Spinoff to grandma's name question

Did you decide what your children would call your mother (or MIL)? My mom passed away and all my DD has is my MIL. She always refers to herself as G.G. (for Grandma Gerry -- since all the other grandchildren have multiple grandmothers) but since mine will only have her, I really want DD to call her Grandma. I feel like I want her to know SOMEBODY as Grandma. Is this wrong? Should I just have DD call her what the other kids do? I have never discussed this with MIL, but anytime we are around her, we refer to her as "Grandma". She has never said "I would rather be called GG". I just don't know how to handle this.

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If she's heard you say Grandma and hasn't said anything I would assume it doesn't bother her. If it does what about a compromise of calling her Grandma GG?

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Growing up, I really only knew my maternal grandparents. (My fathers parents lived way out in AZ and passed when I was young.) I called my grandmother "Nana" (and still do -she's 87). I did not know anyone else that called their grandmother this while I was growing up, and I loved that my grandmother had this special "unique" name that no one else used.

On another note, my sister and I called my maternal grandfather "Papa" (as did most of the other grandchildren.) However, when my aunt had children, her husband wanted to be called "Papa" so her children are the only ones that called him "grandpa." It was a little weird that they didn't call him the same thing.

Your children will love their grandparents no matter what they call them. And I think that it's really cute that they have a unique name for their grandmother. But you also have to do what feels right. I hope that my experiences have given you a different perspective.

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Personally I think your MIL should be able to choose what she wants to be called. I'm guessing that your DD will end up knowing both "Grandma" and "G.G." as names.

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I understand where you are coming from. My MIL refuses to acknowledge she is older enough to be a grandma and wants to be called me-ma. We already told her no way, she will be called grandma. We always address her as grandma, even though DD is only 2 months old, that's all she hears, MIL has not pressed the issue. Personally DH and I just don't like the way "nicknames" like me-ma sound. I can't picture Gianna at 16 years old calling her grandma me-ma.

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