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jasmine
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sensitive Q
Is anyone else afraid they will be disappointed by the baby's gender? especially after lurking around on LIF I really do believe that a healthy baby is most important, and of course we would love whatever baby we do have, but I cant help but worry that I will be disappointed... I find myself getting jealous when I see people announce they are having a particular gender.
I think it stems from the fact that I really hope we will have at least one child of that gender eventually, and I'd probably be sad if we never ended up having a child of that gender. I keep trying to convince myself that I don't have a preference at all, especially for baby #1, but I hate that I feel this way. 
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Posted 10/28/10 11:33 AM  |
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Re: sensitive Q
I hear ya! I'm hoping that we have a certain gender when we get preggo but I'm told that it all goes away when you finally see the baby. I'm HOPING that's true!
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:35 AM |
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ttcsecret
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Re: sensitive Q
I don't think I would be disappointed. As much as I would LOVE one of each I just want a healthy baby. It is one of my biggest fears.
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:36 AM |
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BABYblues2010
LIF Infant
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Re: sensitive Q
I'm sorry you feel this way.
Fortunatly I don't feel this way, I will be happy with whichever sex . 
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:37 AM |
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Shelleybean11
Mommy of 2!
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Re: sensitive Q
Believe me when that baby is born, no matter what the gender, you will be utterly and completely in love with them 
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:40 AM |
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jasmine
little boy blue <3
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Re: sensitive Q
I know I will definitely love the baby, that's not the issue. I'm just hoping that when we are actually pg we'll be so excited that we won't care about the gender. I hate that I have a preference at all 
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:42 AM |
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Shelleybean11
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Re: sensitive Q
Posted by jasmine
I know I will definitely love the baby, that's not the issue. I'm just hoping that when we are actually pg we'll be so excited that we won't care about the gender. I hate that I have a preference at all
I wanted a girl, I got a boy. I wouldn't change a thing! It's really weird because I couldn't picture myself being a boy-mommy, now I can't picture being a girl-mommy!
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:44 AM |
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butterflygal
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Re: sensitive Q
Posted by BABYblues2010
I'm sorry you feel this way.
Fortunatly I don't feel this way, I will be happy with whichever sex .
This is how I feel. All I keep saying is "please give me a healthy baby" I do not care what the gender is as long as it's healthy. That is the most important thing to me.
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:51 AM |
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mrshenney226
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Re: sensitive Q
i kind of felt that way when i was pregnant with DS. Thats why when everyone was saying what they thought the baby was i kept quiet and never said what i thought or what i would prefer which was a boy until we found out he was a he. I didnt think i'd want a girl bc i was more of a tomboy, but i think now that im literally surrounded by boys(DH, DS, 2 nephews, 2 BIL's) i would lovvvveee a baby girl to help keep me sane. I dont think i would be disappointed if i had another boy because we dont plan on stopping at 2 either way, but a girl would be nice
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| Posted 10/28/10 12:11 PM |
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BabyHopes15
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Re: sensitive Q
I'll be happy with whatever I have as long as it is healthy. That being said, I would just be disappointed if I didn't have a boy b/c I wouldn't be able to name it after my Dad who passed away when I was 15.
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| Posted 10/28/10 12:12 PM |
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MrsG72907
Mommy of 2 girls!
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Re: sensitive Q
before DH and I were TTC we both said girl all the way. We didnt even want to think about a boy. But now as we are on month 9 of TTC we do not even care now, at all. we are just praying for a healthy baby now.
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| Posted 10/28/10 4:59 PM |
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Nik211
my little monkey<3
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Re: sensitive Q
before we starting trying we were thinking about gender swaying for a girl...but it seemed to involved and we just wanted to enjoy ttc....so we did favor the idea of having a girl but we'd be okay with either which is why we just winged ttc...
now that i am pregnant - i only got my bfp last friday - all i want is a healthy baby and i am praying non stop that my pregnancy progresses and i end up with a healthy baby. i could care less if it's a boy or a girl - i just don't want to lose it my DH feels the same way. this early pregnancy stuff is really scary and worrisome and i just want everything to be ok...
i thought i understood when people got upset about gender but now that i am pregnant and a wreck over it i can't imagine being that disappointed...
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| Posted 10/28/10 5:12 PM |
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Re: sensitive Q
Posted by butterflygal
Posted by BABYblues2010
I'm sorry you feel this way.
Fortunatly I don't feel this way, I will be happy with whichever sex .
This is how I feel. All I keep saying is "please give me a healthy baby" I do not care what the gender is as long as it's healthy. That is the most important thing to me.
I agree with this. I think before I got pregnant I felt this way, but it may change for you. I worry everyday about the health of the baby and I just hope everything turns out ok. I could care less about the gender. Gender is the last thing on my mind. I'd be extremely happy with a girl or a boy.
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| Posted 10/28/10 5:44 PM |
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CatNYC123
Happy Thoughts
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Re: sensitive Q
Ive tossed this question around in my head a lot. I dont think you are alone. I know many of my own friends and family members have mentioned having a preference. I see pro's and con's to both.
I can honestly say that I don't care either way. Ive even thought after having multiple it would be nice to have one of each but having 2 of the same would allow them to grown up as good freinds (hopefully lol) It would be nice to have a litle girl I could dress up and as she grows up Id love to teach her things I've learned along the way as a woman.. but if I had a boy then Id be able to watch DH teach him sports and be guys together. All in all, I would feel blessed either way.
But don't feel ashamed for feeling that way. You're not alone!
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| Posted 10/28/10 6:06 PM |
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Re: sensitive Q
You are definitely not alone! I wanted a girl so bad and I knew that when i went for my anatomy scan if they said it was a boy i was going to be so disappointed! But I also knew once I saw that little face it wasnt going to matter anymore! Luckily for me Im having a  and couldnt be more thrilled!
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| Posted 10/28/10 6:45 PM |
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bettybcafe
Big brother in the making
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Re: sensitive Q
You are def. not alone! I can understand why you might feel bad asking this question because you may kind of feel like you're ungrateful if you get the sex you didnt want and like you're being selfish or something. This is how I feel at least. I REALLY want a girl, badly! and sometimes I feel bad thinking that because there are so many people who cant even get pregnant and who could care less what they have as long as they have a healthy baby. Again, its not wrong to think this way (at least not to me) as long as once you have the baby you will love him/her regardless. I think once you see that little face you will completely forget about preference!
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| Posted 10/28/10 6:53 PM |
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BeachGal
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Re: sensitive Q
I would be fine with a boy or a girl!! I just want a baby now!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If I could pick I would want a girl though. My DH who was always boy crazy recently told me that he wants me to have my girl!!
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| Posted 10/28/10 10:01 PM |
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Bearcat
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Re: sensitive Q
i would prefer a girl. DH wil prefer a boy. one of us will get what we prefer! lol. i'm sure i'll be fine with either.
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| Posted 10/28/10 10:10 PM |
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mrsyoungmommy
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Re: sensitive Q
i just typed this whole long post and it didn't post!!
anywho, i really only want a boy. it doesn't matter to me if i have a little girl, but DH is the last to carry on our last name, so he wants a boy. otherwise, it doesn't matter to me.
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| Posted 10/28/10 10:10 PM |
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NeedtoHide
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Re: sensitive Q
at this point after 9 months of ttc- no.
id be happy with a healthy baby of any gender.
both genders have great things about them...
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| Posted 10/30/10 9:54 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: sensitive Q
You know when I was younger I used to think "oh I HAVE to have one of each"
But now that I read on here and see with family and friends the problems people have just getting preggo and having a healthy baby I dont think of it.
Sure would I love a boy and girl? YES! I would be lying if I said otherwise. But at this point I just want to have a healthy baby, kwim?
Message edited 10/30/2010 10:08:24 AM.
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| Posted 10/30/10 10:08 AM |
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