Shower invitation drama...long

So my sister is throwing my shower for me. Im not sure how she sent out the invites, but i got a few emails from people telling me they didnt receive it. Thankfully those 2 were close friends/family so i just told my sister and sh handled it.
Now DH mom doesnt speak english, and DH has been extremely unhelpful. he never gave my sister names and addresses for anyone other than his mom, so about 3 weeks ago i pulled up a handful of names/addresses i had from my wedding invitations and emailed them to my sister so they would be invited.
Last week i find out that his mom and one of the cousins didnt receive invites. So i told DH to let them know they were invited and another would be resent (my shower is this Saturday so time is short). Last night i asked DH to call his mom and find out if anyone was going to come (only 2 of the 7 people responded), She said she isnt coming b/c she never received an invitation, which means the others probably arent coming either.
Do i have a right to be bothered by this? I dont know what happend to the invite, obviously she was invited, we wouldnt ivite other family members and not her. We were supposed to be having an "after shower" bbq with husbands/kids, whoever...and i bet they will come to that. I dont even want the BBQ anymore this entire thing has gotten out of hand. And sooo many people arent coming to my shower, it makes me sad.
Would you be upset?

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I'm so confused. How could all the invitations be lost like that? Did she forget to put stamps on them or what? Your sister totally dropped the ball.

I'm sure though that there will be enough people there to have a good time, try to enjoy it!

(My shower got snowed out when I was pregnant with #1, so any shower sounds better than that!)

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That is a little odd and too many invites to be random mail being lost. I think your sister screwed up the invites somehow. Is there a way you can get any extras without a fuss (maybe say you want to scrapbook or hand deliver a few to work or whatever) and keep them and mail them to folks as you hear they didn't get one?

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I can see how some invitations might be lost, it happened with my wedding. However, I would be very upset with my MIL if she said she couldn't come because she didn't get a formal invitation.

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I really have no idea how the invitations got screwed up. My sister swears she mailed them all out, i cant be mad at her. The shower is on Saturday now, and my guess is that she needs a headcount for the resturant. Thats why i told DH's family, that yes they were invited, and i will get them another invitation so they formally have one.

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why would she attend the BBQ and not your shower? why wasn't DH being more helpful?
this is just silly. have your DH call his mother and tell her that she needs to be at her DIL's shower and if she does not attend then to make sure she does NOT show up at the BBQ and let her know that this will hurt her relationship with you. This is just silly of all of them.

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It would bother me too. I think if it were me, I wouldn't want her to be at either if she's going to stand on ceremony.

I think I would probably tell DH to handle it. He is the one that seemed to have dropped the ball. If she can attend a BBQ without an invite, she certainly should be able to attend the shower beforehand.

If you have communication issues with his mother, he should be the middleman in this.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. This is not the time for you to be stressed.

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Thanks ladies...I just wanted to make sure i wasnt being an over sensative prego. I have gotten way more involved in this than i wanted to/should. it was supposed to be a suprise and now im in the middle of who got invited and who didnt.
its sad to say, but i just cant wait for it to be over with.

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First of all your mil should grow up... this is not about her this is about you and the baby!!!!!!! she should go regardless!!!!!!!! and your dh should call his mother up and tell her to stop being a baby and that she better go to the shower...... YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO BE DEALING WITH THIS... they should have called your sister.... NOT YOU... try not think about it. this is supposed to be a happy time for you. try to enjoy it and not let things bother you. and the people that will actually show up at your shower are the people that wanted to be there in the first place. and if people show up to the barbecue and not for the shower then i will tell those people to leave.... You are not overeacting. I would be extremely P ISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS****