spoiling a newborn??

Ok..so i mentioned today that our GI doc said having the baby sleep on my chest is a bad habit to get him out of now.(he's a week old today and colicky at nites).

he wont stay in the bassinet long, even when swaddled as he wakes himself up in a crying fit. The GI dr. said to let him cry...let him know we are there and havent abandonded him, try to soothe him, but ultimately leave him in the bassinet. I dont know--im torn. I have to ask the pediatrician about this.

during the day he eats, maybe gets a bit fussy but tends to fall asleep until his next feeding. the nite comes and the colic starts. I do have it down now where i get him up on me and rock him in the glider and he calms down pretty quickly and back to sleep.

is there such a thing as spoiling a newborn. I feel llike this is the time where he should be held, comforted and it will kill me tonite to try to get him in the bassinett and hear him scream. i'll be crying too :(

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No such thing as spoiling a newborn.
I let DS sleep on me for the 1st 3 mos of life and he is still a great sleeper. Do what YOU feel is right

ETA - Do you have a swing for naps? That helped me tremendously!

Message edited 10/29/2009 7:23:14 PM.

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I am sorry but your GI doc sucks You should not let a one week old baby cry - if they cry pick them up. They are crying for a reason - its the only way they know how to communicate with you right now.

Could you try wearing the baby in a sling?

Please dont listen to your GI doc - he or she is totally wrong on this matter.

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There is no such thing as spoiling a newborn! So spoil away! lolol

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That is ridiculous advice for your doctor to give. You have a nb and a nb in pain and he says to let him cry? Assss in my opinion.

Hold him, cuddle him, let him sleep on you. Whatever works in the beginning

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Posted by beachgirl

I am sorry but your GI doc sucks You should not let a one week old baby cry - if they cry pick them up. They are crying for a reason - its the only way they know how to communicate with you right now.

Could you try wearing the baby in a sling?

Please dont listen to your GI doc - he or she is totally wrong on this matter.

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Posted by SweetTooth

Posted by beachgirl

I am sorry but your GI doc sucks You should not let a one week old baby cry - if they cry pick them up. They are crying for a reason - its the only way they know how to communicate with you right now.

Could you try wearing the baby in a sling?

Please dont listen to your GI doc - he or she is totally wrong on this matter.

ITA. Whomever would tell you to let a one week old cry has no heart.

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Posted by Peainapod

Posted by SweetTooth

Posted by beachgirl

I am sorry but your GI doc sucks You should not let a one week old baby cry - if they cry pick them up. They are crying for a reason - its the only way they know how to communicate with you right now.

Could you try wearing the baby in a sling?

Please dont listen to your GI doc - he or she is totally wrong on this matter.

ITA. Whomever would tell you to let a one week old cry has no heart.

I know he's not in pain..its the colic. but i do pick him up, rock him, soothe him etc..then try to get him back in his bouncy or even the car seat b/c he seems to like that..LOL.

The GI doc said the sleeping part we're spoiling him. but im like..gees he's a week old..not 4 KWIM?

i have a baby bjorn carrier but i think babies need to have good neck control for that right? im not sure if i should put a 1week old in that. but u know in a few weeks now that im home on leave, i may try that around the house.

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Hold your baby! You can NOT spoil a newborn...No Way!

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I don't think you can spoil a newborn. They are so tiny and need to be held.

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what is causing his colic? Does he have acid reflux?

poor thing, I say hold him all you can but I know with KJ, he would cry even when I held him so I would hold him and let him cry and try to soothe him

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Diana - keep in mind that for a newborn, having colic is the same ting as being in pain. he's uncomfortable and needs you to comfort him. if that means letting him sleep in the infant carrier swing, or on you, that's perfectly okay

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My ped said that newborns can't be spoiled! He also said to never let my ds have a real full blwon crying fit at this age...I little bit of whining here and there, but letting them get themselves really worked up will just make them physically feel worse. I will soothe and hold my baby when he is crying because he only really cries when he has gas pains, but ultimitaly put him down to go to sleep. There are times he sleeps on my chest but I try not to make a habit out of it bc I'm afraid of falling into a deep sleep!

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As I said in your other post, your GI doctor is wrong. You cannot spoil a newborn. Some babies need to be held a lot. They spent 9 months nice and snuggled in your womb. It makes sense that they want to be held and feel secure. You're not forming bad habits. Newborns are not capable of self soothing. Letting them CIO doesn't teach them anything. By responding to their cries, you help build a trust relationship.

DS wanted to be held 24/7 as a newborn. He slept in my arms b/c he'd get hysterical if I put him down. He became more independent by 3 months. It was tough, but that was what he needed.