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AidansArmy
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Suzanne
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Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
My SIL is pregnant and is getting married this October (she is due in February) in a small church wedding. They are planning to get married again on the same date the following year so they can have a big reception with extended family and friends. My DH and my BIL are wondering if we give a gift now or at the 2012 wedding. We are just doing immediate family and dinner after this October. I said we should wait until the one the following year. Not sure if that's proper etiquette though. WWYD
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Posted 8/7/11 9:53 PM  |
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Christine
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
I would give one now...this is the real wedding. The reception next year is just a party.
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| Posted 8/7/11 9:55 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
Give them a salt shaker now, a pepper shaker next year 
Seriously, i agree with PP. This is the real wedding, next year is just a party. I would give my gift after the actual wedding! You could always do something else small next year for the reception if you wanted!
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| Posted 8/7/11 9:58 PM |
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newbie00
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
I agree with previous poster
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| Posted 8/7/11 9:58 PM |
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aim
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
Posted by Christine
I would give one now...this is the real wedding. The reception next year is just a party.
ITA. And not for nothing, the couple might think you aren't giving a gift at all if you wait  I would give the gift at the 1st wedding.
Message edited 8/7/2011 10:00:11 PM.
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| Posted 8/7/11 9:59 PM |
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AidansArmy
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
Love the Salt and Pepper Shaker joke!
Thanks ladies...I agree that the real wedding is at the church. Sadly, my SIL refers to the real wedding as the reception one. 
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| Posted 8/7/11 10:14 PM |
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MrsFrizzle
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
I would give them their gift now and maybe a token gift at the party next year just bc I would feel weird going empty handed something a framed photo of the celebration that's happening this year.
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| Posted 8/7/11 10:30 PM |
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LINewbie
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
Well, when my parents were engaged my dad's parents gave them a salt shaker and said they would give them the pepper one after they were married 
DH ans I had a civil ceremony and recption in CA for our friends out there, then a real big wedding out here later. the few people who went to both gave us a gift at the first but nothing at the second (well maybe a card?). Def wasn't expecting anything else, and I agree - gift at the first.
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| Posted 8/8/11 9:26 AM |
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peanutbutter2
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
I the church wedding is when they are actually getting married, so I would give it then.
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| Posted 8/8/11 10:07 AM |
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AidansArmy
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
Thanks ladies...we are going to give a monetary gift this October and then maybe something off the registry for the second.
It's a good idea to give her the $ now anyway since DH, myself and our 3 kids are in the wedding party. We'll be broke come the second one.
Message edited 8/8/2011 10:08:23 AM.
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| Posted 8/8/11 10:08 AM |
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
I'd probably give the main gift now, and then just something off the registry (if they register) for the wedding a year later.
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| Posted 8/8/11 10:32 AM |
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bonch20
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
I'd probably give the main gift now, and then just something off the registry (if they register) for the wedding a year later.
i was thinking the same thing...
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| Posted 8/8/11 3:09 PM |
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JennB
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
Posted by Christine
I would give one now...this is the real wedding. The reception next year is just a party.
I agree!
I don't like going to events empty-handed, so I would probably buy them a little something, more like an anniversary gift for the reception. Just an idea, maybe get a great shot at them at the church wedding, have it framed with the date.
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| Posted 8/8/11 3:52 PM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
I was not pregnant but we did the same thing. Got married in City Hall then one year to the day got married with a reception, etc.
I would say a card now and a gift then. We made jokes that the practice run went great, can't wait for the finals  hahaha
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| Posted 8/8/11 5:11 PM |
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Laura1976
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Re: Wedding Gift...2 weddings same couple
I would treat the 1st round as their actual wedding and then a smaller gift next year.
Once they have a baby, they might decide to spend the money on something else, instead of having a 2nd wedding, you never know.
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| Posted 8/8/11 5:14 PM |
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