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beautyq115
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Something that has been bothering me...
We went to a friends wedding last weekend and (my mom also went but did not stay over)....we stayed over at a hotel and the next day we see the happy couple as we are leaving. She goes into this whole thing about how cheap people were with gifts.
She was like I can't believe that anyone would give less than $250.00 for a wedding gift. Now my mother who is a single mom gave her $200 which I thought was generous and we gave $300. I just thought she was kind of talking directly about my mother and I almost said something but didn't. I just thought it was so obnoxious.
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june262004
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Wow. Thats messed up. I complained to my best friend but about the couple who gave us 50.00 and their son got married at the same place a year earlier so they knew how much it was. I think 200.00 is very NICE gift from one person!
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| Posted 7/17/05 9:03 PM |
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beautyq115
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by june262004
Wow. Thats messed up. I complained to my best friend but about the couple who gave us 50.00 and their son got married at the same place a year earlier so they knew how much it was. I think 200.00 is very NICE gift from one person!
I mean I think it was a nice gift...and plus the fact she and her husband gave us a cheap gift for our E-Party...so if she wants to talk about cheap
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| Posted 7/17/05 9:05 PM |
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june262004
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Theres just no reason to go into with anyone (although I am guilty of it)
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| Posted 7/17/05 9:07 PM |
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suvenR
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
I talked to close people about some of the gifts. Like the couple who brought their uninvited adult son to the wedding and gave us $65...
But, I don't think she was talking about your mom. She was probably talking about gifts from couples, not singles.
But, I'd say I had few couples give $150 or less. But, I'd only EVER talk about it to CLOSE people...
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| Posted 7/17/05 9:21 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
thats just rude...a wedding is not a fund raiser for yourself and you should "expect" to make a certain amount. and i agree, $200 is more then enough from one person...where was the wedding?
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| Posted 7/17/05 9:30 PM |
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dengal
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by BNL2005
thats just rude...a wedding is not a fund raiser for yourself and you should "expect" to make a certain amount. and i agree, $200 is more then enough from one person...where was the wedding?
I agree. Unless you are close with someone, I think $200 is more than enough.
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| Posted 7/17/05 9:37 PM |
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beautyq115
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by BNL2005
thats just rude...a wedding is not a fund raiser for yourself and you should "expect" to make a certain amount. and i agree, $200 is more then enough from one person...where was the wedding?
The Watermill and it was paid for by her parents
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| Posted 7/17/05 10:01 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Those people are called spolied brats....try not to get infected with their attitude
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| Posted 7/17/05 10:04 PM |
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beautyq115
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
I think it was rude that she went into what people gave her...I didn't ask what people gave...she volunteered the info.
I remember after my E-party she asked me to tell her what people gave us and I didn;t go into it...I just said that people were so overly generous and left it at that
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| Posted 7/17/05 10:04 PM |
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beautyq115
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by Moehick
Those people are called spolied brats....try not to get infected with their attitude
I know
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| Posted 7/17/05 10:04 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
I vented on here about it. but not to anyone who actually attended my wedding...it seems in very poor taste, sorry..JMHO
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| Posted 7/18/05 10:03 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
That is so wrong. No one is responsible for trying to give them back what they spent on their wedding or the location.
Message edited 7/18/2005 10:09:24 AM.
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| Posted 7/18/05 10:08 AM |
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dld4e
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by LadyLainez
That is so wrong. No one is responsible for trying to give them back what they spent on their wedding or the location.
couldn't agree more!
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| Posted 7/18/05 10:21 AM |
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jozieb0925
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Sorry that happened to you. I think what you and your mom gave was more than generous!
Message edited 7/18/2005 11:25:25 AM.
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| Posted 7/18/05 10:24 AM |
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KaRiSsA
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
How tacky of her to even say anything to you! 
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| Posted 7/18/05 10:26 AM |
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Christine
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Considering you exceeded her minimum gift requirement (read with dripping sarcasm), I am sure she was not speaking about your gift. It amazes me that people have such expectations and even worse expresses them to people.
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| Posted 7/18/05 11:18 AM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
That is completely tacky - and real low of her to go into detail about her wedding gifts with you less than 24 hours after her wedding.
It just shows what kind of a person she is, and that is TACKY as hell.
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| Posted 7/18/05 11:23 AM |
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saraH
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by beautyq115
Posted by BNL2005
thats just rude...a wedding is not a fund raiser for yourself and you should "expect" to make a certain amount. and i agree, $200 is more then enough from one person...where was the wedding?
The Watermill and it was paid for by her parents
so why is she looking to turn a profit?? thats just rude and she never should've even mentioned the $$
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| Posted 7/18/05 12:39 PM |
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btrflygrl
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
she complained about less than $250???? HA.....I had one cousin (who is married w/ 2 kids who were at my wedding) give me $160....yep.
Another gave $40...married w/kids
I can understand if you can't give anything, but seriously. I only said something to MY immediate family, and that was it.
And to complain about it....now that is TACKY.
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MrsJ
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
That wasnt right of them, but let it go. They are selfish and have no concept of money obviously.
I complained about 2 gifts even though maybe I shouldnt have....but one of them was FOUR (yes 4) GALLONS OF MAPLE SYRUP!!
WTH is THAT ABOUT anyway?  
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beautyq115
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by kelleherkm
That wasnt right of them, but let it go. They are selfish and have no concept of money obviously.
I complained about 2 gifts even though maybe I shouldnt have....but one of them was FOUR (yes 4) GALLONS OF MAPLE SYRUP!!
WTH is THAT ABOUT anyway?
I think Maple Syrup is a very nice and generous gift Especially 4 gallons...you and your DH are set for life
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dpli
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by beautyq115
I think it was rude that she went into what people gave her...I didn't ask what people gave...she volunteered the info.
I remember after my E-party she asked me to tell her what people gave us and I didn;t go into it...I just said that people were so overly generous and left it at that
Did she also ask you how big the stone in your E-ring is?
I personally think it is generally tacky to discuss the gifts you receive with people. I didn't invite people for the gifts. Also, I just can't imagine getting the worked up about it the morning after I got married! Geez!
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beautyq115
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by dpli
Posted by beautyq115
I think it was rude that she went into what people gave her...I didn't ask what people gave...she volunteered the info.
I remember after my E-party she asked me to tell her what people gave us and I didn;t go into it...I just said that people were so overly generous and left it at that
Did she also ask you how big the stone in your E-ring is?
I personally think it is generally tacky to discuss the gifts you receive with people. I didn't invite people for the gifts. Also, I just can't imagine getting the worked up about it the morning after I got married! Geez!
They were going through envelopes when they got back to their room
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beautyq115
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Re: Something that has been bothering me...
Posted by dpli
Posted by beautyq115
I think it was rude that she went into what people gave her...I didn't ask what people gave...she volunteered the info.
I remember after my E-party she asked me to tell her what people gave us and I didn;t go into it...I just said that people were so overly generous and left it at that
Did she also ask you how big the stone in your E-ring is?
I personally think it is generally tacky to discuss the gifts you receive with people. I didn't invite people for the gifts. Also, I just can't imagine getting the worked up about it the morning after I got married! Geez!
She did ask how big my stone was
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