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My aunt who im very close too, her mother passed away yesterday. She was hit by a car, i was close with her as well. Im at work today, and one of the nurses told me i couldnt go to the wake, b/c thats bad luck for the baby, and if i do something could happen, i have never heard of this, and i know people have diffierent beliefs but im so upset to even think that.

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im sorry but that was ridiculous of her to say!!!

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Ok. I sent this as an FM, but MUST post out in the public.


I am Jewish. The "wives tale" is a Jewish woman should not go to a CEMETARY while pregnant because its bad luck. Thats only if you actually believe that. Which I do not.

GO TO THE WAKE!!!!!

Pay your respects. Its NOT bad luck to be comforted in YOUR time of grief, and to be there for others who need comfort.

Its a GOOD thing. A GOOD deed. And your baby will be stronger for the love you share with others. Especially in hard times.

GO TO THE WAKE!!!!

She is an IDIOT for saying that to you.

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Go to the wake. My uncle passed away when I was 9 months pregnant and I went to the wake.
I believe I may have gone to another wake as well.

Go and pay your respects and don't worry.

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Im sorry but that person is disgusting for saying something like that. My grandmother passed when I was pregnant with my DD and my DS was 10 months old and he came with me. I went to the wake and cemetary and if anyone told me this I would have freaked out, especially since I have had miscarriages in the past. Shame on that woman for saying something so harsh. My DD i was pregnant with at the time is now 3 yrs old, try to not let her words worry you, take ur time to grieve, and my condolences to ur family

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My family has the same crazy superstition. It's an old school thing I guess, or maybe an Italian thing. IDK, I think it's ridiculous. BUT that being said, i did decide NOT to go to a wake of a distant relative who I barely knew bc of it. If it was someone close to me, I would have gone. Either way, just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss.

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thank you all for your responses
im definitely going, im just more upset that someone would tell me that im going to hurt my child if i go, and she said it with a straight face

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That woman is a thoughtless jerk!

Go to the wake. I went to a wake during each of my pregnancies. If anything, it was a good distraction talking to people about the baby. Sorry for your loss.

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I haven't heard of that about the wake but I can tell you I was 35 weeks when my great aunt died and our DS is perfectly healthy and sitting on my lap.

Everyone had an opinion, do what's best for you and your family and just yes everyone to death.

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Posted by asecretmommytobe09

My aunt who im very close too, her mother passed away yesterday. She was hit by a car, i was close with her as well. Im at work today, and one of the nurses told me i couldnt go to the wake, b/c thats bad luck for the baby, and if i do something could happen, i have never heard of this, and i know people have diffierent beliefs but im so upset to even think that.

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i am sorry for your loss.

that is ridiculous to say to you. You will have more regret after the fact for not going. My brother died while i was pregnant with my DS. No STUPIDstition would have kept me from going. i also have gone to two different wakes with this pregnancy.

follow your heart.

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I am sorry for your loss!

I never heard of that before so may I suggest you go.

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I've heard this too. DH's old boss went to a wake when she was pregnant and ended up losing the baby (but due to the hospitals negligence). Her nanny or someone told her that she shouldn't have gone to the funeral. She said that if she had to go just don't look at the body which is almost impossible if it's a catholic wake.

Whatever

I went to a funeral this past Thursday for my close friends brother. There was no way I couldn't go. Another friend told me that her mom mentioned this to her too when she was pregnant. She was told to eat chocolate afterwards and it will be "better".

Whatever

I had a chocolate milk shake and reese's afterwards.

Old wives tale.

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Wow!! That's awful for her to say! Pleas don't listen to her and GO TO THE WAKE!! I'm sorry for your loss! Xx

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I've never heard that at all!!!

DH's uncle died while I was pregnant with DS 1 - I went to each wake as well as the funeral and nothing happened with DS 1. I am sure I went to a wake while pregnant with DS 2 as well.

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I unfortunately had to attend 2 funerals while I was pregnant with DD2 and I have a healthy happy 3 month old now. You can certainly pay your respects at a wake if you want to. I am sorry for your loss.

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My grandmother just passed in April. You better believe I was at the wake and the funeral. So far everything is fine with the baby and I am due in 3 weeks.
I was informed of this "wives tale" but I chose to go anyway. In my own little way I feel like my was present there.

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That's stupid. I went to a wake when I was PG with DS#1 and he is a perfectly healthy thriving 3 year old boy. I just went to a wake last week for my SIL's grandmother. I'm sure DS#2 will be just fine.

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That's the silliest thing I've ever heard! My mom passed away 3 weeks before I had my dd and obviously I went to all the services. My dd is a beautiful healthy 2.5 year old. I'm so sorry for your loss

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My BFF'S mom died while I was pregnant, of course I went to the wake, I don't believe in a superstition like this

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I unfortunately had to go to a funeral/ wake when I was pg with DS1. Different beliefs for different cultures. Do what you feel is right. She shouldn't have said it the way she did.