleans and does everything around the house and I pray my children survive hahahahahah...
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| Posted 6/3/17 11:58 AM |
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drpepper318
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
No it's the opposite, in our house, he's the one rolling his eyes when he gets home bc there are toys all over the floor and a sink full of dishes. I can't manage to do much beside watching them if I'm home alone with them (I have 3 under 4). He's much better at it than I am. I feel bad taking the time away from playing with them or putting the baby down too much to take care of house stuff... I feel like somebody always needs something so the house work has to wait.
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| Posted 6/4/17 12:05 AM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
He only does the kids' laundry or sheets/towels if I ask him to, but he does other cleaning while watching them. He also does all of the cooking regardless of whether I'm home. There are times when the house is a disaster after either of us have the kids in the house all day, but DH does more than his fair share of childcare and house responsibilities both when he's on his own with the kids and when we're together.
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| Posted 6/4/17 7:59 AM |
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aliwnec10
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
we have 3. The house definitely gets a bit messy when he's home, but when our youngest goes for his nap, he definitely cleans up, does the dishes and straightens up. He's home with them every monday since he's off.
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| Posted 6/4/17 8:18 PM |
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
50/50 Sometimes he does nothing but watch and feed the kids. Other times, like yesterday actually he did laundry, got the kids bathed, mopped the floors, washed dishes, and I think for the first time ever even dusted 
I get a little annoyed on the days he does nothing but watch the kids and I come home to a mess and a pile of dishes but I try to bite my tongue. I'm a SAHM and there are plenty days that I don't get as much as I should done or I'm just not in the mood to cook dinner and he really never gives me grief over it.
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| Posted 6/5/17 9:16 AM |
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oneday
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
Posted by NervousNell
DH is a SAHD and yes, he does most everything.
I'm the one who leaves the house a mess, dishes in the sink, etc.
I don't clean, I'm a slob
He's the neater one.
We have a definite role reversal- I could give two shitts about a clean house and don't get the point of it.
Haha - me too. Well, except DH works full time too. I'm terrible about getting stuff done when he's not there. But when I work late, he's got stuff cleaned and ready and the kids are taken care of.
Oh, and I DO care about a clean house. When we have people over (not often) and we work to really get the house into shape - I LOVE it!! And I always plan to keep it that way. But, alas, I'm just too lazy!
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| Posted 6/5/17 9:18 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
Posted by oneday
Posted by NervousNell
DH is a SAHD and yes, he does most everything.
I'm the one who leaves the house a mess, dishes in the sink, etc.
I don't clean, I'm a slob
He's the neater one.
We have a definite role reversal- I could give two shitts about a clean house and don't get the point of it.
Haha - me too. Well, except DH works full time too. I'm terrible about getting stuff done when he's not there. But when I work late, he's got stuff cleaned and ready and the kids are taken care of.
Oh, and I DO care about a clean house. When we have people over (not often) and we work to really get the house into shape - I LOVE it!! And I always plan to keep it that way. But, alas, I'm just too lazy!
So funny you say that! I only really clean when people are coming over and yes, it does look and feel nice to have a clean, neat house. And I also say, oh every night this week I will just wipe up and straighten up to maintain it.
But it never, ever happens and by the next week, it's disgusting again!
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| Posted 6/5/17 9:36 AM |
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oneday
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Re: When your DH watches the kids....
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by oneday
Posted by NervousNell
DH is a SAHD and yes, he does most everything.
I'm the one who leaves the house a mess, dishes in the sink, etc.
I don't clean, I'm a slob
He's the neater one.
We have a definite role reversal- I could give two shitts about a clean house and don't get the point of it.
Haha - me too. Well, except DH works full time too. I'm terrible about getting stuff done when he's not there. But when I work late, he's got stuff cleaned and ready and the kids are taken care of.
Oh, and I DO care about a clean house. When we have people over (not often) and we work to really get the house into shape - I LOVE it!! And I always plan to keep it that way. But, alas, I'm just too lazy!
So funny you say that! I only really clean when people are coming over and yes, it does look and feel nice to have a clean, neat house. And I also say, oh every night this week I will just wipe up and straighten up to maintain it.
But it never, ever happens and by the next week, it's disgusting again!
Nice to know I'm not alone!!
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