spinoff to proposals at weddings

how would you feel if someone announced at the wedding that they were pregnant with their first child? like a sibling or cousin. do you think it would pull attention away from the bride and groom? would you be upset if that happened at your wedding?

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Yes, yes and yes. Annocements like that should wait until the next day or any other time that it wont take away from

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It think that is rude as well.

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Posted by JennZ

Yes, yes and yes. Annocements like that should wait until the next day or any other time that it wont take away from

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just as rude as a proposal---its like they are saying "omg this day is yours but i really want it to be for meeeeeeeeeeeeeee"

of all the freaking days to announce something like that---you pick that one. its almost passive agressive to me. some ppl would say "but everyone's all together...perfect time" yeah they are all together on the bride & groom's time & dime.....if you want the family together for that---host your own damn party!

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Absolutely.

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i would be angry

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I would be thrilled for the expectant couple and would probably take the mic from the DJ to announce the pregnancy if the couple would let me!

My wedding was great - I had plenty of spotlight and I wouldn't have minded sharing it at all. It would be great to talk about years down the road. "We found out your mom and dad were pregnant with you on our wedding day!"

ETA: Although I would not mind as a bride - I would never announce any news on someone elses wedding day, engagement party, baby shower, etc... because I am very low key and would prefer to have any kind of news spread out quietly and in a less overt manner. Plus I recognize that a lot of women truly enjoy their moment in the sun and would be upset/offended if their spotlight was moved a bit.

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I think it's just mean, and an obvious attempt to steal someone else's thunder. I mean really, you can't wait one more day to make your announcement?!

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Wow girls. I guess I'm mean.

DH and I got engaged a week before my sister's a wedding. At their rehersal dinner, we didn't say anything, but they announced it. I even debated whether or not I should wear my ring and my sister thought I was crazy (of course wear it).

At my sister's wedding, people asked when DH and I were getting engaged, so I told them we just did. Some others saw the ring on my hand. It really wasn't a big deal at all. I didn't "steal" any thunder from my sister. The day was all about her and Dh.


ETA: Maybe we are just a different family. I don't think anyone has ever been upset by someone else "Stealing the spotlight". My cousing in Fl brought his newborn baby to my wedding and it was the first time our family met her. I didn't think it was "Stealing" my thunder. My only concern was that the baby would cry during the ceremony (the mom took the baby out during the ceremony). It didn't bother me that for a little while people were focusing on someone other than me.

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I think it completely depends on the person and your relationship with them (and their intent )

For the most part, Im all for saying happy bday, happy anniversary, happy whatever at any time. combining parties, etc.

but for the most part, I thnink something like this would be a bit rude, my first reaction.

But then another extreme. I know someone who refused to bring her daughter (maybe a year old?) to her sister's bridal shower because a cute baby would take away from the bride now THAT I thought was way extreme. The child was the bride's niece !!

(and then again Im in the minority on the topic of children at parties
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i think its rude too... it can wait for another day! the bride and groom deserve ALL the attention!!

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I would also be thrilled for the new expectant parents....

To me, our wedding wasn't about us being in a spotlight, it was about celebrating family, and the expansion of our family lineage.....

IMO, it would have been great if that also happened

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I actually had my cousin's wife share the news that they were pregnant at our Welcome Dinner (like a Rehearsal Dinner, just no rehearsal )

BUT ...

* She pulled me over on the side to tell me before she told anyone, to ask if I would mind her telling people.

* My Uncle (her FIL) has ALS, and our family really needs to celebrate all the good & happy things we can right now. Hopefully he will get to be a Grandpa & meet his grandchild before his condition gets even worse.

* It was the only time the whole family would be seeing each other for a long long time

* They didn't make a BIG DEAL about it ... there was no GRAND ANNOUNCEMENT .... they just quietly told a few people, brought it up in conversation.

And I have to say, given all the above circumstances, DH & I were totally ok with them sharing their news. They were very tasteful & tactful with the way they went about sharing the news.

Also, it was the Welcome Dinner and not the Wedding Day. I don't know if that would have made a difference to me if it was our wedding day .... because of the circumstances, I probably would have been ok with it.

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i think its kind of rude, my SIL did it at my wedding.

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rude

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Posted by rojerono

I would be thrilled for the expectant couple and would probably take the mic from the DJ to announce the pregnancy if the couple would let me!

My wedding was great - I had plenty of spotlight and I wouldn't have minded sharing it at all. It would be great to talk about years down the road. "We found out your mom and dad were pregnant with you on our wedding day!"

ETA: Although I would not mind as a bride - I would never announce any news on someone elses wedding day, engagement party, baby shower, etc... because I am very low key and would prefer to have any kind of news spread out quietly and in a less overt manner. Plus I recognize that a lot of women truly enjoy their moment in the sun and would be upset/offended if their spotlight was moved a bit.

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grrrrrr, I would be soo mad!!!!

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I don't know how, when or why, but somehow weddings morphed from a family/village/town celebration, to a day in which all focus should be placed on the bride, and sometimes, the groom. It's warped thinking to me, I mean, really the whole point of a wedding is to get all the family and friends together in one big room and CELEBRATE together as a family, not so that one or two people can have a day where they expect every bit of focus be on them for 6 hours.

I would have been beyond ecstatic if my family or friends announced their engagement or pregnancy at my wedding - all the MORE reason to celebrate and be happy together.

And, seriously, does anyone REALLY believe that someone announcing their pregnancy or engagement is going to "distract" their guests? And even if it does, it's like 10 minutes, at most. Is it THAT big of a deal in the grand scheme of things? There are people on this planet who would KILL to have this as their biggest problem in life.