Those PG with Baby #2...

I just can't get myself to get excited yet about Baby #2. I am really right now dealing with sad emotions and I don't know if this is normal.

I keep looking at Andrew and feeling like I am going to miss out on so much with him. All the fun we have and time we spend together. And our relationship will change.

He is my little buddy. I love him to death!!!!

Is this normal? I am starting to get worried that I have some sort of PG depression or something.

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Totally normal. I felt like that too. I was just loving the independence (well some) that my DD had. All the places we were able to go so easily now. I remember being sad that our summer would be ruined.

Never got to excited about my pg, but I am LOVING his infancy. I still am sad but I am just finding other things that I can do with her and still bring him. Like today I took her bowling. It was easy to have him there.

Don't worry. It's also a lot of work with the first one and you are so busy it's not like before were you had enough down time to savior every moment of your PG. My favorite times in my pg were in the car or late at night when it was quiet and I could concentrate on the kicks. I loved it then, but when it got to the point where it became hard for me to pick up my daughter I would get sad again.

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What you are feeling is so normal. I felt like this while preg with #2 up until the day I had her and I held her. As soon as I heard that first cry and she was on me ( i had a c-sect) all my feelings changed.

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Totally normal- DD was a "surprise" - DS was only 8 months old when I got pregnant. At first I was very upset- mostly about how I was going to cope and how I would have to take attention away from DS. I won't lie- its hard. But I have fallen completely in love with DD- I can't imagine life without her. It will be okay- and you are giving your children the gift of a sibling!

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Thank you all soo much!!!! You really made me feel so much better I am glad to know I am not alone and that these feelings are normal

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Totally, totally normal. I don't want to say that I didn't enjoy my second pregnancy but a majority of the times I forgot that I was even pregnant. I was working full time then coming home to take care of Alex and by the time I went to bed that was the only time I was able to relax and think about my baby. It is really hard and definitely a different experience the second time around. You'll be fine though

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Totally normal, I felt the same way in the begining and would call my DH up at work all the time crying! Then I guess my hormones got a little better and I started to feel happy about having another baby, then when I had my DS I felt guilty again about not having that closeness with Julia and how I miss our time together and started crying again--lol That soon passed after a few weeks......

Now I feel so much better and I'm so happy to have 2 wonderful kids, I wouldn't change anything!

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I am starting to feel the same way. I am torn because I am glad that DC #1 will have a sibling close in age, but at the same time I worry if I am shortchanging DC #1 for the sake of having another baby. I am sure it will work out for the best, and DC#1 is such a good baby that I could not ask for a better situation.

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It's good to know that's normal because I feel the same way too...

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I'm almost 38 weeks and feel soooooooooooo guilty for still feeling the same way! Just know you are giving him a sibling...he might need time to adjust but will be so grateful for it later on in life! That's what I keep telling myself. I feel like I've already neglected DS in my belly because of the guilt . But I am super excited to meet him now and hold him and kiss him and keep saying I'll involve DD as much as I can and hopefully everyone will adjust nicely!

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I definitely went through this in the beginnig, then it went away. But, now that will be here very, very soon, the feelings have come back. I know that DS will be a great big brother and I'm not that sure he's going to completely feel left out once the new baby is here. I guess I fear that too! But, I know I have room to love both children and that it will be an adjustment. Ok, now I getting sappy just thinkng about it!

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Your DS will be thrilled to have a new 24-7 playmate! My sister and I are 18 months apart, and my mom always tells me how happy I was when she brought the baby home

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What your feeling is totally normal.

I feel alittle different...I'm totally excited for #2 but really worried about the exhaustion that is going to come w/having 2 under 2. But I feel like I'm doing DS a good thing, by giving him a playmate, and although I won't have much 1 on 1 time with him anymore, he'll have a baby brother or sister to share his life with.

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I remember how excited you were knowing that you were going to TTC. You seemed so anxious for baby #2. Now that you are pg it is totally normal to feel the way you do. You will eventually get over it. You will NOT miss out on your first son. You are giving him a sibling....no gift could ever compare.

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I have the same internal struggle- My DS is our world and we tried for him very hard after many years of IF and keep getting feelings of guilt that attention won't soley be on him after baby #2 arrives (which also came after more IF battles and 2 IVF's later)...But then I always remember a quote I once read-

" Love multiplies, not divides"

And thats what makes me feel better- I also know that giving my DS a sibling is a gift beyond compare and the thought of them growing up together melts my heart- So, what you are feeling is 100% normal

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I am glad I am not alone

I am so not ready for DD#2 to be here in 10 weeks We have not painted Hayley's new room yet...getting that new room together is going to be such a project

I feel bad because I feel like I am neglecting Hayley because I am either too tired to do something with her or I just can't physically do something. I feel like I am always saying watch mommy's belly.

Plus she has been giving me a run for my money lately...the terrible two's are in overdrive that I am scared how I am going to be able to handle her and a newborn.

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Totally normal...both my husband and I have gone through this....but we keep on telling ourselves how different we will feel as soon as this baby is born.

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I often feel the same way...................

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I totally felt the same way, then i fmed another mom of 2 under 2 and she told me she felt the same and how great its going to be for your dc to have someone to grow up with and all the other excitting experiences we will have.. Now i still get upset but not nearly as bad as i was. Just knowing others feel the same made a world of a difference.

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Posted by 5ofClubs

I just can't get myself to get excited yet about Baby #2. I am really right now dealing with sad emotions and I don't know if this is normal.

I keep looking at Andrew and feeling like I am going to miss out on so much with him. All the fun we have and time we spend together. And our relationship will change.

He is my little buddy. I love him to death!!!!

Is this normal? I am starting to get worried that I have some sort of PG depression or something.

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I remember stressing about this so much when I was pg with Cassidy. In my mind, there was no way I would ever love her as much as I did Scotty...he was my little man, my angel.

Trust me though, it just HAPPENS!!!

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Thank goodness you posted this, I really thought I was the only one. I am excited to have another baby, but I look at my baby now and I just love him so much. I don't want to take anything away from him or be unfair to him. And I know that my heart will grow so that I can love baby #2 as much, but right now I can't imagine loving someone as much as him. I am not sad per say, but it is just different.