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summerBaby10
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vent
Ty!!
Message edited 7/31/2017 5:56:24 PM.
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RainyDay
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vent
That is messed up. I would have your DH say something to MIL. DS 2 will prob be so disappointed
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| Posted 7/30/17 5:41 PM |
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Disneygirl17
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Re: vent
I would say something. That's ridiculous
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| Posted 7/30/17 6:09 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: vent
Oh I am so sorry. I would tell MIL she either takes DS 2 to the Lego store and spends the same for him, so she will no longer be welcome to have time with either kid. I will not tolerate favoritism between my kids from close relatives. Having been on the personal receiving end of this as a child, this hits super close to home for me.
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| Posted 7/30/17 6:42 PM |
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lululu
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Re: vent
I have a similar problem with my MIL. My girls are only 17 months apart and she just does not get that they need to be treated equally. It doesn't help that my MIL CLEARLY likes my older DD better than my younger one. The younger one is a much more difficult kid but I really wouldn't think that a grandparent would make it so obvious who she prefers. Sometimes it makes me sick to my stomach.
As PP said, I would tell her if she doesn't do the same for the other son that she is no longer allowed to do things like this with either child. First I would tell her how disappointed he will be if she doesn't do the same for your other son and give her a chance to realize it on her own.
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| Posted 7/30/17 8:53 PM |
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nycgirl
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Re: vent
Just be upfront with her... tell her while taking him to LICM is so cool, he's been looking forward to Lego shopping like his brother and he'd be jealous.
Maybe next time she can do the LICM thing with both kids.
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| Posted 7/31/17 7:33 AM |
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jamnmore
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vent
I don't know if it is about favoritism at all. She may just want to spend time with each of the children separately. And since she just went to the Lego Store with one, planned something else with the other. Be nice about it and just ask. She may not even realize.
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| Posted 7/31/17 10:05 AM |
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edfilippi
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Re: vent
I would have dh say something like ds 2 is so excited about going to the lego store lile his brother. Maybe that will give her the hint....if she doesnt get it. I or he would have to say something.
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| Posted 7/31/17 5:25 PM |
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edfilippi
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Re: vent
I would have dh say something like ds 2 is so excited about going to the lego store lile his brother. Maybe that will give her the hint....if she doesnt get it. I or he would have to say something.
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| Posted 7/31/17 5:25 PM |
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summerBaby10
let's be nice
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Re: vent
Ok. So you ladies gabe me the strength to call her myself since dh is a wimp when it comes to her. I hate confrontations but I did it. She plans on taking him to both places now. #1 isn't the jealous type so fine. I already lost 1 night of sleep over this.
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| Posted 7/31/17 5:56 PM |
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Katareen
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Re: vent
Posted by jamnmore
I don't know if it is about favoritism at all. She may just want to spend time with each of the children separately. And since she just went to the Lego Store with one, planned something else with the other. Be nice about it and just ask. She may not even realize.
I agree...my mother does this with my girls and I know she means absolutely no harm. She likes to do different things with each of them so they feel like it's a special activity, and tries to base it around what she thinks each of them would enjoy.
You should be happy that she wants to bring them out to do things. I know kids with grandparents who couldn't be bothered.
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| Posted 8/1/17 8:58 AM |
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