preschool moms...I have a concern...thoughts?

I am a little concerned about Talia's needs being met at school.

At home she is very outgoing, talkative, and certainly makes it know when she wants/needs something.

At school (this year so far, and last year also) she is very timid, shy, and the "observer". She doesn't talk much and I am starting to suspect that she doesn't make it know when she is hungry or thirsty.

I spoke to her teacher to make sure they are aware of this...but I guess my bigger concern is why is she sooo shy in school?? I know she has friends...and she likes her teachers, and the school - I mean it is amazing...BUT since its a montessori they really let the kids have a lot of independence. I love that aspect of the school...but I hope it is not working against DD since they don't really "baby" the kids, they really let the kids determine what they need.

Any thoughts or advice?

Re: preschool moms...I have a concern...thoughts?

I wouldnt really worry about it. Im sure her needs are being met...

I wish I could explain things a bit better than this but I dont know how else to explain it. Growing up I was extremely shy..painfully shy...but not at home and not with people I felt comfortable with. Im still like this in a lot of ways. I still come off as aloof or as B**** sometimes but it's really b/c Im shy.

Maybe she is like this too. Maybe as she grows more comfortable there she'll open up and become the outgoing little girl that you are used to...

When my girls were little I made a point of getting them used to talking to people (sales clerks, waitresses, etc) when I was there with them to show them it was OK. Then as they got older I expanded on this a bit. They are now 2 of the most "unshy" chidren you have ever met...

Re: preschool moms...I have a concern...thoughts?

I am not a preschool mom, but I'd think she is probably just getting her bearings and getting used to the school

Re: preschool moms...I have a concern...thoughts?

Robbie's the same way. At home he is a whirlwind. At school he is far more calm. Each year he starts off very timid and quiet... but by May he is more of his outgoing self. Noah - on the other hand is a little shy for the first few days - and then is back to himself within a few days.

They have to scope things out - find their footing and determine how they fit into this new scenario. Some kids jump right in - and some are just more analytical by nature. Either way - it's all good!

Re: preschool moms...I have a concern...thoughts?

my daughter is the same way at school. she is non stop at home, very talkative and at school she says too many kids and i think she is overwhelmed. the teacher says she doesnt talk much and i told olivia you need to participate if you want to keep going to school and their has been an improvement. i wouldnt worry in due time she will get comfortable and be back to her old self.

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its a new setting for her.. don't worry within a couple weeks her true colors with shine!!!

Re: preschool moms...I have a concern...thoughts?

I'm kind of going through the same thing Jen with Miranda being in Montessori also. I think it's hard for us as moms to think that our "babies" aren't being babied. I know Miranda loves school. She's always happy when I pick her up and talks about her day but when I drop her off sometimes she looks like a lost puppy but obviously she gets past that and has a good day.
I keep reminding myself that it's school and not daycare and it is in her best interest to facilitate her independence with Kindergarten only 2 years away. She won't be babied there.
Miranda is shy to begin with so I expected her to be like this and I guess overall she has done better than I expected given that she hasn't cried or refused to go but I still can't wait until she's comfortable enough where she runs in and finds her friends and knows what she wants to do.
I totally get how you're feeling but I think they're doing fine.