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Twin birthday dilemma!
So my twins had their party and got a few joint gifts and some individual, either way I don’t mind them sharing toys and I prefer it, thankfully their favorite things we have double of.... now my twins have been invited to their first birthday party for my friends 3year old. do I get a gift from each of them or one gift from both of them? Would I double the amount I’m spending if it’s joint? Like $25 from each for example?
This isn’t a close close friend, we are coworkers and work together daily for the last few years
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PregowithTwins
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Twin birthday dilemma!
Yes for my twins when they both go, I spend 40-50. As I believe anyone should if 2 kids attend any party.
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| Posted 1/19/18 5:12 PM |
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w8andsee
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
I would just get one gift from both kids and spend somewhere between $30-$40.
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| Posted 1/19/18 5:13 PM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Don’t have twins, but when my close in age kids are both invited... I get double the gift $40-50. Gift cards are good for this range if I don’t know the kid well.
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| Posted 1/19/18 6:55 PM |
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by nycgirl
Don’t have twins, but when my close in age kids are both invited... I get double the gift $40-50. Gift cards are good for this range if I don’t know the kid well.
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| Posted 1/19/18 9:02 PM |
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MrsT809
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Twin birthday dilemma!
I don't know if I'm just clueless, a cheapskate, or both but it would never occur to me to do this! I spend the same if one of my kids is invited to a party as I do if it's both. In my experience, our friends do the same. The last thing I need is double the stuff from one family!
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| Posted 1/19/18 9:11 PM |
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Thanks for the feedback! I knew I would eventually have to figure this out, just didn’t think so soon!!! I know most people try and be even with the twins and give them each a gift, which I’m sure they will prefer later on so I’ll get homething from each baby! Thanks!
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| Posted 1/19/18 9:14 PM |
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ChristinaM128
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
In the spirit of “covering” the cost of the per child expense of a party, I think you should give double what one would give (if it’s a gift gift you could try to cut some corners but if it’s a gift card, it should be double).
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| Posted 1/19/18 9:16 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by ChristinaM128
In the spirit of “covering” the cost of the per child expense of a party, I think you should give double what one would give (if it’s a gift gift you could try to cut some corners but if it’s a gift card, it should be double).
I agree with this.. and I would do one present from both, not a separate present from each. When we go to a family friend kid’s birthday party, we give one gift from all of us... not a gift from my DS, a gift from me, and a gift from my husband. This is no different, in my opinion.
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| Posted 1/19/18 9:24 PM |
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by ChristinaM128
In the spirit of “covering” the cost of the per child expense of a party, I think you should give double what one would give (if it’s a gift gift you could try to cut some corners but if it’s a gift card, it should be double).
I agree with this.. and I would do one present from both, not a separate present from each. When we go to a family friend kid’s birthday party, we give one gift from all of us... not a gift from my DS, a gift from me, and a gift from my husband. This is no different, in my opinion.
I agree. We had some siblings come to DD's party and most of the parents gave visibly larger gifts than the singleton kids.
You're more than ok with one gift!
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| Posted 1/19/18 9:33 PM |
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Dolphinsbaby
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
When my twins both go to a party, double the gift but it’s from both. Just like if one of them gets invited (and the other doesn’t-they are in different classes), I don’t give the same amount as if it’s both of them.
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| Posted 1/19/18 11:16 PM |
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Michi
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Twin birthday dilemma!
Yes, I always double the amount spent or give two things.
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| Posted 1/20/18 1:09 PM |
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
If both my kids go to a party I spend a little more on a gift but not double. For close family friends I spend $50 from the whole family.
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| Posted 1/21/18 6:11 AM |
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PurpleC
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
My DD recently got invited to a birthday party and I had to take my 3 kids to it. I spoke to the mom ahead of time and she was fine with it. I offered to pay and everything. I gave a gift card that was more than the amount if just my DD was going and I found a gift I was going to give my DD and just gave that as an extra gift.
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| Posted 1/21/18 11:13 AM |
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ap123
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by MrsT809
I don't know if I'm just clueless, a cheapskate, or both but it would never occur to me to do this! I spend the same if one of my kids is invited to a party as I do if it's both. In my experience, our friends do the same. The last thing I need is double the stuff from one family!
I agree, I never though if a kids birthday party as a cover your plate type of event. I could see spending an extra $5 or $10 but I wouldn’t spend double unless there was some specific item I thought they really would like. I’m sure the hosts don’t even think about who gives what. I just write it down for the purpose of thank you cards, but never really think about what the items cost.
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| Posted 1/21/18 11:47 AM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
I also have twins and have thought about this, for now since the parties are for family/close friends I dont worry about doubleing my gift, I spend what I would spend no matter two kids, one kid, or even no kid.
I think of it like if one friend has four kids an another has two I don't expect the family with 4 kids to get my kids a bigger present because I somewhere down the line bought more presents for their family. (Not sure if this is making sense in writing)
Maybe once school parties start I will either give two slightly smaller gift or one slightly larger gift.
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| Posted 1/21/18 3:42 PM |
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Twin birthday dilemma!
Now that my twins are in 1st grade they have a birthday party at least 2-3 times a month. If we did double the amount of gifts I would be broke. I usually give a $30 gift from both. I have never thought to cover the price. When they were little I would do double and friends told me I was crazy they go has a family they give one gift. If they go to a party alone when one twin isn’t invited I give a $20-$25 gift.
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| Posted 1/21/18 4:34 PM |
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Thanks for the feedback everyone!!! Since they are invited together I decided to spend $40 on a doll my friends daughter had wanted rather than doing 2 smaller like I originally was going to do. My friend is the most laid back person so I know she won’t think twice about them giving one gift!!
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by TwinMommyToBoys
Thanks for the feedback everyone!!! Since they are invited together I decided to spend $40 on a doll my friends daughter had wanted rather than doing 2 smaller like I originally was going to do. My friend is the most laid back person so I know she won’t think twice about them giving one gift!!
I don’t think anyone would think twice about that. We have siblings come to my son’s parties all the time (twins included) and we always receive one nice gift from both. The only thing that would stand out is giving nothing at all.
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| Posted 1/22/18 12:15 AM |
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Chai77
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I gave one more expensive gift (around $40) when both my boys were recently invited to a friend's birthday party. I wouldn't want double the stuff either, but I think with two attending, just giving one $20 gift doesn't seem right.
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| Posted 1/22/18 9:28 AM |
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ChristinaM128
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by TwinDani
Now that my twins are in 1st grade they have a birthday party at least 2-3 times a month. If we did double the amount of gifts I would be broke. I usually give a $30 gift from both. I have never thought to cover the price. When they were little I would do double and friends told me I was crazy they go has a family they give one gift. If they go to a party alone when one twin isn’t invited I give a $20-$25 gift.
I’m sorry but how is having twins different than if you had kids that were different ages that weren’t twins? Collectively you’d still be going to the same amount of parties, so in essence with what you’re doing now, aren’t you spending a lot less than the rest of us because you have twins? I spend $25 for each of dd1s classmates and $25 for each of dd2s classmates (they are 3 years apart) each and every year. And when my children go to the parties of twins, I spend $25 on each twin ($50 for the party). Why do the parents of twins get to “double dip”?
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| Posted 1/22/18 8:59 PM |
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by ChristinaM128
Posted by TwinDani
Now that my twins are in 1st grade they have a birthday party at least 2-3 times a month. If we did double the amount of gifts I would be broke. I usually give a $30 gift from both. I have never thought to cover the price. When they were little I would do double and friends told me I was crazy they go has a family they give one gift. If they go to a party alone when one twin isn’t invited I give a $20-$25 gift.
I’m sorry but how is having twins different than if you had kids that were different ages that weren’t twins? Collectively you’d still be going to the same amount of parties, so in essence with what you’re doing now, aren’t you spending a lot less than the rest of us because you have twins? I spend $25 for each of dd1s classmates and $25 for each of dd2s classmates (they are 3 years apart) each and every year. And when my children go to the parties of twins, I spend $25 on each twin ($50 for the party). Why do the parents of twins get to “double dip”?
But none of your scenarios really is what was asked about. If both your kids attend a party for one child, do you spend $50? Obviously everyone spends what they think is appropriate and what they choose and can afford. For me, if my kids are both invited I don't spend double. It honestly just never occurred to me and I know my friends and they need more toys as much as I do-which is not at all. So I spend the same as when one child is invited. No one is forcing you to spend 25 per child per party.
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| Posted 1/22/18 9:28 PM |
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by MrsT809
Posted by ChristinaM128
Posted by TwinDani
Now that my twins are in 1st grade they have a birthday party at least 2-3 times a month. If we did double the amount of gifts I would be broke. I usually give a $30 gift from both. I have never thought to cover the price. When they were little I would do double and friends told me I was crazy they go has a family they give one gift. If they go to a party alone when one twin isn’t invited I give a $20-$25 gift.
I’m sorry but how is having twins different than if you had kids that were different ages that weren’t twins? Collectively you’d still be going to the same amount of parties, so in essence with what you’re doing now, aren’t you spending a lot less than the rest of us because you have twins? I spend $25 for each of dd1s classmates and $25 for each of dd2s classmates (they are 3 years apart) each and every year. And when my children go to the parties of twins, I spend $25 on each twin ($50 for the party). Why do the parents of twins get to “double dip”?
But none of your scenarios really is what was asked about. If both your kids attend a party for one child, do you spend $50? Obviously everyone spends what they think is appropriate and what they choose and can afford. For me, if my kids are both invited I don't spend double. It honestly just never occurred to me and I know my friends and they need more toys as much as I do-which is not at all. So I spend the same as when one child is invited. No one is forcing you to spend 25 per child per party.
Yes, give what you can afford BUT if you have two children attending, you should gift more than if you have one child attending. My dds are 3 and 5. When one is invited to a party, i usually find a gift that is $20-25. When both are attending the same party, i gift a present that is $40-50, or find 2 separate gifts at $20-25 each.
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| Posted 1/23/18 7:30 AM |
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ChristinaM128
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by MrsT809
Posted by ChristinaM128
Posted by TwinDani
Now that my twins are in 1st grade they have a birthday party at least 2-3 times a month. If we did double the amount of gifts I would be broke. I usually give a $30 gift from both. I have never thought to cover the price. When they were little I would do double and friends told me I was crazy they go has a family they give one gift. If they go to a party alone when one twin isn’t invited I give a $20-$25 gift.
I’m sorry but how is having twins different than if you had kids that were different ages that weren’t twins? Collectively you’d still be going to the same amount of parties, so in essence with what you’re doing now, aren’t you spending a lot less than the rest of us because you have twins? I spend $25 for each of dd1s classmates and $25 for each of dd2s classmates (they are 3 years apart) each and every year. And when my children go to the parties of twins, I spend $25 on each twin ($50 for the party). Why do the parents of twins get to “double dip”?
But none of your scenarios really is what was asked about. If both your kids attend a party for one child, do you spend $50? Obviously everyone spends what they think is appropriate and what they choose and can afford. For me, if my kids are both invited I don't spend double. It honestly just never occurred to me and I know my friends and they need more toys as much as I do-which is not at all. So I spend the same as when one child is invited. No one is forcing you to spend 25 per child per party.
$25 is an arbitrary number. I know most people spend between 18 and 25, knowing you spend what you are able. Let’s not get hung up on the 25. The point is, I don’t understand why you’d spend what you would as if one child is going when you have two going. I could theoretically have both my dds going to 2 separate parties on the same day - I wouldn’t spend 50% less on each gift... two kids going to a party = 2 gift VALUES whether it be presented as one big gift or 2 separate.
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| Posted 1/23/18 9:25 AM |
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Budjeg11
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Re: Twin birthday dilemma!
Posted by ChristinaM128
Posted by MrsT809
Posted by ChristinaM128
Posted by TwinDani
Now that my twins are in 1st grade they have a birthday party at least 2-3 times a month. If we did double the amount of gifts I would be broke. I usually give a $30 gift from both. I have never thought to cover the price. When they were little I would do double and friends told me I was crazy they go has a family they give one gift. If they go to a party alone when one twin isn’t invited I give a $20-$25 gift.
I’m sorry but how is having twins different than if you had kids that were different ages that weren’t twins? Collectively you’d still be going to the same amount of parties, so in essence with what you’re doing now, aren’t you spending a lot less than the rest of us because you have twins? I spend $25 for each of dd1s classmates and $25 for each of dd2s classmates (they are 3 years apart) each and every year. And when my children go to the parties of twins, I spend $25 on each twin ($50 for the party). Why do the parents of twins get to “double dip”?
But none of your scenarios really is what was asked about. If both your kids attend a party for one child, do you spend $50? Obviously everyone spends what they think is appropriate and what they choose and can afford. For me, if my kids are both invited I don't spend double. It honestly just never occurred to me and I know my friends and they need more toys as much as I do-which is not at all. So I spend the same as when one child is invited. No one is forcing you to spend 25 per child per party.
$25 is an arbitrary number. I know most people spend between 18 and 25, knowing you spend what you are able. Let’s not get hung up on the 25. The point is, I don’t understand why you’d spend what you would as if one child is going when you have two going. I could theoretically have both my dds going to 2 separate parties on the same day - I wouldn’t spend 50% less on each gift... two kids going to a party = 2 gift VALUES whether it be presented as one big gift or 2 separate.
Because in one scenario the gift is for one child and in the other scenario you are talking about a gift for two different kids. I dont think its a twin or not twin question. A lot of time you have non-twin siblings that have a joint party too. Just as you can have non twin siblings both attend the same party. Personally, I do not double my gift depending on whether I have one or both of my DD"s attending a party. I base it on how close I am to the person. Generally If I am closer to the person they will know both my girls and so both will be invited and I will give a bigger gift bc i am close to the person (not bc i have two kids going). If its a classmate then I usually give a smaller gift and as it turns out since its a classmate only my DD who is in the class will be invited. The only time I would give a bigger gift is for say a classmate where I asked if I could bring my second DD-- which i dont like to do but have done on one or two occasions - in that case I would give a bigger gift bc i feel like I am imposing by bringing a second child who was technically not invited.
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