Shower Drama

Ugh i just can't take my family. They ruined the surprise aspect of my shower because my sister wanted to be able to see me beforehand (she's coming from OOT). Its 9pm and she's mia. I call and she says she probably can't come because her selfish husband took the car to visit his friends. Seriously? I refuse to drive over there.

Why ruin the surprise for no reason?

And the topper is they didn!t do ANYTHING for my shower.apparently my Mom offered to get the water and said she would give sil a check towards some costs tomorrow. She could have used the money up front. She is unemployed right now!

My sister kept saying she didn't have the money to contribute because she had to pay for airfare. She could have saved 3 tickets and came up on her own. Her husband came up to see his family.

I feel so utterly disappointed it brings me to tears. How can i see them tomorrow and smile for pictures knowing they didn't play a single hand in the planning? And the holidays are coming up...i can't go and celebrate harboring all these feelings. My family just really disappointed me this time.

Message edited 12/7/2012 9:02:35 PM.

Shower Dram

Nothing is posted, I hope everything is ok.

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Im sorry that really sucks and seems very selfish of them. Just go and try to enjoy it. Other people will be there for you who put a lot of work into the party and they deserve to enjoy it with you.

Hope you get everything you need and you have some fun!

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Awww, I am so sorry this is happening. One of my coworkers ruined the surprise for my shower also. As much as I wanted to scream at her, all I kept thinking was that this is not about anyone else but dh and me and the wonderful baby we were going to have. I think tomorrow at your shower, do not think about the fact that they did not play a role in planning it, but that your sil cares enough about you that she did not mind planning it herself. I understand that you are disappointed in your mom and your sister, but at the end, it will only be about you, your dh and your baby.

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My only advice is to go and try to enjoy it as best you can. I had a ****** ****** wedding shower and held on to the bad feelings for too long and was so relieved to let it go. I am not saying I would not be upset in your situation, I would feel hurt and angry but just go and try to see all the people who are so excited to share in your day and get that other people may just not be as capable of showing they care in the way you deserve. Focus on the good and try to feel like the wonderful glowing mama to be you are!!

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Thanks for all the kind words! It really helps a lot!!

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I'm sorry for the drama with your shower. Quick story a friend of the family was getting married. Her sister was a bridesmaid in the wedding. When it came time for the bridal party and bachelorette party she did not pay one cent towards it. In the end she was a bridesmaid but financially could not afford it. Maybe your sister just couldn't afford to contribute but wanted to be there the day of your shower. It may seem selfish on her part, but who knows how bad her finances might be.

Smile, and ENJOY your shower!

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I'm sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately sometimes family disappoints more then friends. My cousin spoiled my bridal shower surprise and then last minute cancelled coming because she got tickets to a concert of some no name band. My SIL (whom I thought I was close with) always had an excuse on why not to help or do anything for my shower. It all sucks but hopefully you can still enjoy your shower. I know once I got to the shower everything that was drama just left my memory and I got to enjoy it. Try to think about the people who busted their butts to do that shower for you and all the people who love you and showed up.

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How did it go at your shower? My fil ruined my surprise the morning of my bridal shower because as usual he wanted to take control and get involved. I put it out of my mind and had an amazing time. Although, 7 years later, I remember