what have you realized since your BFP!

This weekend was a fun filled one and had me start thinking and freaking out a little. My friend who started travel nursing came home for the weekend and we hung out with the girls like the good ole days. I had a great time don't get me wrong. This is what i started to realize... last nite we went to dinner and they are talking about Boyfriends and how they are mad at them or how in love they are blah blah or this hot guy that hot guy while drinking margaritas (me of course had a water with lemon woo hooo). Then they wanted to go to crazy donkey.. that changed cuz it was boring so off to the nutty irishman. This is when i started to feel like i just dont fit in with this crowd anymore. I felt like the oldest person in there not trying to get a piece of *** and either had no drink in hand or just water. Then on to the dance floor... i was terrified of getting bumped so i stood to side. then they would all go out side to the outside bar.. i thought i was going to be ill of the cigarette smoke. So i club scene is officially done. Then today i realized at the vanderbuilt mansion i cant walk up steep hills as fast without getting short of breath. My life is changing and i am scared. I hope this is normal. My friend is moving a way and my other friend is doing another tour. I feel like my life has plateued and nothing more to look forward to then raising this child and creating those memories. I know my friend was joking but she was kinda of right she said damn steph you did everything in 10 months only thing left for you to do is die. Overall was a good weekend. I hope everyone enjoyed thiers. (sorry so long)

Re: what have you realized since your BFP!

Message edited 8/24/2008 11:08:48 PM.

Re: what have you realized since your BFP!

Posted by wannabemom

Posted by sweetbabydreams

I feel like my life has plateued and nothing more to look forward to then raising this child and creating those memories. I know my friend was joking but she was kinda of right she said damn steph you did everything in 10 months only thing left for you to do is die.

actually, I've come to the realization that it's the reverse... that going out clubbing / going to bars / mindless chatter about your ex-boyfriends and nail polish are all shallow pursuits that people do when they're living life in limbo.... they aren't attaining their major life goals, developing permanent relationships.... they're just mindlessly living life on a day to day basis.

you're the one who's moving on, having a child, accomplishing major goals, and creating permanent memories. There are never any GOOD long-term memories created in bars

Re: what have you realized since your BFP!

I think what you're feeling is perfectly normal. I don't know how old you are now or at what age you started going out and if you really got it all "out of your system". I personally started going clubbing at 16 so when I got married at 27 and had my bachelorette party I said to myself" This is really going to be my last night out" and it really was! And to be honest I do want to go out once in a while but the feeling is very brief and I don't dwell on it much. I attribute that to going out for over 11 years though. I experienced everything there was to experience out there.
If you didn't get to do all that partying for a long time I would think it's normal to be scared your life is changing and to feel like you're missing out. Maybe once the baby is here you can make time once in a while to enjoy your friends again. A new and exciting chapter in your life is coing but it doesn't mean you did everything in your life yet. I think you're friend's comments were kinda rude and mean in a way. I know she probably meant it sarcastically but maybe deep down there was a little knife twist in there. Give your self some time to adjust to the new life you have I think eventually you'll be able to find a good balance.
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