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HomeIsWithU
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
We have guns in the house. They are all locked away in safes at all times (not loaded). We don't offer the information up, but if someone were to ask if we had guns in the house we would tell them.
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HomeIsWithU
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
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Posted by NervousNell
My DH is a cop so we have no choice in the matter.
His gun is locked up in a safe that is hidden from site and in a spot in our home that nobody would access anyway.
I do not tell anyone about it who comes over.
That gun is never out in public.
Anyone who comes over our home knows his profession and knows that there is a gun here obviously
Nobody has ever made an issue of it
I think a gun in a cop's house is a lot different than a gun in a civilian's house. There is just a different level of security in my experience. I have both family and friends that are cops and don't even think twice about DD being in their houses. But I would not allow her in a house with a gun not belonging to a law enforcement agent. And yes, I would ask if there were guns in a house of anyone I didn't know and she was going to be playing in. And she wouldn't be there if there was.
ETA: I grew up in a house with guns and as soon as I was old enough to understand the potential danger, hated that they were there. My Dad is a cop.
I think that's a broad assumption to make. My Ex-FIL was a cop and he kept a loaded shot gun under his bed in case of a home invasion. IMO it's not about the profession, it's about the individual PERSON. To say that you would allow your child into a house with a weapon if it was owned by a cop, but not into a house with a weapon owned by a civilian is quite naive. You don't know for sure that the cop is taking the necessary precautions. You can only assume.
We have guns in our home and they are all locked away seperate from their ammo. Plenty of civilian gun owners are smart gun owners who take extreme caution. But there are plenty who do not. The same goes for law enforcement. They are just people who own guns - they happen to carry them for work. That doesn't gaurantee that they are more safe.
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Diane
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
Posted by neener1211
We have weapons in our house, but they are locked up. If someone asks us if we have them in the house, we will tell them yes, but locked up. I have no problem if a parent still feels uncomfortable to have their child in my house, because I know that I will be asking other parents the same thing and will make my decisions of whether to leave my kids there based upon their answers.
I don't ask people who I am visiting with my kids bc I'm supervising my children, they are not left alone in rooms that I am not in.
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
Guns and gun ownership are a concern to me as a parent.
When my kids were younger they were not allowed to have play dates without me.
When they got a little older, they were only allowed independent play dates if I knew the family really well.
Now I’m a bit more lenient with Robbie because he’s in middle school.. but I’m not gonna lie.. I’d feel uneasy about him having a play date with a kid who’s parents kept guns if I didn't know them well. I already know most of his friends and their families.. but everytime a new date request comes up, I don't hesitate to ask about guns in the home and if they are well secured. I've never had anyone get mad at the question. Last year one of the parents actually showed me where his hunting rifles and work gun were kept (in a huge safe with ammunition in a separate safe) so that I could feel more at ease. It did make me feel better.
I’m not anti-gun. I’m anti-irresponsible azzhole. And it’s hard to know if someone is a good owner or a lazy one unless you ask. I’d rather look like an over-protective, anti-gun nut by asking someone I don’t know that well if they keep guns in their home and if they are secured appropriately than have some terrible accident happen to my child.
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
Posted by Chatham-Chick
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In regards to asking parents if they have firearms...I'm more inclined to base it on whether I think they're responsible parents in general. Just because someone is in LE doesn't mean they take appropriate safety measures with their firearm just as I know many hunters who are extremely safety conscious about their firearms and the like. I had family members in LE that would come home from work and just place their service weapon on their kitchen counter.
***edited*** some people don't wish to make it public that they have firearms. ***edited***
And I could ask a parent, but how would I know they're being honest with me??? The only thing I can do is make it a point that my children understand not to play with guns and to tell an adult if their friend(s) happen to get a hold of one.
I agree with this 100%.
I have a friend that is a hunter that is extremely cautious about guns. I also know someone in law enforcement that had toddlers & sometimes slept with a gun under their pillow or in a nightstand.
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
We have guns. They are locked at all times in a GIANT closet-sized safe in our back basement. There is no reason for anyone to ever be in the room with the safe. It's not a finished room. The only time I am ever in that room is when I'm getting something in or out of the safe. There are only two people in this world who know how to open up the safe - DH and I. The safe has a key and a combination lock.
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ThePinkGoose
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Question about guns in your house and kids
We have quite a few and usually don't tell anyone. As a gun owner, it is our responsibility to make sure they are safely locked away where they are not accessible to anyone but ourselves. I feel that is the responsibility of every gun owner. I don't feel the need to extend that information, however, if I was directly asked then I would be forthcoming and acknowledge that there are weapons in the house.
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| Posted 4/11/13 10:27 AM |
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
Posted by HomeIsWithU
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by NervousNell
My DH is a cop so we have no choice in the matter.
His gun is locked up in a safe that is hidden from site and in a spot in our home that nobody would access anyway.
I do not tell anyone about it who comes over.
That gun is never out in public.
Anyone who comes over our home knows his profession and knows that there is a gun here obviously
Nobody has ever made an issue of it
I think a gun in a cop's house is a lot different than a gun in a civilian's house. There is just a different level of security in my experience. I have both family and friends that are cops and don't even think twice about DD being in their houses. But I would not allow her in a house with a gun not belonging to a law enforcement agent. And yes, I would ask if there were guns in a house of anyone I didn't know and she was going to be playing in. And she wouldn't be there if there was.
ETA: I grew up in a house with guns and as soon as I was old enough to understand the potential danger, hated that they were there. My Dad is a cop.
I think that's a broad assumption to make. My Ex-FIL was a cop and he kept a loaded shot gun under his bed in case of a home invasion. IMO it's not about the profession, it's about the individual PERSON. To say that you would allow your child into a house with a weapon if it was owned by a cop, but not into a house with a weapon owned by a civilian is quite naive. You don't know for sure that the cop is taking the necessary precautions. You can only assume.
We have guns in our home and they are all locked away seperate from their ammo. Plenty of civilian gun owners are smart gun owners who take extreme caution. But there are plenty who do not. The same goes for law enforcement. They are just people who own guns - they happen to carry them for work. That doesn't gaurantee that they are more safe.
this is 1000 times more dangerious than what could be having a gun in the house. a loaded shot gun under the bed could be easily taken and used. Same with those who sleep with it under their pillow or on their nightstand.
I think the cop vs not cop thing is silly. Cops are people too. just because they have had training doesn't mean that they follow it, there are careful ones and wreakless ones.
I recently got a shot gun for trap and skeet shooting. my wife somewhat disagrees, but I think of it more akin to a set of golf clubs. its a gun, but its in 2 pieces in a case and has to be taken and assembled by someone who knows how they go together, ammo is store in a locked box and there are no shells with the gun. When my son gets older, I may consider looping a lock through the case handle.
there are a lot of things that are significantly more dangerious in my house than a locked away gun, everything from cleaners, knives in the kitchen drawer, to falling down the steps. I think people sensationalize ceritan things b/c its hot at the moment. There is a much higher likely hood of all these other things harming you or your kids, than a locked away gun.
On the other side of the coin... those that keep weapons around for home defense... I think they are somewhat accidents waiting to happen, even with training and carefulness, people get sloppy, lazy, or careless, run late for work, or change their routine, and suddenlly there is a loaded weapon under the bed with no lock.
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MrsFrizzle
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Question about guns in your house and kids
I wouldn't ask someone outright. But a lot of people on both of our sides hunt so obviously we know they own guns. I'm very undecided how I feel about a gun in my home. Im not opposed to guns for hunting but for personally safety reasons I dont think I like the idea. I haven't given it a ton of thought though bc it's just never come up as an issue. I think I will care about whether or not others have guns once we have children.
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
We have guns, since DH is a cop, everyone knows he has a gun, but we keep it locked away in a safe that is bolted to the concrete floor. Also, the room that it is in, no children are allowed in there.
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BargainMama
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
I won't let my children play somewhere without me there if the homeowner has a gun. Not comfortable with that at all. Even if it's locked up, too many scenarios can happen for my comfort level.
And yes, I would ask if they have a gun if my child was going there without me present.
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
Posted by HomeIsWithU
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by NervousNell
My DH is a cop so we have no choice in the matter.
His gun is locked up in a safe that is hidden from site and in a spot in our home that nobody would access anyway.
I do not tell anyone about it who comes over.
That gun is never out in public.
Anyone who comes over our home knows his profession and knows that there is a gun here obviously
Nobody has ever made an issue of it
I think a gun in a cop's house is a lot different than a gun in a civilian's house. There is just a different level of security in my experience. I have both family and friends that are cops and don't even think twice about DD being in their houses. But I would not allow her in a house with a gun not belonging to a law enforcement agent. And yes, I would ask if there were guns in a house of anyone I didn't know and she was going to be playing in. And she wouldn't be there if there was.
ETA: I grew up in a house with guns and as soon as I was old enough to understand the potential danger, hated that they were there. My Dad is a cop.
I think that's a broad assumption to make. My Ex-FIL was a cop and he kept a loaded shot gun under his bed in case of a home invasion. IMO it's not about the profession, it's about the individual PERSON. To say that you would allow your child into a house with a weapon if it was owned by a cop, but not into a house with a weapon owned by a civilian is quite naive. You don't know for sure that the cop is taking the necessary precautions. You can only assume.
We have guns in our home and they are all locked away seperate from their ammo. Plenty of civilian gun owners are smart gun owners who take extreme caution. But there are plenty who do not. The same goes for law enforcement. They are just people who own guns - they happen to carry them for work. That doesn't gaurantee that they are more safe.
I clearly stated IN MY EXPERIENCE. And if being naïve keeps my kids out of a house with guns owned for any other reason than for a person is required to have them for work, so be it. I don't like guns. Period. The people in my life that are cops all take their gun responsibilities very seriously, and I know what their security measures are. I don't want to hear some BS that a gun is in the house but kept separate from ammo, locked, etc. That may be true is some cases but if a person really has a gun for security keeping it locked and unloaded won't help them much (if that it what they have it for).
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by HomeIsWithU
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by NervousNell
My DH is a cop so we have no choice in the matter.
His gun is locked up in a safe that is hidden from site and in a spot in our home that nobody would access anyway.
I do not tell anyone about it who comes over.
That gun is never out in public.
Anyone who comes over our home knows his profession and knows that there is a gun here obviously
Nobody has ever made an issue of it
I think a gun in a cop's house is a lot different than a gun in a civilian's house. There is just a different level of security in my experience. I have both family and friends that are cops and don't even think twice about DD being in their houses. But I would not allow her in a house with a gun not belonging to a law enforcement agent. And yes, I would ask if there were guns in a house of anyone I didn't know and she was going to be playing in. And she wouldn't be there if there was.
ETA: I grew up in a house with guns and as soon as I was old enough to understand the potential danger, hated that they were there. My Dad is a cop.
I think that's a broad assumption to make. My Ex-FIL was a cop and he kept a loaded shot gun under his bed in case of a home invasion. IMO it's not about the profession, it's about the individual PERSON. To say that you would allow your child into a house with a weapon if it was owned by a cop, but not into a house with a weapon owned by a civilian is quite naive. You don't know for sure that the cop is taking the necessary precautions. You can only assume.
We have guns in our home and they are all locked away seperate from their ammo. Plenty of civilian gun owners are smart gun owners who take extreme caution. But there are plenty who do not. The same goes for law enforcement. They are just people who own guns - they happen to carry them for work. That doesn't gaurantee that they are more safe.
I clearly stated IN MY EXPERIENCE. And if being naïve keeps my kids out of a house with guns owned for any other reason than for a person is required to have them for work, so be it. I don't like guns. Period. The people in my life that are cops all take their gun responsibilities very seriously, and I know what their security measures are. I don't want to hear some BS that a gun is in the house but kept separate from ammo, locked, etc. That may be true is some cases but if a person really has a gun for security keeping it locked and unloaded won't help them much (if that it what they have it for).
Why would you think it's BS that some gun owners keep their firearms in a separate safe from their ammo? That's pretty common among responsible gun owners.
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
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Why would you think it's BS that some gun owners keep their firearms in a separate safe from their ammo? That's pretty common among responsible gun owners.
Some being the key word. Not all do this. And responsible being another key word. Twice last week 2 4 year olds got their hands on guns and killed people. Clearly those gun owners were not responsible and I would rather my child not be in a house where I have to worry as to how responsible or not a gun owner is. Not that guns are the only hazard out there but one less chance to take IMO.
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Question about guns in your house and kids
I never thought to ask. I also just assume that if someone in the house is in law enforcement that there will be a gun in the house.
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
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Posted by Chatham-Chick
Why would you think it's BS that some gun owners keep their firearms in a separate safe from their ammo? That's pretty common among responsible gun owners.
Some being the key word. Not all do this. And responsible being another key word. Twice last week 2 4 year olds got their hands on guns and killed people. Clearly those gun owners were not responsible and I would rather my child not be in a house where I have to worry as to how responsible or not a gun owner is. Not that guns are the only hazard out there but one less chance to take IMO.
Posted by BaseballWidow
I think a gun in a cop's house is a lot different than a gun in a civilian's house. There is just a different level of security in my experience. I have both family and friends that are cops and don't even think twice about DD being in their houses. But I would not allow her in a house with a gun not belonging to a law enforcement agent. And yes, I would ask if there were guns in a house of anyone I didn't know and she was going to be playing in. And she wouldn't be there if there was.
ETA: I grew up in a house with guns and as soon as I was old enough to understand the potential danger, hated that they were there. My Dad is a cop.
Wasn't one of the little boys in a Sheriff Deputy's home? Didn't he kill the Sheriff Deputy's wife...with a firearm that wasn't even his service weapon?
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Posted by Chatham-Chick
Why would you think it's BS that some gun owners keep their firearms in a separate safe from their ammo? That's pretty common among responsible gun owners.
Some being the key word. Not all do this. And responsible being another key word. Twice last week 2 4 year olds got their hands on guns and killed people. Clearly those gun owners were not responsible and I would rather my child not be in a house where I have to worry as to how responsible or not a gun owner is. Not that guns are the only hazard out there but one less chance to take IMO.
Posted by BaseballWidow
I think a gun in a cop's house is a lot different than a gun in a civilian's house. There is just a different level of security in my experience. I have both family and friends that are cops and don't even think twice about DD being in their houses. But I would not allow her in a house with a gun not belonging to a law enforcement agent. And yes, I would ask if there were guns in a house of anyone I didn't know and she was going to be playing in. And she wouldn't be there if there was.
ETA: I grew up in a house with guns and as soon as I was old enough to understand the potential danger, hated that they were there. My Dad is a cop.
Wasn't one of the little boys in a Sheriff Deputy's home? Didn't he kill the Sheriff Deputy's wife...with a firearm that wasn't even his service weapon?
Yes I believe he was "showing off his gun collection" from what I remember reading. Again nothing I have ever experienced. And if I did witness something like that there would be an issue. I hate to say it but I have found a very different gun mentality in the south. I have only talked from my own experience. I am sure there are many, I would hope it's the majority, of gun owners that act responsibly. And I am sure there are irresponsible cops out there, as well. I can only do what I can do to protect my family and make my choices on where she can and can't be based on my experiences and comfort level.
And as an aside I didn't mention anything about cop vs. civilian in the post about the 4 year olds, just responsible vs. not.
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Re: Question about guns in your house and kids
I'd feel uncomfortable with my SD being in a house with firearms, but then again I've never thought to ask before.
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