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nferrandi
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Weird or just me?
We have been invited to a black tie wedding. In and of itself, that's fine. But it's a Sunday evening. I feel like you should only ask for black tie on a Saturday night. Would you be annoyed to have to attend a black tie wedding on a Sunday? And just to be clear, the wedding is at a nice place, but we've attended two other weddings there on Saturday nights- neither of which were black tie.
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Ellynrose
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Weird or just me?
I personally think it's fine. I mean just because the couple maybe couldn't afford the prices of a Saturday night wedding doesn't mean they should make it informal. Kwim?
Edit: it wouldn't bother me at all having to dress nicely. At the end of the day, the day shouldn't play a role in what you are going to wear.
Message edited 8/4/2013 6:29:15 PM.
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| Posted 8/4/13 6:27 PM |
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M514
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Weird or just me?
No, that wouldnt bother me. The day makes no difference to me.
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| Posted 8/4/13 7:26 PM |
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Weird or just me?
Wouldn't bother me.
I would feel like -I'm getting dressed up anyway, so it makes no difference to me what day of the week it falls on.
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| Posted 8/4/13 7:52 PM |
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Kate
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Re: Weird or just me?
I think it's weird.
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| Posted 8/4/13 8:00 PM |
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Bluechristmas
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Re: Weird or just me?
I've attended back tie weddings on Sundays. I see nothing odd about it.
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nferrandi
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Re: Weird or just me?
Posted by Ellynrose
I personally think it's fine. I mean just because the couple maybe couldn't afford the prices of a Saturday night wedding doesn't mean they should make it informal. Kwim?
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I never said it should be informal, I just think the day and the venue don't lend themselves to black tie. But I seem to be in the minority with that thought.
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| Posted 8/4/13 9:13 PM |
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DirtyBlonde
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Re: Weird or just me?
No, I would not be annoyed. Black tie has to do with time of day so if someone requested it for their Sunday evening wedding, I wouldn't find it weird.
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| Posted 8/4/13 11:25 PM |
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Re: Weird or just me?
I don't think it's weird or annoying at all.
I recently was invited to my first black tie wedding and was in a panic because DH showed me the invite the night before (I think the wedding was on a Friday).
LIF reminded me that this does not mean you need go super formal (i.e. tux/expensive ball gown) but more, dress like I would imagine we ALL do for a normal "Long Island" style wedding or event that is within the metro area (I believe you live in Westchester?).
Do they have a lot of people who are coming that are not from around here?
That could play a BIG part in their writing to dress black tie.
Especially because it is going to be on a Sunday, some people may think it's going to be more laid back, KWIM?
Also could your issue be that you are more annoyed that the wedding is on a Sunday vs. on a Fri/Sat because you guys have to work the next day?
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| Posted 8/5/13 5:54 AM |
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Arieschick29
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Re: Weird or just me?
It wouldnt be the day of the week but the venue that I would feel would not be appropriate for black tie.
I'm not sure what venue or hall it is but wear what you feel comfortable.
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| Posted 8/5/13 9:40 AM |
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limomof2
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Re: Weird or just me?
I used to work at a catering hall for many years. Sunday nights were always just as formal as Saturday nights. Sunday during the day was less casual.
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| Posted 8/5/13 9:58 AM |
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MrsFrizzle
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Weird or just me?
No and I don't really understand why the day of the week should even matter.
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| Posted 8/5/13 10:05 AM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Weird or just me?
I was invited to a black tie wedding on a Friday morning. Compared with that I think a Sunday evening is fine for black tie.
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| Posted 8/5/13 10:07 AM |
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alli3131
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Weird or just me?
Black tie is the couples pref not based on the day or location.
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| Posted 8/5/13 10:43 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Weird or just me?
I would only find it a bit odd if it were a daytime wedding. Ultimately though, if they wanted black tie for a day wedding it's the couples choice and I'd go along with it.
We had a very formal (black tie optional) Sunday evening wedding at a very formal location. We did Sunday becuase no way was our guest list going to meet the Saturday night quota and DH's family has a very serious superstition about not doing anything important on Fridays.
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| Posted 8/5/13 11:20 AM |
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Re: Weird or just me?
After the wedding I attended to this past Friday night, I have a feeling the bride wanted people to dress appropriately.
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| Posted 8/5/13 11:55 AM |
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shadows
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Weird or just me?
I've only been to black tie weddings on Saturday nights. I get what you're saying and I do think it's a little weird.
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| Posted 8/5/13 12:10 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Weird or just me?
Having to dress up black tie is just the same amount of inconvienence on a Sunday night as a Saturday night- so I would not be any more annoyed at the day.
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SeaWolf14
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Re: Weird or just me?
Black tie in general is a bit annoying IMO and its even worse if you have to get up early the next morning! Is the next day a holiday or anything??
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BusyB
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Weird or just me?
2 thoughts..... 1- from my time on LIW planning my own wedding, I remember a lot of girls putting "Black Tie Optional" on their invite to make sure Out of Town guests knew that they shouldn't be showing up in jeans, but its typically in line with most LI wedding attire anyway.
2- A Sunday wedding was most likely chosen for the price difference and if i was that bride, I wouldn't want my wedding to be anything "less-than" a Saturday wedding, and maybe she put that on there to reinforce the standard dress code?
For me, I get dressed up when I go out, I don't know if there is any extra effort between one or the other, but I don't find it weird, I'm sure she just wants to make sure all are on the same page.
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Re: Weird or just me?
Posted by JerseyMamaOf3
After the wedding I attended to this past Friday night, I have a feeling the bride wanted people to dress appropriately.
At the black tie I attended, there were a couple "token" women who showed up in the Snookie crotch-showing pieces of fabric, and they were the talk of the event.
Since this seems to be the "trend" these days, I can totally get why women would go with the black tie on the invite, regardless of day the event is held.
ETA: I also wonder if it has to do with religion/culture?
The last black tie I attended, both the bride and groom were Jewish and the ceremony was held at the reception hall. I've mostly been to Catholic weddings, where a lot of people skip the ceremony at the church, so modesty is not as apparent.
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jellybelly79
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Re: Weird or just me?
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ETA: I also wonder if it has to do with religion/culture?
The last black tie I attended, both the bride and groom were Jewish and the ceremony was held at the reception hall.
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tourist
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Re: Weird or just me?
The day doesn't matter; the time does.
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| Posted 8/6/13 10:41 AM |
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ali120206
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Re: Weird or just me?
Posted by NervousNell
Having to dress up black tie is just the same amount of inconvienence on a Sunday night as a Saturday night- so I would not be any more annoyed at the day.
Same.
The only two black tie weddings I have been invited to have been on Sunday afternoons.
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LiveItUp
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Re: Weird or just me?
Maybe they only included that on the invite so guests wouldn't come dressed too casually since its a Sunday wedding?
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