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PrincessP
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what is your BIGGEST concern...
after the baby is born.
Mine is definitely FINANCES. I dont know how anyone does it! We are both well educated with degrees and in good positions but I cant seem to understand how we can afford it. So AGAIN my concern is FINANCES.
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Janice
Sweet Jessie Quinn
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
mine is this incredible guilt I feel about not working right now. Dh is fine with it, he said it was our plan, and financially we are fine. I just feel guilty. Right now, we are uprooted, so I am not working, I don't have a baby to take care. I am hoping once the baby is here, that guilt goes away. It has been a hard transisition.
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| Posted 7/19/06 11:58 AM |
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angelbear217
Mommy of 2
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Lisa
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
I would say money as well. We are still living in an apartment. Who knows when we'll be able to buy a house. We both make good money but with the added expenses, it is going to be tough.
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| Posted 7/19/06 11:58 AM |
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sweetpea
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Donna
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
Definately money - Long Island is too expensive!!!
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| Posted 7/19/06 11:59 AM |
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04bride
I'm a big sister!!!
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Noel
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
Posted by angelbear217
I would say money as well. We are still living in an apartment. Who knows when we'll be able to buy a house. We both make good money but with the added expenses, it is going to be tough.
This is exactly what iw as going to say
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| Posted 7/19/06 12:03 PM |
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
I would agree - FINANCES!!! 2 in day care is a lot more than we had budgetted for, and we also just bought a house so we're trying to fix it up and get it ready - so we're quickly depleting any savings we have. I'm getting nervous but I  it will work out in the end!
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| Posted 7/19/06 12:05 PM |
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Laura1976
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Laura
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
i don't know if its a concern, but i'm dreading putting my baby into daycare...i guess thats somewhat of a financial concern, since i can't afford to stop working.
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| Posted 7/19/06 12:09 PM |
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annie
This is how I play basketball!
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
same here, finances.
and, this may sound selfish but, maintaining some semblance of our old life together. i read a post on parenting about some couples never going out together after they had their babies. DH & I need some alone time together (date nights, stuff like that) occassionally. people say once you have a baby, you won't want to leave him/her and go out, but i have a hard time believing that! luckily we have family nearby who would be happy to babysit. we are going to try very hard to make quality time for each other without the baby when we can.
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| Posted 7/19/06 12:10 PM |
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RobeyMuse
my little man
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Jenn
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
How my relationship with DH will change.
I am worried we won't have enough time together, that he will feel pressure from working as much as he does (which I don't see changing after the baby is here) and not seeing the the baby and me as much.
And Money. I know we will be fine, and I am going to work p/t from home but it is still a big change in income.
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| Posted 7/19/06 12:14 PM |
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SuzyQ
Mama to 3!?!?!?
Member since 7/06 8069 total posts
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Susan
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
Posted by Janice
mine is this incredible guilt I feel about not working right now. Dh is fine with it, he said it was our plan, and financially we are fine. I just feel guilty. Right now, we are uprooted, so I am not working, I don't have a baby to take care. I am hoping once the baby is here, that guilt goes away. It has been a hard transisition.
You just said exactly how I've been feeling since we've moved. The guilt is overwhelming at times. Plus I feel guilty because I can be so lazy sometimes. We still have so many boxes to unpack and I should be doing it when he's at work, but it's so hard to get motivated! Where is that "nesting instinct" I'm supposed to have? I hope it kicks in soon!
My biggest fear though is how good I will be at taking care of the baby, especially when I'm alone when DH travels for work and I'm afraid of how I'll handle being away from family & friends.
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| Posted 7/19/06 12:24 PM |
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pmpkn087
Life is good...
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
That I will be a good mom. I'm so nervous that I'm going to be impatient and always yelling, like my mom was.
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| Posted 7/19/06 12:30 PM |
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
Am I going to be a good mom and have enough patience......I think I will
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| Posted 7/19/06 12:34 PM |
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CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(
Member since 5/05 13848 total posts
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Christine
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
Money and my marriage- both worry me a little that all the change will take a toll.
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| Posted 7/19/06 1:18 PM |
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bethsiar
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
Posted by 04bride
Posted by angelbear217
I would say money as well. We are still living in an apartment. Who knows when we'll be able to buy a house. We both make good money but with the added expenses, it is going to be tough.
This is exactly what iw as going to say
Me too!
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| Posted 7/19/06 1:56 PM |
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SoinLove
Making big changes
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
My biggest concern is that she is healthy. I've been trying not to worry about her measuring small, but how can I not?
As for money, Christopher surprisingly did not add much more in terms of expenses and because we had so much help (we were given enough diapers for the first few months and formula for the first couple of months), that it didn't even really hit us right away. If anything, he only cost us about $150 extra a month and now that he's eating more solid foods, we really only pay for his diapers.
As for my relationship with DH, it definitely changed after Christopher was born and I know it will change again after baby #2 is born, but believe it or not, it changed for the BETTER. I started looking at DH in a whole different light and fell even more in love with him.
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| Posted 7/19/06 1:56 PM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
I agree with all of the above posts.. !
for me my biggest concerns (in no particular order) are (1) money, (2) my relationship w/DH changing, and (3) my ability to be a good mommy ..
Otherwise, I'm very relaxed 
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| Posted 7/19/06 3:21 PM |
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curliegirl
He's here!!!!
Member since 3/06 10128 total posts
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Gina
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
My concern is that I won't want to be a mom when I actually become a mom......does that make sense?
I must admit, I don't LOVE kids, DH does, and i know things change when it's your own, I just fear that I will have no interest...
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| Posted 7/19/06 3:56 PM |
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lvdolphins
My Loves!
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
Money and even though I work with children all day long, patience.
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| Posted 7/19/06 4:05 PM |
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
We are TTC but these are my thoughts:
Money will work itself out. We will never be rich and we will never be able to give to our kids dollar for dollar what our parents gave us, BUT we will have enough.
I know I will be a good parent as I had the best teachers - my own parents. One learns by example so I know I am in good shape.
I have accepted that relationships change over time. My relationship with DH WILL change - there is no question. The amount of time for intimacy will decrease - we will simply have to work on the quality of that intimacy. He will no longer come first for me and I will no longer come first for him. A child is a child and they are dependent on their parents - THEY come first.
I will do my best to make sure I provide a happy and healthy home environment for my child. If G-d's plan is to challenge us with health issues, we will deal with them then. Now, I can't worry about it.
That being said, what concerns me the most are family members and others who will more than likely become overbearing and judgemental in how we choose to raise our children. I hope that people will respect our choices and have faith that we will do right by our children.
I should also say another concern of mine is that someone will buy our child a G-d awful sailor suit in baby blue (assuming we have a son someday). I hate baby blue and I hate sailor suits.
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Diane
Hope is Contagious....catch it
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
finanaces, and getting my 2 boys on the same schedule
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| Posted 7/20/06 10:13 AM |
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WoodIAm
My Boys!
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JoAnne
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Re: what is your BIGGEST concern...
We are more than likely moving to CT. right after the baby is born, so my biggest concerne is being alone and having no help. Not to mention leaving the only place I have ever known or wanted to live in. 
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