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Faithx2
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Update to my situation
For those of you that gave such great support regarding my situation with my cousin not acknowledging my daughters birth. I wrote a public letter to our family explaining the circumstances and was very kind and considerate in it. Even though I wanted to use every curse in the book!! I got a response back today from my cousin and his wife basically telling me to get off of my high horse and what a piece of sh$t I am(2 pages of it) to have no regard for their feelings. How my daughters birthday parties will always remind them of their son..... They basically told me I should have waited to give birth until the following week!! ***!! This letter in a way was good. Because my husband and myself have basically written them off. I am done with them and officially have a reason to be now. They need grief counseling and I need Prozac for the post partum LOL No seriously, I don't think we will even speak to them again. Oh well...their loss....I gained a beautiful new family member!!!
Message edited 4/6/2006 6:06:03 PM.
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jersee3380
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Re: Update to my situation
good for you, i'm glad you can rest easliy now. let them be the ones who stir over it, you said it just right, you're immediate family gained something more precious.
i think it's great you wrote a letter, i have been meaning to do this for some time, to my MIL, but have decided against it ONLY b/c she loves drama and it would give her more pleasure to see she's getting to me. we have officially written her off, as well, and i'm sure the fact that we're ignoring her and not adding fuel to her fire by telling her things is bothering her more than my letter would.
good for you!
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| Posted 4/6/06 6:21 PM |
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jersee3380
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caroline
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| Posted 4/6/06 6:21 PM |
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KangaMom
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Re: Update to my situation
I am in amazement the rudeness of these people  You are better off without them!
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| Posted 4/6/06 7:23 PM |
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bellarina
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I'm glad you wrote the letter. You don't need people in your life like that. They are the ones missing out on you, DH and your beautiful baby. I thought the whole situation was absurd in regards to their feelings. I'm glad you wrote them off.
CONGRATS!
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| Posted 4/6/06 7:23 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Update to my situation
I imagine it's hard to cut off a family member but have to say I'm glad you're doing it. Maybe in time they'll be able to revisit. In the meantime you're focusing on what's really important.
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| Posted 4/6/06 7:26 PM |
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05mommy09
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Im so sorry people would treat an innocent child this way....I know how much this must hurt you, but I think- you distancing yourself is the best thing... If they are not gonna add quality to your life, than why stress yourself with the drama?!
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| Posted 4/6/06 7:43 PM |
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MM2004
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Good for you! I can't believe the nerve of some people!
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| Posted 4/6/06 7:55 PM |
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michele31
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This is so sad all around. How they can't see that their grief is hurting others. I would just try my best to move on from this. You never tried to hurt them or cause them pain. They should know that. You were not induced on the day of their son's death..they reserve an entire week forever? No one can ever get married, have a baptism, graduate, have a shower etc..for that week?
I am sorry that you have been caused pain.
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| Posted 4/6/06 8:24 PM |
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usuk2004
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Posted by Princessmaris
Im so sorry people would treat an innocent child this way....I know how much this must hurt you, but I think- you distancing yourself is the best thing... If they are not gonna add quality to your life, than why stress yourself with the drama?!
I agree, it's awful for anyone to use a child as "weapon" to hurt other people 
I understand that they are still grieving, but do they honestly think that it would hurt any less for them if your baby was born a week later? Don't they think they would still think of their son? As they should, of course, but they have no right to blame you or your baby for the day of her birth!
I'm sorry, but it's probably better off this way for now. I hope that all can come to terms with it in the future.
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| Posted 4/7/06 6:31 AM |
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Elizabeth
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While I cant even imagine what its like to be in your cousins shoes, Im sorry that their grief is being misdirected at your daughter. I'd try to just step away from any contact, maybe cooler heads will prevail over time and they will seek some grief counseling. I cannot picture a scenario where anyone would expect someone to "delay" their childs birth (if possible) unless they were not thinking in their right minds. My heart goes out to them and you. Enjoy your beautiful girl!!!
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| Posted 4/7/06 8:04 AM |
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bklyngirl
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if that's when the baby/doctor wanted to induce u, u have no control over it. at least u have closure to this horrible situation
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| Posted 4/7/06 8:40 AM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Posted by Princessmaris
Im so sorry people would treat an innocent child this way....I know how much this must hurt you, but I think- you distancing yourself is the best thing... If they are not gonna add quality to your life, than why stress yourself with the drama?!
I totally agree. It's horrible they are taking their grief out on you. I feel bad for them, and especially for you for having to go through what they put you through.
Toxic people in our lives, whether they are family are not, do not deserve our attention.
You have your beautiful little girl, she is happy and healthy, enjoy her and move past their issues.
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| Posted 4/7/06 11:19 AM |
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Bxgell2
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It's such a sad, terrible situation. Hopefully, with time, they'll be able to see through their grief and understand how ridiculous they are being, and what a loss they are causing to themselves and to you and your daughter. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this during a time when you should be celebrating with your family
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| Posted 4/7/06 11:29 AM |
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