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Stefanie
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Wedding question
My dh and I are invited to a wedding next month and just got a card today saying:
so and so's wedding...Registry for gifts on May 17, 2008 (their wedding day).
Would you gift a gift from their registry (she isn't having a shower) or would you give money?
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Posted 4/28/08 12:45 PM  |
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neener1211
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Re: Wedding question
Is this a wedding in NY or another state?
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| Posted 4/28/08 12:47 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Wedding question
Is it an OOT wedding?
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| Posted 4/28/08 12:47 PM |
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bicosi
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Re: Wedding question
If they put that on their invite, then I would be inclined to do just that. So I'd get them something off of the registry.
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| Posted 4/28/08 12:49 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Wedding question
This is a wedding right here on LI.
This wasn't on their wedding invite. This is a seperate card that they sent today.
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| Posted 4/28/08 12:50 PM |
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luckystars3
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Re: Wedding question
I would give cash.
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| Posted 4/28/08 12:54 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Wedding question
Very odd, but I would probably buy something off the registry then.
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| Posted 4/28/08 12:54 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Wedding question
Posted by Stefanie
This is a wedding right here on LI.
This wasn't on their wedding invite. This is a seperate card that they sent today.
 wow - is it just me or does that seem tacky?
i know that my mom included registry info in my shower invites, but to send a separate card? that just seems weird to me. maybe it's just something new that i have never heard of.
in any case, to be totally honest, i could probably get something really nice from their registry for less than i would normally give them a check for (and i only care b/c money is tight for me and DH right now) - so i would probably get them something off their registry, and send it so that it gets there before the wedding.
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| Posted 4/28/08 12:54 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Wedding question
So if we decide to get something off their registry, I'm supposted to show up at the wedding with it? Or sent it to their house?
It is VERY tacky..IMO...
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| Posted 4/28/08 12:56 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Wedding question
Posted by Stefanie
So if we decide to get something off their registry, I'm supposted to show up at the wedding with it? Or sent it to their house?
It is VERY tacky..IMO...
I agree about the lack of etiquette here, but if you are concerned about bringing a physical gift, then I'd bring a GC to the store that they registered at instead.
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| Posted 4/28/08 12:59 PM |
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MikesCutie
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Re: Wedding question
Maybe get a gift card to the place they are registered. I would get a gift just because I wouldn't want to carry it.
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| Posted 4/28/08 1:02 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Wedding question
If there is no shower, then I don't think it is tacky to tell people where they are registered. Obviously they would rather the gifts from the registry than cash gifts.
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| Posted 4/28/08 1:09 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Wedding question
I don't think it's tacky because she isn't having a shower and it wasn't sent with the invites.
I would send something small off the registry to their house and give a cash gift in a card at the wedding also - depending on how close your are to them. If you are not that close, I think cash in the card at the wedding is fine.
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| Posted 4/28/08 1:17 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Wedding question
Posted by BabyAvocado
I don't think it's tacky because she isn't having a shower and it wasn't sent with the invites.
I would send something small off the registry to their house and give a cash gift in a card at the wedding also - depending on how close your are to them. If you are not that close, I think cash in the card at the wedding is fine.
I think its awkward. I know it is hard to get the word out about a registry, especially if there is no shower. I think though, that maybe the registry info should have come from a MOH or something. IMO it would appear as more of a "by the way so & so are registered here for their wedding" rather than, "buy me stuff from here when you come to my wedding." KWIM?
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| Posted 4/28/08 1:33 PM |
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Chrisnamy
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Re: Wedding question
Gift from the Registry
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| Posted 4/28/08 1:39 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Wedding question
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by BabyAvocado
I don't think it's tacky because she isn't having a shower and it wasn't sent with the invites.
I would send something small off the registry to their house and give a cash gift in a card at the wedding also - depending on how close your are to them. If you are not that close, I think cash in the card at the wedding is fine.
I think its awkward. I know it is hard to get the word out about a registry, especially if there is no shower. I think though, that maybe the registry info should have come from a MOH or something. IMO it would appear as more of a "by the way so & so are registered here for their wedding" rather than, "buy me stuff from here when you come to my wedding." KWIM?
\That's exactly how I took it...
It came from the bride herself.
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| Posted 4/28/08 2:04 PM |
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MissingLI
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Re: Wedding question
Buy something off the registry and then bring it with you to the wedding. It's actually pretty comman out here (AZ) to bring a gift rather than money. So go with the registry gift, and maybe that can end the 'how much should we give them?' debate for you as well. 
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| Posted 4/28/08 2:07 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Wedding question
It sounds like it's important for them to let everyone know about the registry, so I'd get them something from it. And I'd buy online so it can be sent directly to their address and I don't have to carry it to the wedding.
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| Posted 4/28/08 2:10 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Wedding question
Posted by Stefanie
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by BabyAvocado
I don't think it's tacky because she isn't having a shower and it wasn't sent with the invites.
I would send something small off the registry to their house and give a cash gift in a card at the wedding also - depending on how close your are to them. If you are not that close, I think cash in the card at the wedding is fine.
I think its awkward. I know it is hard to get the word out about a registry, especially if there is no shower. I think though, that maybe the registry info should have come from a MOH or something. IMO it would appear as more of a "by the way so & so are registered here for their wedding" rather than, "buy me stuff from here when you come to my wedding." KWIM?
\That's exactly how I took it...
It came from the bride herself.
I hear ya, it definitely would have been better if it came from the MOB or MOH or something.
But she isn't having a shower... I don't know the reasoning (2nd marriage, already has everything, etc) but - depending on the reason - I would kind of feel bad that she isn't getting a shower... that's a big thing for a bride.
Maybe her MOH is being a bizotch and put her in this position...who knows?
Of course, if you know her and you know she is just blatantly saying "buy me stuff from my registry instead of giving me cash" then yeah, I agree, I'd be a little put off by it too.
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Jackie24
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Re: Wedding question
just give cash thats the safest bet
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| Posted 4/28/08 10:07 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Wedding question
I'd probably give a check because the one time we got a registry gift (DH's friend, his idea) it was a PITA to carry it in and I would imagine a PITA for them to get it home.
As for the tacky part, sometimes I feel like the registry stuff is damned if you do, damned if you don't. I didn't have a shower, so people only got my registry info by word of mouth. We had a very small, mostly family e-party and we weren't really expecting gifts, but I got scolded by one or two people that the registry info should have been in the e-party invites. Maybe the bride didn't want to send the registry info with her invitations and someone else talked her into sending them later??
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| Posted 4/28/08 10:13 PM |
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Christine
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Re: Wedding question
I would bring check or cash to the wedding (or what ever you normally give as a gift).
I think it's terribly akward and inappropriate for the bride to send out registry cards. If she wants a shower, she should speak to her mother/sister/bridal party. She really shouldn't expect gifts for a party that never happens.
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| Posted 4/28/08 10:23 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Wedding question
I might buy a small token gift from the registry and have it sent to the house and then put the difference of what I would have given as cash on the day of the wedding so that I also had something in my hand
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| Posted 4/28/08 11:00 PM |
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PegaLega
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Re: Wedding question
When DHs cousin got married they sent out mini business card looking things with the registry information on it-we didnt go to the shower so this may have been why
I would still give cash b/c then that allows them to get whatever they want-whether registry or not.
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| Posted 4/29/08 12:47 AM |
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My4GirlsMyLife
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Re: Wedding question
I would just give cash especially since they will propably get a percentage off of where ever they registered after the wedding
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