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Yes, My brother moved to NC last year, we rent here and cant afford a great house in whats more important a great neighborhood. So we are infact buying a house in NC. My mom will move down whn her obligations here in NY and no more, He isnt as close to his family so its not so much a big deal for him, I get the best of all worlds, Im near my bro, my mom will come down and I will have a house I couldnt even touch in NY. So for us its a great move. My friends have all moved to other states and the friendships are still the same minus the daily visits.

Message edited 6/13/2007 11:20:38 AM.

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Yes, I would and I have.....we could not afford a house in NY, plain and simple....

It was the best decision we could ever make. Not only do we have our dream house, we have such a wonderful quality of life - the quiet, the beautiful nature all around us, the slower pace, etc. My mother is coming down in August to look for houses because she will be moving down as well. But, even if she wasn't, we still would have made the move. We had to do what was right for us and for our future family. We wanted the option of me being able to stay home with the children, in NY, we definitely could not do that.

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I moved not only for a nicer home, but for a nicer way of life.

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We're going to be moving to VA. DH's sister lives there so we'll be close to family.

DH works in healthcare so we could really move anywhere. We're going to be buying a house thats around 3000 sq feet for probably 200k (not including upgrades) or a brand new house for around 279k

ETA: We also loved the area. Very slow paced, family oriented area. And people were so nice there!

Message edited 6/13/2007 2:06:31 PM.

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we plan on moving about an hour away however we have family there too

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We have moved for a nice house, for any house at all! Couldn't afford one there in NY NO WAY!
And my hubby was transferred in Wisconsin...we live in Illinois

Things here are MUCH cheaper!!

We would have moved out of state even if he wasn't transferred anyway

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Yes. I refuse to raise children in a 1 bedroom apartment, which is about all we can afford here.

It isn't just for the house, but we're moving (IN 16 DAYS!!!) so that our children can have a better life. Long Island isn't the same place it was when I was little, and I don't like the direction it's going. Luckily, we will be surrounded by our family when we get there.

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I will never live for my house.
If moving would put you in a career that makes you less happy, it's not worth it.

ETA-
I see a lot of people saying they simply can't afford a home on LI- I think it's more like you say- that they see what the same amount will buy them elsewhere, and will go for that.
Personally, I would rather stay in my tiny bungalo by the sea. For what we paid, we could buy a big farm ranch in West Virginia, I'm sure. But I don't want to live there, so I deal with what I can afford to stay here.


I don't think that the size of your house is directly related to your quality of life.

Message edited 6/14/2007 9:26:47 AM.

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I struggle with this thought as well.

DH and I own our apt-- which since of where it's located, it's the same as we would spend on a house-- maybe only slightly less. I worry that we will be able to afford the type of house we want, in an area we want... I think it's INSANE that we need to spend like $750K in order to get something that you won't have to move out of in 2 years...

I also have no idea what I will feel like when I have kids... Even now, work is hard and stressful, and I work long hours... I have no idea how I will do that with a kid. If we continue to live here, I will have to work in order for us to afford the type of house we want. Even if I chose to work if I lived elsewhere-- when you don't work in NYC in my field, your hours are much more regular, even if the pay is not as good.

But, I don't want to leave friends, or the family support system we have here. We don't necessarily rely on my family for anything, nor do we even see them that much-- but again, who knows what will happen when there is a baby in the family.

It just seems stupid to pay these prices to live here. It's like buying a dress in Bloomies, when you can get it at Saks Off Fifth for 40% off-- why would you do it??

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Me and DH are considering relocating to NC not just for a big house but because alot of faimly is down there

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We moved 1 hour away from my family and 90+ minutes from DH family in Suffolk. For a better quality of life and a better commute for DH. We are very happy here, but we are driving distance to both our families. I wish we were closer, especially now with kids. It is very hard to go out without them (we don't leave our kids with anyone except family). I pray that my mother sells her house and moves up here. It is sooooooooooo hard not having family nearby, especially with small kids. If I knew what I knew now I don't think we would have move this far from them.

Everything changes once you have kids. Yes, it's awesome for them to grow up in a very nice home, but family is much more important and having people around that you trust with your kids is priceless.