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BabyAvocado
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Sticky situations
What do you do when friend A trashes friend B to you? Let's say you are much closer to friend A. Friend A & B are really really close with each other.
Let's assume you agree with what friend A is saying about friend B.
Do you agree with friend A and basically join in the trashfest? Do you defend friend B? Do you just keep your mouth shut and listen and not really agree or disagree because you know that ultimately they are closer with each other than you are to friend A?
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baghag
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Re: Sticky situations
Posted by BabyAvocado
Do you just keep your mouth shut and listen and not really agree or disagree because you know that ultimately they are closer with each other than you are to friend A?
I'd go that route.
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| Posted 11/29/05 9:23 AM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Sticky situations
This, unfortunately, happens with my group of friends a lot. I try to play devils advocate as best I can with whatever the problem is between my two friends, even if I agree with the situation. And I always tell whomever is trashing to work it out with the other person. We're all pretty good at confronting each other.
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| Posted 11/29/05 9:25 AM |
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Christine
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Re: Sticky situations
I would stay completely out of it. I would ask the person complaining to respect your friendship with the other person.
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| Posted 11/29/05 9:25 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: Sticky situations
I think sometimes venting to a friend about another is normal
But if it is really mean that is different
IMO either way if you want to stay friends with both
stay out of it.
I have been contemplating this very issue lately. I know someone who badmouthed a few people actually and out of spite i think about telling them...
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| Posted 11/29/05 9:25 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Sticky situations
I'd like to say that I wouldn't join in but I've never been one to not voice my opinion - good or bad. I would probably balance it out with pointing out Friend B's good qualities.
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| Posted 11/29/05 9:26 AM |
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Re: Sticky situations
Posted by baghag
Posted by BabyAvocado
Do you just keep your mouth shut and listen and not really agree or disagree because you know that ultimately they are closer with each other than you are to friend A?
I'd go that route.
I'd second this....
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| Posted 11/29/05 9:27 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Sticky situations
This is an ongoing thing... it's not a fight that they are having, I guess it's more of a vent, like Red said. Because it's always like "I love Friend B to death, you know that, but she is such a B!tch because she...blah blah"
That makes it hard to stay out of, because it's constant.
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| Posted 11/29/05 9:35 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: Sticky situations
Posted by BabyAvocado
This is an ongoing thing... it's not a fight that they are having, I guess it's more of a vent, like Red said. Because it's always like "I love Friend B to death, you know that, but she is such a B!tch because she...blah blah"
That makes it hard to stay out of, because it's constant.
maybe then contront the venting friend
and tell her you are not into hearing her badmouth the other friend all the time
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| Posted 11/29/05 9:38 AM |
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unknown1
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Re: Sticky situations
Posted by Redhead
I think sometimes venting to a friend about another is normal
But if it is really mean that is different
IMO either way if you want to stay friends with both
stay out of it.
I have been contemplating this very issue lately. I know someone who badmouthed a few people actually and out of spite i think about telling them...
STAY OUT OF IT ... my best advice I can give you ....
Red I sooooooo understand I get spiteful like that to sometimes
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:27 PM |
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MrsJ
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Re: Sticky situations
I just listen and do a lot of "uh huh" and "oh I see" and that kind of thing. I try not to take sides whether I agree or not because I don't want it coming back to haunt me later!
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:42 PM |
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Re: Sticky situations
Posted by MrsJ
I just listen and do a lot of "uh huh" and "oh I see" and that kind of thing. I try not to take sides whether I agree or not because I don't want it coming back to haunt me later!
ditto!
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| Posted 11/29/05 6:19 PM |
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04bride
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Re: Sticky situations
Posted by BabyAvocado
What do you do when friend A trashes friend B to you? Let's say you are much closer to friend A. Friend A & B are really really close with each other.
Let's assume you agree with what friend A is saying about friend B.
Do you agree with friend A and basically join in the trashfest? Do you defend friend B? Do you just keep your mouth shut and listen and not really agree or disagree because you know that ultimately they are closer with each other than you are to friend A?
wow you are living my life i go throgh thsi ALL the time.
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| Posted 11/29/05 6:41 PM |
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