Religion question

I have a rather personal question.

Has anyone ever dealt with a DH who has changed his beliefs once a child was born? My DH's beliefs are changing and I feel like he is changing the rules in the middle of the game. We discussed how we would raise our children before we ever conceived our DS.... now everything is different.

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Yes, I have something similar going on here. Both my husband and I were always agnostic and were both raised Catholic. We both agreed to not raise our children in any religion, as we didn't believe in it, but that we would do Christmas, etc, as traditions in our family. However, now, he seems to have a renewed interest in bringing Ava up as a Catholic. I am not for that, but I told him if it's important to him, then he can be in charge of her religious upbringing by having her baptized, taking her to church, etc. So far, he hasn't done anything of the sort, though, so I doubt he'll follow through. I don't think you can really fault him, things happen and you don't know how you'll react until you have kids. It definitely is something you two ahve to work out, but I wouldn't be mad, how could he have known his feelings would change?

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No, but if he did change what we had previously discussed, I would be very upset.
He is catholic, and I am jewish. Neither one of us is religious in the slightest. We decided even before we got married we would not do any kind of religious ceremonies with kids, we would celebrate holidays with both families and when they got older if they wanted to identify more with one religion, that would be their choice. If he all of a sudden decided he wanted to get the babies christened, I would be extremely upset and it would cause a huge argument. I actually had a nightmare about that a few weeks ago for some reason.

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Let me add that I was raised by a mother who was Catholic and a father who was agnostic and I never thought there was anything weird about it. Infact, I never saw anything weird about it when my parents became Buddhists when I was young and I was still going to religion class to make my confirmation. It's only as confusing as you want it to be. I know a family who had their DD confirmed in the Catholic church and a year later, bat-mitzvah-ed in temple. I'm not making light of the situation,but you also cannot be mad at him for questioning his faith and how he feels about it. It's so personal, even in a family. I really, honestly could not be mad at my DH for questioning it all and having a change of heart, but that's just me. I am of the mind that I will expose Ava to as much as I can and then she can decide.

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Dh and I are from different religions. He was raised Jewish and I was raised Catholic. We decided before we got married how the children would be raised. We are doing all the holiday but none of the sacraments (or Jewish equivalent). We did do a baby blessing when ds was a few months old. It incorporated aspects of both religions. So it was combination baby naming/christening. But was not too god heavy. It was more about the family traditions and family helping us to raise our child. It was a beautiful ceremony and kept both sides of the family happy. If Dh tried to change things now I would be upset and hurt since we discussed this all before hand. He can worship however he chooses but the children will remain neutral until old enough to decide for themselves.