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05mommy09
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II! - So Sad
OMG being a mommy to a  is awesome!!!
I would love #2 to be another boy!!!
You'll see when your baby is here, how the sex makes no difference
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Bridex100
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II! - So Sad
Ack! I just came back from getting lunch and didn't expect such an overwhelming response to my post. I was expecting responses like, "boys are fun too" and "you can buy cute blue boy outfits."
I just reread my post and I had written that I was happy that the baby was healthy.
However, I have been feeling down today. Perhaps I should have used another word choice to describe how I felt like disappointed or unhappy. I feel people would have taken offense to any negative word choice I would have made.
Now I just feel worse because it appears that I have offended many people. My heart breaks for every sad story that I hear about. I was not trying to be insensitive. I apologize if I offended anyone who has had any problems having a baby. That was not my intention at all.
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| Posted 11/7/08 1:59 PM |
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2BEANS
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Posted by Bridex100
Ack! I just came back from getting lunch and didn't expect such an overwhelming response to my post. I was expecting responses like, "boys are fun too" and "you can buy cute blue boy outfits."
I just reread my post and I had written that I was happy that the baby was healthy.
However, I have been feeling down today. Perhaps I should have used another word choice to describe how I felt like disappointed or unhappy. I feel people would have taken offense to any negative word choice I would have made.
Now I just feel worse because it appears that I have offended many people. My heart breaks for every sad story that I hear about. I was not trying to be insensitive. I apologize if I offended anyone who has had any problems having a baby. That was not my intention at all.
Im sure everyone knows your intent was not to be insensitive to others.. just this is a very very sore topic for some. Its hard to put your feelings into words at times.
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| Posted 11/7/08 2:03 PM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
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| Posted 11/7/08 2:04 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Posted by Bridex100
"boys are fun too" and "you can buy cute blue boy outfits."
Boys are fun. I love DS. He is such an amazing little guy. And to be honest I hated shopping for boy clothes at first b/c I did not love the selection, but then the boy mommies on here gave me great suggestions on where to go for clothes. I will tell you my boy has more clothes than me & DH combined!
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| Posted 11/7/08 2:08 PM |
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Posted by Bridex100
Ack! I just came back from getting lunch and didn't expect such an overwhelming response to my post. I was expecting responses like, "boys are fun too" and "you can buy cute blue boy outfits."
I just reread my post and I had written that I was happy that the baby was healthy.
However, I have been feeling down today. Perhaps I should have used another word choice to describe how I felt like disappointed or unhappy. I feel people would have taken offense to any negative word choice I would have made.
Now I just feel worse because it appears that I have offended many people. My heart breaks for every sad story that I hear about. I was not trying to be insensitive. I apologize if I offended anyone who has had any problems having a baby. That was not my intention at all.
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| Posted 11/7/08 2:10 PM |
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April09baby
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Just wanted to say that I am the same way.........
I am going tomorrow for a sono...
They will tell me the sex of the baby...............
I am convinced that it is a girl.....
I have psyched myself out from the first day I found out that it is a girl.............
I will be shoked if it is a boy...........
But like you said as long as the baby is healthy I will be grateful and happy
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| Posted 11/7/08 2:12 PM |
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mamallama
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
This site is for discussing our feeling and emotions...I don't think she should have to change her wording or act in any sort of way. She can't help how she feels.
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| Posted 11/7/08 2:17 PM |
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Candy Girl
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
I understand how you feel, but I was the opposite. I REALLY wanted a boy, was convinced that it was a boy and when the tech told me GIRL! I was disappointed. It took about a day or two to really accept it. I started thinking about why I was so set on having a boy and realized that it was my own insecurities about being a mom to a little girl. It was very overwhelming to me.
About 2 weeks after the level II I started having major complications that had my drs. very concerned about a preterm birth. By that time I had long forgotten about my initial disappointment and was so worried about losing my child.
You have every right to feel disappointment, especially after being mentally prepared for the opposite. I hope you get excited about your boy soon! You are very lucky!
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| Posted 11/7/08 2:30 PM |
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Lucky
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
You have every right to feel disappointed. Things just didn't turn out as you thought they would. Time to pull yourself up from your your boot straps and start to look on the brighter side of things. You can't even begin to imagine the power of the love you will feel when your baby is born! Boy or girl doesn't matter.....you will see!
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| Posted 11/7/08 2:36 PM |
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Myababy
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
be happy!!! I am hoping for a boy first actually. I always wanted an older brother. But if its a girl I will be just as happy!!!
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| Posted 11/7/08 3:01 PM |
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angnick
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Posted by Bridex100
Ack! I just came back from getting lunch and didn't expect such an overwhelming response to my post. I was expecting responses like, "boys are fun too" and "you can buy cute blue boy outfits."
I just reread my post and I had written that I was happy that the baby was healthy.
However, I have been feeling down today. Perhaps I should have used another word choice to describe how I felt like disappointed or unhappy. I feel people would have taken offense to any negative word choice I would have made.
Now I just feel worse because it appears that I have offended many people. My heart breaks for every sad story that I hear about. I was not trying to be insensitive. I apologize if I offended anyone who has had any problems having a baby. That was not my intention at all.
Well said, I sent you FM! I know how you feel. I went through this too for a short time, then quickly got over it cause i realized BOYS ROCK! And just think, when you do have your little girl, it will have a big bro to look up to and take care of her!!!!
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| Posted 11/7/08 4:08 PM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Congrats on a healthy baby.
I feel you about the boy/girl thing. I wanted a boy SOOOO badly. I have a little girl. When I was first told I was a little disappointed, I wont lie, but then I thought how lucky I was she was all ok. Honestly it took a little time before I stopped wistfully thinking of little boy stuff. But as the time got closer and lets face it, she became more 'real' to me the more excited I got.
Now she's here and I honestly can't imagine her as a he or as anything else. She's perfect and she's mine. My hubby laughs at me "and you wanted a boy" *shrug* what can I say.. for my first I was stupid *shrug*
But I want to say, I understand where you were coming from. Its hard to post sometimes, because you have to think about how others will take it. The problem is you can't always know how others will take your post (especially if you havent had their experiences) Im sure you meant no harm and Im sure they mean no harm to you.
Congrats again on a healthy baby boy!
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| Posted 11/7/08 4:12 PM |
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
I understand your disappointment.
When I went for my level II, I was convinced I was having a girl. When, the tech said, you are having a . I kind of felt crushed inside...I really hyped myself up that I was having a girl.
I got over it and was so excited that my little guy was healthy.
I found and received the cutest boy outfits.
Well, now when I went for my growth sono and asked the tech, to please confirm I was having a ...she couldn't, because he wouldn't cooperate. I was upset about this.
All, I know is I am expecting a and really hope it is.
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| Posted 11/7/08 4:29 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
I wasn't going to post, but I figured it may help someone who is to afraid of being flamed to admit their feelings. So here it is:
I was also disappointed to be having a boy, because my DH didn't even want another child (he has 2 from a previous marraige) and I also, was looking forward to all the girly pink things and having a little "mini me". A few things some of the posters said are true:
#1 - I also had a few bad scares during the pregnancy, and honestly, you are so worried about your child, it doesn't matter what sex they are.
#2 - Your feelings are your feelings, and disappointment is totally normal and it is ok to feel the way you do, but look how over the moon your DH is and take pride/pleasure in that
#3 - Honestly, my fears about having a boy were my own insecurities. I said what am I going to do with a boy? I don't know anything about them and penises and stuff . You learn real quick, and it is not even an issue.
The clothes may not be as cute, but trust me 100000000% when I tell you, from someone who has been there, it really does not matter at all the second you see the baby and the 1st time you hold him. It really doesn't. You will feel love like you never knew existed, on a level you could not imagine in your wildest dreams.
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| Posted 11/7/08 4:29 PM |
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IrishLasss334
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Posted by Bridex100
Update: We are having a baby boy. 
Husband was over the moon. I've never in my life seen DH so happy. He had a smile from ear to ear. I, on the other hand, was disappointed that it wasn't a girl but am happy that the baby is healthy.
I asked the ultrasound tech 3x if she was sure the baby was a boy. She showed us the little penis 3x.
Both sets of future grandparents are extremely excited for a grandson. Apparently I was the only one rooting for Team Pink. I think I sabotaged myself by wanting a girl so badly. No cute pink dresses for me. 
Really??? you're kidding me. I am completely crashing, but I've been on tihs board before. I WAS pregnant with a boy and unfortnately I went to the doctor one day and there was no more heartbeat. Count your blessings instead of shedding the tears. I would give anything to be in your shoes right now having my baby boy.
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| Posted 11/7/08 4:46 PM |
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ReiRei13
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Posted by MarisaK
I'm SURE the OP was just expressing her disappointment that the baby  she was hoping for is really a - and her post had nothing to do with the baby's health or how much she will love and care for him when he's born !!
There's NOTHING wrong with wanting a girl ........and it's normal to feel some disappointment. I think 'sad' was a poor choice of words on her part and I'm sure she didn't mean to offend anyone by her post. -
No need to flame or tell her to be thankful and all of that. -
I"m SURE she's thrilled her baby is healthy and doing well, and thankful for her blessings ........she's just a little diapoointed she won't be buying pink dresses and getting mani/pedis w/ her daughter ........I don't think it's anything to abuse her for -
I gotta say that I 100% agree with you!! I understand that there are millions of woman out there who are experiencing infertility or TTC with no avail but this doesn't make the disappointment any less real for the OP! In the 6 months that I've been on this board I have seen quite a few posts about someone being disappointed over gender (thats out of only a couple hundred woman)- I think its only natural when someone has their heart set on a specific gender- that doesn't mean the baby will be any less loved or taken care of!
I guess its a good thing you decided to find out the sex- now you have 20 weeks to adjust to the fact that you have a precious, healthy baby boy on the way!
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| Posted 11/7/08 5:17 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
I just read the whole thread and was saying to myself "Are you kidding me? You should be so happy you are having a healthy baby".
Then I read that you didn't mean to word it that way.
There are so many women who can't have babies or that have lost babies.
Just be thankful.
This is one of my reasons I did not find out the sex with DS #1 and I am not finding out the sex again.
I honestly am not concerned about the sex at all. I just hope and pray for a healthy and happy baby & Pregnancy.
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| Posted 11/7/08 5:46 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
You're completely entitled to your feelings. I'm sorry people flamed you.
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| Posted 11/7/08 5:50 PM |
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autumn
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
congrats on finding out its a boy
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| Posted 11/7/08 6:08 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Posted by JennZ
OK, Im going to say it and It may sound a lot more witchy than I mean it to. But are you kidding me?
I mean really, be thankful you have a healthy baby REGARDLESS what it is and thank God. Its not the end of the world its a boy. I think, since so many people try for so long and have sacrificed so much to be a parent you should just count your blessings.
Im sorry but posts like this bug me. I just find it really sad.
JMHO!!
Thank you for saying this nicer than I ever could.
I know so many people who have lost children 20 weeks and on - it honestly disgusts me when people are disappointed about the sex they are having and not the fact that they have a healthy baby. My friends and family would give ANYTHING to hold their child in their arms. It just blows my mind away when people say they are sad about the sex they are having....and this is not the first time I've seen it on this board so Bridex is not the only one.
My son is the world to me - and I would have 10 more boys if it meant they would all be healthy (and yes, I've always wanted a little girl too - hasn't every woman? but to be disappointed about it - and to actually write it on a message board makes me  )
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| Posted 11/7/08 6:27 PM |
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reggie
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Posted by JennZ
OK, Im going to say it and It may sound a lot more witchy than I mean it to. But are you kidding me?
I mean really, be thankful you have a healthy baby REGARDLESS what it is and thank God. Its not the end of the world its a boy. I think, since so many people try for so long and have sacrificed so much to be a parent you should just count your blessings.
Im sorry but posts like this bug me. I just find it really sad.
JMHO!!
JennZ- You are 100% right.
There are so many people(myself included) that have lost their babies after twenty weeks. What matters is that the baby is healthy and happy. Boy, girl it doesn't matter at all.
I had my son last March. Did not care whether it was a boy or girl,but that the baby was healthy. Boys are awesome!!!!
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| Posted 11/7/08 7:47 PM |
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randella
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Posted by mpetretti
Posted by MarisaK
I'm SURE the OP was just expressing her disappointment that the baby she was hoping for is really a - and her post had nothing to do with the baby's health or how much she will love and care for him when he's born !!
There's NOTHING wrong with wanting a girl ........and it's normal to feel some disappointment. I think 'sad' was a poor choice of words on her part and I'm sure she didn't mean to offend anyone by her post. -
No need to flame or tell her to be thankful and all of that. -
I"m SURE she's thrilled her baby is healthy and doing well, and thankful for her blessings ........she's just a little diapoointed she won't be buying pink dresses and getting mani/pedis w/ her daughter ........I don't think it's anything to abuse her for -
I gotta say that I 100% agree with you!! I understand that there are millions of woman out there who are experiencing infertility or TTC with no avail but this doesn't make the disappointment any less real for the OP! In the 6 months that I've been on this board I have seen quite a few posts about someone being disappointed over gender (thats out of only a couple hundred woman)- I think its only natural when someone has their heart set on a specific gender- that doesn't mean the baby will be any less loved or taken care of!
I guess its a good thing you decided to find out the sex- now you have 20 weeks to adjust to the fact that you have a precious, healthy baby boy on the way!
totally agree...
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| Posted 11/7/08 7:54 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
Wow! Come on ladies lighten up. Just because some of you didn't care one way or the other doesn't mean that some of us may have not had hopes one way or the other. There is nothing wrong with that.
Cut the OP a little slack. I'm sure she is happy she is going to have a healthy baby boy but she is entitled to her disappointment that it's not a girl for whatever the reason.
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| Posted 11/7/08 8:16 PM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: Update to Off to my Level II!
She made it seem like it was not just "disappointment." More like it was the end of the world that she wouldn't be able to buy pink dresses by saying she "sabotaged" herself.
I'm sure the OP is happy to be carrying a healthy child. BUT- she didn't have to state so bluntly just how disappointed she is.
To the OP- thank you for clarifying. I am sorry you feel the way you do.
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