when will you stop?

i havent been on this ride as long as most of you....but i think its affecting me big big time...

i am 35 and told i have 5 percent chance of having a baby.

dh and i have been talking (crying) alot lately.... and wondering when is the quitting time.


i feel like this infertility issue is my whole life now..with going to the clinic 2-3 times a week at least..... shots pills...etc etc.... it just wears me outmore than i would like to admit.


we are thinking of stopping after this cycle if it doesnt work...but a little voice in my head is soooooooooooo scared of giving up.

have you had this talk with dh/partner? your thoughts? xoxo jen

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I'm 34, so i guess time is really not on my side either. After 3 years of trying, 4 IUIs, 1 cxled IVF and 1 IVf ending in a chemical,combined with the fact that i have had every test known to man, and STILL do not have a reason, I too feel like I LIVE at the doctors office. I live my life in a perpetual state of being overwhelmed...but I have never thought of giving up. (pausing, YES:) It's just not an option for me, or DH. I am determined to have children, how that will come about is yet to be determined. But I know I am no where near giving up .

It's a very personal decision, and no one's answer is "wrong". Everyone has their limits, their boundaries...We all need to just do the best we can.

My DH is my strength and my support system, without his unconditional love I am not sure I would have made it this far. When we began this journey I thought this had the potential to rip us apart, it had done the opposite. Lean on those that love you.

I wish you the best. It is such a hard road, sending many virtual hugs your way.

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Re: when will you stop?

I have the same convo with myself..then I go at it again..

..thinking all I need is that one good egg.

and the moon and stars all coming together, perfectly aligned.

I'm 43..

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This month marks one year seeing the RE and we just finished out first IVF cycle (failed). DH and I just had this conversation over the weekend. We are not ready to move on yet. I don't know how long we will continue, but we have at least decided to try another cycle. I am hoping that either one day we will be pregnant or I will be able to stop and have peace with the decision. Until then, we keep trucking forward.

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After six IVF cycles to get DS and now three failed cycles to TTC#2, we are asking the same thing. For us, unfortunately it may just come down to $$$ IF sucks. . .

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Sorry this got long.

Well, I guess I have to comment here. I might be here the longest of anyone without any success (and I'm 42 now). 5 years ago i went off the pill (to the day almost). 3 1/2 years with 3 different RE's (It took us longer to go to the RE because at first DH didn't think we needed it and then my brother passed away...so it went on the back burner for a few months). I did get pregnant the month I did the HSG test, but lost it at 5w4d (but who's counting). I think if I didn't ever get pregnant I would have quit a long time ago. After 6 failed IUI's and 4 failed IVF's, we moved over to donor egg. Only to fail there too BUT then I got determined (not that I wasn't before but now no stone left unturned, so to speak). So, I insisted on another hysterocsopy and then asked to get tested for immune issues. And after all this I find out adhesion on my uterus in a bad spot that would prevent implantation (RE thought he wasn't going to find anything) and I have elevated NK cells. So, I guess my point here is I don't know when to quit and I pray that this determination I have inside of ME will get us a little one at the end of the day. DH would have quit a long time ago, but he wants me happy so he goes along now with anything I want. I guess truthfully I'm at the end of the line. One more DE cycle (last time I did a shared cycle, this time I'm going for the whole single cycle-as insurance picked up a lot of the cycle, thank goodness, and I don't have advanced IF coverage...not questioning it)...if nothing happens here...don't know what happens. DH not into adoption and surrogate is really really expensive.

But, all in all, you have to do what is right for you. Just wanted to share a story of a long journey of someone who hasn't given up yet.

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Posted by Blu-ize

I have the same convo with myself..then I go at it again..

..thinking all I need is that one good egg.

and the moon and stars all coming together, perfectly aligned.

I'm 43..