What would you do????

If you found out that your DH was going on to match.com and requesting info about girls in their info...and how would you confront him??

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I don't think there is any good way to bring it up. I'd try to remain calm while doing so though.

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i would just come right out and say
W T F are you checking out other girls profiles for?

ETA. edited for spelling

Message edited 11/20/2005 3:45:50 PM.

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OMG, I would totally flip out- at first!

I would bring him to the computer and SHOW him and ask him whats up with this????? I would want to see his reaction!!! I would then have my guard up, ears and eyes wide open and go with my gut feeling.
It all depends on what his anwsers are. If he's helping a friend, I wanna know why and confrot the friend too!!!
Its so hard to really "know" what I would do besides flip the F out, but I think thats what I would do.

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I would freak! Then I'd let him have it!

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ditto one of my friends actually found my fsil's Boy friend on match.com complete with pic

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Unfortunately I don't think there is any easy way about it- I think the direct approach would be best. With a lot of emphasis on "What the hell do you think you're doing?"

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I'd be P.,Od and definitley confront him.

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definitely say something to him.......I have to admit sometimes I go on websites looking at guys profiles but for my friend who is 32yrs old and is single (she is a big girl and is having alot of trouble getting a date)
It may be something like that with your DH maybe he too is helping out a friend

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My girlfriend sends me people she's interested in dating - so browsing or going to match.com is understandable. Asking for profile info brings this to a new level.

I'd ask him why he was going on the site and if there is anything he wants to tell me. Then fall silent. The silence tends to make him feel the need to fill the space and spill the beans.

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Thanks ladies...no this is NOT my DH it is a friend, who has been having problems with her DH.

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Posted by Diane

Thanks ladies...no this is NOT my DH it is a friend, who has been having problems with her DH.

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Posted by girlygrl33

Posted by Diane

Thanks ladies...no this is NOT my DH it is a friend, who has been having problems with her DH.

Ah, thank god!!!!, I feel bad for your friend though.

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Posted by girlygrl33

Posted by Diane

Thanks ladies...no this is NOT my DH it is a friend, who has been having problems with her DH.

Ah, thank god!!!!, I feel bad for your friend though.

Yes, I do too. She doesnt think he is cheating, just on the computer a lot on porn sites and checking out girls's profiles, etc.
I dont know for a fact, but I hope he is not.
She is so upset by this

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Posted by Diane

Posted by girlygrl33

Posted by Diane

Thanks ladies...no this is NOT my DH it is a friend, who has been having problems with her DH.

Ah, thank god!!!!, I feel bad for your friend though.

Yes, I do too. She doesnt think he is cheating, just on the computer a lot on porn sites and checking out girls's profiles, etc.
I dont know for a fact, but I hope he is not.
She is so upset by this

that is one of my worst nightmares. Keep us posted and let her know we are hoping the best for her!!

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In my opinion, there is only way to deal with this....I'd ask him directly.

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I'd ask him directly also, but I wouldn't attack him. If she comes out accusing him, he will automatically but up a defense. She should confront him calmly (let her freak out to a friend before, because if it were me, I would not be able to calm unless I freaked out first).

Sorry she's in the situation. It doesn;t look good. But you never know. I went online with a friend of mine to look for guys for her at my computer- so it could be innocent. But maybe its not.

Good luck to her!

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I would outright ask him what does he think he's doing!!!!

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i'd castrate him

wonder how many profiles he would match then!