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Today my good friend told me she is pregnant. I am very happy for her and very sad for me. She has been trying for 2 months and we havd been trying for 6 months. I knew this was gonna happen and I prepaared myself but it still hurts. I cried a bit in the car on the way home. I dont want to talk about it with my dh because i know he wont understand. Plus last night while we were out to eat he mentioned how we should try not to have kids because we are not financially ready. WHAT? After 6 months you come up with this? I am too emotionally invested in this to just say " oh i guess we will wait now" i hate my life at this moment.
ETA- writing this on a mobile device so please ignore poor grammar and spelling.

Message edited 8/22/2011 9:43:02 PM.

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Wow, I am so sorry. Sometimes men just dont understand and you know what, you'll NEVER be financially ready. And it takes him 6mths to realize this? I am truly sorry and I do hope you get your BFP soon

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i am sorry he said that to you! that was a bit uncalled for ,esp if u have been trying..i would def have a talk with him and make sure u r on the same page

as for your friend..its hard i know..we have been at this for 18 months..i have been to dozens of baby showers,baptisms,1st birthday parties and have friends trying for number 2 while i am still going for number 1..

ithurts..but that is the way they got there..u will find urs as we all will and when we do we want those people to be just as happy for us as we were for them

now..after saying that i will fully admit to crying at pregnant people in commercials or on the street or when i hear one say they r fat and cant wait to not be pregnant or any other reason...its normal..we ronly human right

feel better

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i'm so sorry...i know exactly how that feels. Right after i had my D&C i found out my friend was preggo, and she wasn't even trying...she is due when i would have been due. I literally cried for two days straight. Over time it gets easier.

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i'm so sorry

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I am so sorry! I completely understand how you feel! My best friend is pregnant and it's all she talks about now. She knows we're trying too, and keeps asking if we're pregnant yet. Unfortunately, we are not and it's been pretty difficult to be around her because all I do is get upset for myself. DH doesn't understand at all and none of my other friends seem to either since they all got pregnant on their first try. I'm happy for her, but it's been so rough for me. Hopefully our time will come soon and they will be happy for us!

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Thanks Ladies. I knew you would understand. I am definitely going to have a sit down with my DH and find out whether we are on the same page or not. If we aren't it's gonna be difficult for me. We also need to have a serious talk about lots of other things that I have just let go, but I am tired of. He's right though, we are really strapped financially, and a lot of that is his fault, so it makes me even madder. It's just one of those weeks and I just want it to be over already. Thanks for letting me vent. I don't have anyone else that I can talk to about it who understands.