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Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

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skygirl
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Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

My mom who is not well mentally is starting her shenanigans.
She wants me to take her to the hospital but before we go wants to get her hair doneChat Icon - I asked her if she was going to the EMmys or the hospital
She also asked me to pick her up some new sweats and when I told her I did she asked what colors and did they match.Chat Icon
Every time there is a holiday coming up she starts talking about suicide- its so predictible.( Long history)
DH says that she is looking for attention and sympathy - it really is SO draining. My whole life we have had this song and dance.
It shou;d be interesting todayChat Icon


To top it off, my friend is having surgery today to remove a cyst on her thyroidChat Icon

Sorry to be a downer just had to ventChat Icon

Message edited 11/16/2005 8:25:59 AM.

Posted 11/15/05 9:02 AM
 
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Marcie
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)

I am sorry you have to go through this.

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Posted 11/15/05 9:56 AM
 

IluvBo
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)

I perfectly understand what you are going through. I went through this with my father for years. He finally got so bad we had him committed and it was the best thing we could have ever done. The doctors realized that he was being over medicated and not properly medicated and that his psychiatrist was just patching up the problems without fixing them. Then the drs. at the hospital referred us to this amazing psychiatrist and my father has been amazing the last 1 1/2 years. We no longer run to the ER, he's no longer talking about suicide (which he attempted and failed) and I think he's enjoying his life now (well to the best of their ability when you suffer from depression).

If you need someone to talk to............just FM me. I'd be more than happy to lend an ear, a shoulder and my heart.

Good luck.

Message edited 11/15/2005 10:06:59 AM.

Posted 11/15/05 10:02 AM
 

pkashansky
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)

I work as a social worker on the psychiatric unit of a major hospital. Just a couple of thoughts. The number one time that most patients come in is the holidays. Why? because people feel so much pressure as to where to go, what to do, and how they feel. I think it is perfectly normla to have some stress but for some people it becomes so overwhelming. The good news is this..despite feeling down she is still on this "looking good" binge and keeping things in order which clearly shows that she is not suicidal. My advice, maybe she needs a break but most of all she should see a GOOD therapist outside of the hospital who can show her how to control her emotions without letting them get the best of her. Dont feel down, There are alot of people in your situation. There are support groups for people who have family members with mental illness. Not for them but for you.
Good luck to you. If u need any info FM me.

Posted 11/15/05 1:58 PM
 

Redhead
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sorry you are going through this
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Posted 11/15/05 5:27 PM
 

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Posted 11/15/05 6:22 PM
 

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I am sorry you have to deal with this.

Posted 11/15/05 10:34 PM
 

BCK1029
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)

I'm sorry for you! Sounds like a really bad day.

Would you be willing to do some family counseling with her? Maybe you could break the cycle - it sounds like it causes you a lot of stress.


Hope all goes well.

Posted 11/16/05 12:34 AM
 

skygirl
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)

Thanks everyone for your support.

I took her to the hospital where she signed herself in and I am hoping that she gets something out of it and stops treating it as a spa.Chat Icon

We have been going through this my whole life and she has been getting worse over the years.

The only time I don't worry about her is when she is in the hospital. I am praying that she has some kind of breakthrough.

BTW- her psychiatrist ***** I have seen such a decline the past 9 or 10 yrs my mom has been seeing her. My mom worships herChat Icon .

I would go to counseling with her - I will ask the hospital about it. I am glad I was there when she was admitted so that she couldn't manipulate the Dr.s - I kind of gave them the WHOLE truth and it was documented.

PS- My friends surgery went well

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Posted 11/16/05 8:25 AM
 

MsMa
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- (vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

I know mental illness is so hard I can't even imagine what and how it is like growing up with this. I just wanted to offer my support & Chat Icon

I hope your mom gets the help she needs.

Posted 11/16/05 8:36 AM
 

Janice
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

Chat Icon Chat Icon We deal with this as well. There is no winning, DH and I always feel guilty, and it seems like the family member is never happy with our actions at all. This family member is ALWAYS dying, and says no one cares.

It is hard, but you are not alone.

Posted 11/16/05 9:45 AM
 

dandr10199
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

Posted by skygirl

My mom who is not well mentally is starting her shenanigans.
She wants me to take her to the hospital but before we go wants to get her hair doneChat Icon - I asked her if she was going to the EMmys or the hospital
She also asked me to pick her up some new sweats and when I told her I did she asked what colors and did they match.Chat Icon
Every time there is a holiday coming up she starts talking about suicide- its so predictible.( Long history)
DH says that she is looking for attention and sympathy - it really is SO draining. My whole life we have had this song and dance.
It shou;d be interesting todayChat Icon


To top it off, my friend is having surgery today to remove a cyst on her thyroidChat Icon

Sorry to be a downer just had to ventChat Icon



You are not alone. My mom is like this as well; she has been this way since I was five years old and got worse after my parent's divorce. She has mental and physcial stuff going on all the time. It is so sad because all I want is not be my mother's parent, and I am.
I have set boundaries now and I do not take her to the hospital anymore or visit when she is in there. I know it sounds horrible, but I don't end up feeling sad, angry, and manipulated after a hospital visit. I have come to terms that my mom will never be what I always wanted her to be and that's OK. Although I do love her very much and her illness breaks my heart, I need to live my life. I hope this helps. You are in my prayers. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 11/16/05 12:00 PM
 

skygirl
Our prayers were answered:)

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Erica

Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

Posted by dandr10199

I have come to terms that my mom will never be what I always wanted her to be and that's OK. Although I do love her very much and her illness breaks my heart, I need to live my life. I hope this helps. You are in my prayers. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon





I am sorry that you know first hand exactly what I am dealing with. You sound exactly like me with your feelings and how to cope with your mom.
Thanks for sharing your experience and it ***** that you & I share this type of drama.


Janice, your statement nails it as well- soirry you are contending with a situation like this too. "always kiling themself & no one cares"----( rolleyes here)

I want anyone on this board to know that I will be here for any & all of you that have to deal with this kind of stress in your lives.

I always say it---- you can only pick your friends- not your family.Chat Icon Chat Icon

Thanks again everyoneChat Icon

Message edited 11/16/2005 1:31:33 PM.

Posted 11/16/05 1:29 PM
 

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Posted 11/16/05 4:27 PM
 

Janice
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

Posted by skygirl


I always say it---- you can only pick your friends- not your family.Chat Icon Chat Icon



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Message edited 11/16/2005 6:05:22 PM.

Posted 11/16/05 4:58 PM
 

dm24angel
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

WOW! You girls facing this similair ordeals really are very very very strong women. I cant imagine whatyou go through and I commend you for being so strong.

I feel for you all , and will pray all your family members getthe help they need. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 11/16/05 6:47 PM
 

MamaNDaddyof3
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Posted 11/16/05 6:50 PM
 

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Posted 11/16/05 10:03 PM
 

pkashansky
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

I just had a small thought...
do u think that if you werent available to take her to the hospital and made it her responsibility to call the ambulance she would go less frequently? I was just thinking that maybe she feels less responsible for admitting her to a hospital then if u did it for her? Does this make any sense? I was just thinking of ways it wouldnt be so hard for you. I think its important that she knows u r there for her which u seem to have already accomplished. I think I read a previos post about a good psychiatrist. I would take advantage of that bc I have worked with some real bad ones in the hospital even if she is getting used to them.
History with a DR doesnt always bring success. I also think most of these meds r trial and error. Its about getting them right.

Posted 11/17/05 2:08 PM
 

iffer042373
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Re: Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

I am so sorry your going through this

I am glad your friends surgery went well

all I can offer you is Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon and Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon i hope that helps

Posted 11/17/05 3:09 PM
 

lvdolphins
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Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon I am so sorry you have to deal with this.

Posted 11/19/05 12:31 PM
 
 

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