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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
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I personally could not let my dh work 2 or 3 jobs or tons of hours JUST so I could stay home.
I'm not here to insult anyone, but just stating how that would not work for my family. Thanks.
I think for every couple it is different. DH I agreed well before we had our son that we both grew up in homes with SAHMs and that it was very important for us to do the same.
We rather sacrafice - either by him working lots of hours, or us having to cut back on our lifestyle then have someone else raising our son.
I don't get this though because why is it ok for you to stay home with your child and your dh not be able to spend time with that child because he is working all the time? I hope you don't take this personally because I am not really directing it to you but all the families who think it is better for the woman to stay home while the man kills himself to pay the bills while she is having fun with the kids??
I personally think this is the reason why so many men are having heart attacks at such young ages, like 40. They believe that their wife at home is much better than daycare and are so stressed out to provide for them.
I personally have used daycare for almost 8 yrs and NEVER felt like they were raising my children. I work because I have to and both my dh and I get to spend lots of time with them because we work normal hours.
It is OK for me to stay home b/c that is what my husband and I agreed on. Its what makes US BOTH happy. Its sad to say but even if I worked the amount of hours my husband worked I would not be making anywhere near what he makes. And if you think my husband is at work killing himself while I stay home and "have fun with the kids" your nuts. I am cleaning, cooking, doing landry, taking care of my son when he is sick, or cranky, or when he gets hurt, I do all the shopping, take care of all the bills, and basically do EVERYTHING BUT BRING IN A PAYCHECK - I think that is far more valuable to my family then me going to work to make 30 or 40k a year - It would cost us more then that to hire someone to watch our child, clean the house, and do everything else that I do.
Second of all we are very fortunate that my DH can work WHAT A NORMAL WORK WEEK consists of - 5 days a week and 8 hour days and make enough money to support us.
the only reason he is working more right now is b/c something major is going on at work and everyone is working crazy hours.
LASTLY - Weather my Husband works normal hours or crazy hours I can honestly say he spends more quality time with our son then most fathers that work alot less or the same amount that he does!!!
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by iwed2005
"Sometimes it is not easy enough just to say to sacrifice things. I am not going to feel deprived just to stay home."
I am not trying to gang up on you, just trying to understand, what is so difficult to scarfice or "deprive" oneself of that can't be done for family?
For me to stay home, I would need to sacrifice medical care for my family, food, transportation, necessities. I didn't mean vacations and expensive clothes. I don't see that worth it not to work. I don't want to have to scrape every penny just to get by JUST to say "I stayed home with my kids". It doesn't make you a better mom because you are able to be home.
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
I personally could not let my dh work 2 or 3 jobs or tons of hours JUST so I could stay home.
I'm not here to insult anyone, but just stating how that would not work for my family. Thanks.
I think for every couple it is different. DH I agreed well before we had our son that we both grew up in homes with SAHMs and that it was very important for us to do the same.
We rather sacrafice - either by him working lots of hours, or us having to cut back on our lifestyle then have someone else raising our son.
I don't get this though because why is it ok for you to stay home with your child and your dh not be able to spend time with that child because he is working all the time? I hope you don't take this personally because I am not really directing it to you but all the families who think it is better for the woman to stay home while the man kills himself to pay the bills while she is having fun with the kids??
I personally think this is the reason why so many men are having heart attacks at such young ages, like 40. They believe that their wife at home is much better than daycare and are so stressed out to provide for them.
I personally have used daycare for almost 8 yrs and NEVER felt like they were raising my children. I work because I have to and both my dh and I get to spend lots of time with them because we work normal hours.
It is OK for me to stay home b/c that is what my husband and I agreed on. Its what makes US BOTH happy. Its sad to say but even if I worked the amount of hours my husband worked I would not be making anywhere near what he makes. And if you think my husband is at work killing himself while I stay home and "have fun with the kids" your nuts. I am cleaning, cooking, doing landry, taking care of my son when he is sick, or cranky, or when he gets hurt, I do all the shopping, take care of all the bills, and basically do EVERYTHING BUT BRING IN A PAYCHECK - I think that is far more valuable to my family then me going to work to make 30 or 40k a year - It would cost us more then that to hire someone to watch our child, clean the house, and do everything else that I do.
Second of all we are very fortunate that my DH can work WHAT A NORMAL WORK WEEK consists of - 5 days a week and 8 hour days and make enough money to support us.
the only reason he is working more right now is b/c something major is going on at work and everyone is working crazy hours.
LASTLY - Weather my Husband works normal hours or crazy hours I can honestly say he spends more quality time with our son then most fathers that work alot less or the same amount that he does!!!
Well said 
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
I personally could not let my dh work 2 or 3 jobs or tons of hours JUST so I could stay home.
I'm not here to insult anyone, but just stating how that would not work for my family. Thanks.
I think for every couple it is different. DH I agreed well before we had our son that we both grew up in homes with SAHMs and that it was very important for us to do the same.
We rather sacrafice - either by him working lots of hours, or us having to cut back on our lifestyle then have someone else raising our son.
I don't get this though because why is it ok for you to stay home with your child and your dh not be able to spend time with that child because he is working all the time? I hope you don't take this personally because I am not really directing it to you but all the families who think it is better for the woman to stay home while the man kills himself to pay the bills while she is having fun with the kids??
I personally think this is the reason why so many men are having heart attacks at such young ages, like 40. They believe that their wife at home is much better than daycare and are so stressed out to provide for them.
I personally have used daycare for almost 8 yrs and NEVER felt like they were raising my children. I work because I have to and both my dh and I get to spend lots of time with them because we work normal hours.
It is OK for me to stay home b/c that is what my husband and I agreed on. Its what makes US BOTH happy. Its sad to say but even if I worked the amount of hours my husband worked I would not be making anywhere near what he makes. And if you think my husband is at work killing himself while I stay home and "have fun with the kids" your nuts. I am cleaning, cooking, doing landry, taking care of my son when he is sick, or cranky, or when he gets hurt, I do all the shopping, take care of all the bills, and basically do EVERYTHING BUT BRING IN A PAYCHECK - I think that is far more valuable to my family then me going to work to make 30 or 40k a year - It would cost us more then that to hire someone to watch our child, clean the house, and do everything else that I do.
Second of all we are very fortunate that my DH can work WHAT A NORMAL WORK WEEK consists of - 5 days a week and 8 hour days and make enough money to support us.
the only reason he is working more right now is b/c something major is going on at work and everyone is working crazy hours.
LASTLY - Weather my Husband works normal hours or crazy hours I can honestly say he spends more quality time with our son then most fathers that work alot less or the same amount that he does!!!
Then I definately applaud him because there are many fathers out there who don't spend the time with their children and I think that is bad.
I TOTALLY understand what you mean being home. I have done more today than a single person with no kids will do in a week's time!! It IS hard, no doubt about it.
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by hazeleyes33
It doesn't make you a better mom because you are able to be home.
No one is saying that at all. I think to each their own - its whatever works for YOU AND YOUR FAMILY and who is anyone to Judge that??
ETA for typo
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
It doesn't make you a better mom because you are able to be home.
No one is saying that at all. I think to each their own - its whatever works for YOU AND YOUR FAMILY and who is anyone to gudge that??
There are many moms out there who believe it. Some of the things my co-workers say all the time about moms really insults me even though I don't know if they realize it. They have this "fantasy" about SAHM's that it is just wonderful all the time. Believe me, I KNOW it is hard work but when they say things, I feel like I am a horrible mother because I am working. I CAN'T sacrifice things they talk about because it just would not work and I don't want to live in a small apartment with 2 kids and a dh who is working 7 days a week to pay the bills.
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
I personally could not let my dh work 2 or 3 jobs or tons of hours JUST so I could stay home.
I'm not here to insult anyone, but just stating how that would not work for my family. Thanks.
I think for every couple it is different. DH I agreed well before we had our son that we both grew up in homes with SAHMs and that it was very important for us to do the same.
We rather sacrafice - either by him working lots of hours, or us having to cut back on our lifestyle then have someone else raising our son.
I don't get this though because why is it ok for you to stay home with your child and your dh not be able to spend time with that child because he is working all the time? I hope you don't take this personally because I am not really directing it to you but all the families who think it is better for the woman to stay home while the man kills himself to pay the bills while she is having fun with the kids??
I personally think this is the reason why so many men are having heart attacks at such young ages, like 40. They believe that their wife at home is much better than daycare and are so stressed out to provide for them.
I personally have used daycare for almost 8 yrs and NEVER felt like they were raising my children. I work because I have to and both my dh and I get to spend lots of time with them because we work normal hours.
It is OK for me to stay home b/c that is what my husband and I agreed on. Its what makes US BOTH happy. Its sad to say but even if I worked the amount of hours my husband worked I would not be making anywhere near what he makes. And if you think my husband is at work killing himself while I stay home and "have fun with the kids" your nuts. I am cleaning, cooking, doing landry, taking care of my son when he is sick, or cranky, or when he gets hurt, I do all the shopping, take care of all the bills, and basically do EVERYTHING BUT BRING IN A PAYCHECK - I think that is far more valuable to my family then me going to work to make 30 or 40k a year - It would cost us more then that to hire someone to watch our child, clean the house, and do everything else that I do.
Second of all we are very fortunate that my DH can work WHAT A NORMAL WORK WEEK consists of - 5 days a week and 8 hour days and make enough money to support us.
the only reason he is working more right now is b/c something major is going on at work and everyone is working crazy hours.
LASTLY - Weather my Husband works normal hours or crazy hours I can honestly say he spends more quality time with our son then most fathers that work alot less or the same amount that he does!!!
Then I definately applaud him because there are many fathers out there who don't spend the time with their children and I think that is bad.
I TOTALLY understand what you mean being home. I have done more today than a single person with no kids will do in a week's time!! It IS hard, no doubt about it.
Growing up my dad always made a GREAT salery and my mom was a SAHM my whole life. My dad worked long hours sometimes yeah.. and we missed him but he was there for every single dance recital, birthday, holiday, you name it.
We felt very fortunate that our dad was out there providing for us and we were able to have so much quality time with our mom..
She was at every PTA meeting, picked us up and dropped us off at school every day, cooked every meal for us, was there everytime we were sick, and so on. I treasure all those memories and I am thrilled I can do all of that for my children.
I also want to add I have nothing but the UPMOST respect for moms who work!! They do everything we do AND bring home a paycheck!!!! My sister works and I see how much it kills her to leave her little ones every day to go out there and earn a living. But her DH does not make enough to support the household on his own and its just what needs to be done. I think she works 10X's what I do and honestly treasures every second with her children since she does not have the luxury of being home with them 24/7.
I tell her everyday how much I admire her
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
http://www.salary.com/careers/layouthtmls/crel_display_Cat10_Ser253_Par358.html
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
I personally could not let my dh work 2 or 3 jobs or tons of hours JUST so I could stay home.
I'm not here to insult anyone, but just stating how that would not work for my family. Thanks.
I think for every couple it is different. DH I agreed well before we had our son that we both grew up in homes with SAHMs and that it was very important for us to do the same.
We rather sacrafice - either by him working lots of hours, or us having to cut back on our lifestyle then have someone else raising our son.
I don't get this though because why is it ok for you to stay home with your child and your dh not be able to spend time with that child because he is working all the time? I hope you don't take this personally because I am not really directing it to you but all the families who think it is better for the woman to stay home while the man kills himself to pay the bills while she is having fun with the kids??
I personally think this is the reason why so many men are having heart attacks at such young ages, like 40. They believe that their wife at home is much better than daycare and are so stressed out to provide for them.
I personally have used daycare for almost 8 yrs and NEVER felt like they were raising my children. I work because I have to and both my dh and I get to spend lots of time with them because we work normal hours.
It is OK for me to stay home b/c that is what my husband and I agreed on. Its what makes US BOTH happy. Its sad to say but even if I worked the amount of hours my husband worked I would not be making anywhere near what he makes. And if you think my husband is at work killing himself while I stay home and "have fun with the kids" your nuts. I am cleaning, cooking, doing landry, taking care of my son when he is sick, or cranky, or when he gets hurt, I do all the shopping, take care of all the bills, and basically do EVERYTHING BUT BRING IN A PAYCHECK - I think that is far more valuable to my family then me going to work to make 30 or 40k a year - It would cost us more then that to hire someone to watch our child, clean the house, and do everything else that I do.
Second of all we are very fortunate that my DH can work WHAT A NORMAL WORK WEEK consists of - 5 days a week and 8 hour days and make enough money to support us.
the only reason he is working more right now is b/c something major is going on at work and everyone is working crazy hours.
LASTLY - Weather my Husband works normal hours or crazy hours I can honestly say he spends more quality time with our son then most fathers that work alot less or the same amount that he does!!!
Then I definately applaud him because there are many fathers out there who don't spend the time with their children and I think that is bad.
I TOTALLY understand what you mean being home. I have done more today than a single person with no kids will do in a week's time!! It IS hard, no doubt about it.
Growing up my dad always made a GREAT salery and my mom was a SAHM my whole life. My dad worked long hours sometimes yeah.. and we missed him but he was there for every single dance recital, birthday, holiday, you name it.
We felt very fortunate that our dad was out there providing for us and we were able to have so much quality time with our mom..
She was at every PTA meeting, picked us up and dropped us off at school every day, cooked every meal for us, was there everytime we were sick, and so on. I treasure all those memories and I am thrilled I can do all of that for my children.
I also want to add I have nothing but the UPMOST respect for moms who work!! They do everything we do AND bring home a paycheck!!!! My sister works and I see how much it kills her to leave her little ones every day to go out there and earn a living. But her DH does not make enough to support the household on his own and its just what needs to be done. I think she works 10X's what I do and honestly treasures every second with her children since she does not have the luxury of being home with them 24/7.
I tell her everyday how much I admire her
to you for how you treat your sister. If more people were like you, working moms wouldn't feel so guilty, everyday.
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Hazel,
Why did you start a post and then a spinoff to your own post minutes later  , prying into everyone's life, down to what time their hubby walks in the door, and then make all sorts of judgements, statements, assumptions, etc etc etc etc...
I think these 2 posts should stop here 
Everyone is doing what works for them, we cant compare apples to oranges here. Whether hubby makes $10 or $100 an hour, whether mom plays games with the kids all day (that was a great statement
 ) and whether one owns top of the line everything or gets by and is very content, its what works for them.
First you say you know the job of a SAHM is tough, then you say we "Get to play" with the kids all day, while DH "busts his butt" ? Then you say youd much rather work because "that" isnt for you
I wont go into everything you said because its all right here, but lets get over this post and putting everyone in some category or for whatever reason you have.
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by monters
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beth!
Yes, I have seen this and they said that the working mom would get like $20,000 less than the SAHM PLUS their paycheck because they basically do the same things.
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MABLE03
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
It doesn't make you a better mom because you are able to be home.
No one is saying that at all. I think to each their own - its whatever works for YOU AND YOUR FAMILY and who is anyone to gudge that??
I CAN'T sacrifice things they talk about because it just would not work and I don't want to live in a small apartment with 2 kids and a dh who is working 7 days a week to pay the bills.
That is what I mean with to each his own. To some couples they rather live in a small apt or house while there DH works 7 days a week to pay all of their bills. What is important to everyone and every family is different.
I could never ever judge anyones choice to either be a working mom, a SAHM, or a SAHD.
I think family comes first before anything else in this world and if a husband and wife both agree on what they feel is the BEST situation for their family then god bless them and whatever they do.
I know plenty of families who live in small 2 bedroom apts. with 2 kids and the mom stays home and the dad makes enough just to pay the bills - if they are happy with that situation who the heck am I to judge them?? It works for them and thats all that matters.
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by anna
Hazel,
Why did you start a post and then a spinoff to your own post minutes later , prying into everyone's life, down to what time their hubby walks in the door, and then make all sorts of judgements, statements, assumptions, etc etc etc etc...
I think these 2 posts should stop here
Everyone is doing what works for them, we cant compare apples to oranges here. Whether hubby makes $10 or $100 an hour, whether mom plays games with the kids all day (that was a great statement
) and whether one owns top of the line everything or gets by and is very content, its what works for them.
First you say you know the job of a SAHM is tough, then you say we "Get to play" with the kids all day, while DH "busts his butt" ? Then you say youd much rather work because "that" isnt for you
I wont go into everything you said because its all right here, but lets get over this post and putting everyone in some category or for whatever reason you have.
Sorry, I guess because I worked my butt off today with my kids and house and would always if I stayed home while I watch my neighbors everyday sitting around, hanging out with their kids. Not all moms are good, I guess!!
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by hazeleyes33
It doesn't make you a better mom because you are able to be home.
No one is saying that at all. I think to each their own - its whatever works for YOU AND YOUR FAMILY and who is anyone to gudge that??
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Well he's a Police Officer so unfortunately while we're all home having nice family dinners and watching football games... He's out on the street helping car accident victims and trying to find the guy who just raped a 10 year old girl
Actually I feel wonderful to have a man that puts himself in danger so that we can feel safe. And if never having him home for another holiday ever again helps even one person out in a time of need it was all worth it.
And I completely agree w/ to each is own. Every family is different. It's what works for them.
I do think that things like this need to be "re-evaluate" every year or 2. Life changes and so do people. What may work now may not work later.
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
My DH is a little under 100K but he only works one job. When I worked FT I was over 100K working just one job.
I don't know if I could handle DH working two jobs. I complain now as it is when he works late.
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by Ladybug63
Well he's a Police Officer so unfortunately while we're all home having nice family dinners and watching football games... He's out on the street helping car accident victims and trying to find the guy who just raped a 10 year old girl
Actually I feel wonderful to have a man that puts himself in danger so that we can feel safe. And if never having him home for another holiday ever again helps even one person out in a time of need it was all worth it.
And I completely agree w/ to each is own. Every family is different. It's what works for them.
I do think that things like this need to be "re-evaluate" every year or 2. Life changes and so do people. What may work now may not work later.
My husband is a police officer also and i completely agree with you
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by MABLE03
I also want to add I have nothing but the UPMOST respect for moms who work!! They do everything we do AND bring home a paycheck!!!! My sister works and I see how much it kills her to leave her little ones every day to go out there and earn a living. But her DH does not make enough to support the household on his own and its just what needs to be done. I think she works 10X's what I do and honestly treasures every second with her children since she does not have the luxury of being home with them 24/7.
I tell her everyday how much I admire her
Oh, Mable, that just brought tears to my eyes. I am in the same position as your sister and even though I don't know you or her, it was so nice to read this post and know that you understand how much it hurts a workign mom to have to leave her child everyday to earn a living and how dificult her life is sometimes. Thank you for that post. I think your sister is very lucky to have you!
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by WhatNow
Posted by MABLE03
I also want to add I have nothing but the UPMOST respect for moms who work!! They do everything we do AND bring home a paycheck!!!! My sister works and I see how much it kills her to leave her little ones every day to go out there and earn a living. But her DH does not make enough to support the household on his own and its just what needs to be done. I think she works 10X's what I do and honestly treasures every second with her children since she does not have the luxury of being home with them 24/7.
I tell her everyday how much I admire her
Oh, Mable, that just brought tears to my eyes. I am in the same position as your sister and even though I don't know you or her, it was so nice to read this post and know how much it hurts a workign mom to have to leave her child everyday to earn a living and how dificult her life is sometimes. Thank you for that post. I think your sister is very lucky to have you!
I meant every word.. and not just for my sister all working moms. 
Thank you very much and your family is very lucky to have you as well!!!!
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Only one job - medical equipment sales. I also work full time as an HR Director. 4 days in the office and 1 day from home.
I agree with you I would not let me DH work 2 jobs so I could stay home. It wouldnt work for us.
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Beth
The Key to your new home....
Member since 2/06 24849 total posts
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Beth
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
My DH works one Job- about 60 hours a week
and he takes work home and sometimes goes in on a saturday, his job is stressful- but I am very proud of all he has accomplished ( he didn't go to college and he is much smarter then most people who did)
I grew up with my Dad working 2 or 3 jobs and my Mom working 1- my Dad worked so much so that we could go on vacations and go to college
I didn't see him as much as I would have liked-( but he was home it was quality time- doing fun things) he realized this and changed his ways for my Brother and Sister- he did make an effort to be at all the important things-
but in the end my Dad did what he thought was best for the family- and in the long run it was
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| Posted 6/23/06 4:30 PM |
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ExpectingJoy
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/05 751 total posts
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Cari
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
It is OK for me to stay home b/c that is what my husband and I agreed on. Its what makes US BOTH happy. Its sad to say but even if I worked the amount of hours my husband worked I would not be making anywhere near what he makes. And if you think my husband is at work killing himself while I stay home and "have fun with the kids" your nuts. I am cleaning, cooking, doing landry, taking care of my son when he is sick, or cranky, or when he gets hurt, I do all the shopping, take care of all the bills, and basically do EVERYTHING BUT BRING IN A PAYCHECK - I think that is far more valuable to my family then me going to work to make 30 or 40k a year - It would cost us more then that to hire someone to watch our child, clean the house, and do everything else that I do.
Second of all we are very fortunate that my DH can work WHAT A NORMAL WORK WEEK consists of - 5 days a week and 8 hour days and make enough money to support us.
the only reason he is working more right now is b/c something major is going on at work and everyone is working crazy hours.
LASTLY - Weather my Husband works normal hours or crazy hours I can honestly say he spends more quality time with our son then most fathers that work alot less or the same amount that he does!!!
ITA. DH makes multiplications of the salary I could have commanded in the workforce. He works long hours but people who make a good deal of money have to. Companies don't give away free money and certainly don't to people who walk out the door at 5pm. Also, those who get promotions and advance have to "bust their butts" with long hours. No such thing as a free lunch. Its just not the real world.
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| Posted 6/23/06 4:34 PM |
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My2Boys
Love.
Member since 10/05 4796 total posts
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
DH works 1 job 8-4 w/ occasional paid OT. If we were ever in the position where he needed to work 2 jobs to support our family, I'd return to work.
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| Posted 6/23/06 4:53 PM |
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Bxgell2
Perfection
Member since 5/05 16438 total posts
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Beth
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Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"
Posted by hazeleyes33
It doesn't make you a better mom because you are able to be home.
I don't know of anyone on this board who has said or would even think such a preposterous thing, so I don't know why you seem to feel to say this. I'm sure there are people out there who think it, but if anyone has said anything like that, you should confront them directly instead of making blanket statements about how SAHM's put too much pressure on their husband's to work long hours and miss out on their children's lives....
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| Posted 6/23/06 7:25 PM |
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