The Annoying Question??

What do you say (or how do you feel) when people in your life approach you and ask the annoying personal question "soooo...when are you guys going to have a baby?" or for those who have a child already...."soooo...when are you going to have #2?"

I find that latley this is asked of us all the time...at work and at family events. I find it to be a very sensitive question to ask someone. I never know how to respond to it. I usually just smile and say "one day". But I really feel like responding with something that makes them feel really uncomfortable

Message edited 9/13/2010 11:08:54 AM.

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I wish people could have some decency and not be so intrusive...

I was eating peanut butter out of the jar at work like 2 weeks ago... i do it as a snack in between meals... our receptionist is VERY nosy and shes like... ohh what are you pregnant....

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Yea, people dont see to realize how irratating that truly is. When I get asked that I just usually smile and say "One day" but yes I do sometimes feel like saying something for cruel

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No one knows we are ttc; we have basically given everyone around us the idea that we don't want children so no one asks....works for me

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I just always tell people "we're working on it " Honestly it doesn't bother me.

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We were asked that more before we had our first although it was only a month and a half before we were pregnant it didn't get that bad. Now people are starting to ask about #2 and I don't really mind the question.

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DH's b*tchy drunk aunt asked me this yesterday. she also proceeded to tell me I should have gotten pregnant in my early 20s like she did because it's so much easier, and now DH and I are going to be old parents. Not that she even knew me then since that was like 10 years ago.

I felt like being "oh really? and should I also have gotten divorced twice and become a miserable *****?" just to see if she'd get it.

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I used to look down at my flat belly and then look up and say "Not today I guess".

I'm at the point now though where my comments might be a little less humorous.

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Posted by Shelleybean11

I just always tell people "we're working on it " Honestly it doesn't bother me.

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I never know what to say especially that we are having trouble. It doesn't really bother me but I wish I had the nerve to ask something intrusive back like
"I don't know but When's your next colonoscopy?" or something

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Posted by CloudNine

Posted by Shelleybean11

I just always tell people "we're working on it " Honestly it doesn't bother me.

i say the same

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It never bothered me until we had a m/c. Now I will NEVER ask another couple that question because it's so personal and such a sensitive subject!! I usually find a way to politely change the subject, but recently I responded to a coworker who thnks everyone in the world should be pregnant with her... I said, when Im ready, I will let you know. Until then, I'd love to talk about something else. Let's hope she gets the hint!

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I just say when god decides to give me one

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Well I am very open. It does not bother me to tell people, it is my personality though and can totally understand why people would mind. If we were having problems conceiving though I would prob not share that with anyone but close people.

I sometimes find it annoying when people get aggresive. Like my moms friend who is always telling me to "have a baby already" Im 28, r e l a x!

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omg... I know what you mean. I feel like as soon as I started dating my now DH everyone asked when are you getting engaged, after we were engaged it was when are you getting married, and immediately after that when are you having a baby. Now it has gotten out of control we are ttc this month after a miscarriage over the summer but people talk to me like what is my problem... "why would you get marrried if your going to wait so long to have a baby" jeeze people that isn't the only reason to get married and relax! after the mc it really bothers me because of course I want a baby and some people that knew it happened still asked me when are you going to try again! UUUHHHGG... have a little bit of manners people!
sorry but I totally agree that is an annoying question!

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Depends who's asking honestly.
Some of my friends know that we're trying (the ones who stalk me on here, you know who you are )
DH's extended family is very open and public with everything. They will walk up to me and rub my belly and ask if there's a baby in there yet, and if not, what are we waiting for? It doesn't bother me because I know that it's love talking. Last time I saw them they asked (about 3 weeks ago) and I told them "we're working on it". I am more comfortable with them than I am with my own family - and that's the truth. No one in my family knows we are trying because frankly I think they will be really annoying about it. They'll find out later... maybe when I'm around 12 weeks...on Facebook.

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Just say something like "When God says so"

People are so nosy. My mother in law is always hinting and I feel like asking her to buy us a house so we have room for a baby.