Please weigh in on this registry "situation" (super long)

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Please weigh in on this registry "situation" (super long)

I am pregnant with my 2nd, another boy. My DS will be almost 4 when this baby is born.

I had/have no intention of having another baby shower or a sprinkle. Originally no intention of even setting up a registry.

BUT....I received a coupon for 20% off your ENTIRE purchase at BBB and thought that it was the perfect opportunity to buy mostly all of the baby things we would need. Coupons like this are so rare so I wanted to take advantage.

I decided to set up a registry so that I could put on there everything I had picked on my own so that when I went with DH and DS, it would be a quick lets buy everything and not have to start from scratch trip. I set this registry up on a Tuesday while DS was in school (I had only ONE hour) and was really quick about it, and we went to purchase everything that same Saturday. Only my mom knew about the registry. She said she wanted to come with us Sat to buy a few things, fine.

Saturday I call her before we leave and she is not home. Dad says he doesn't know where she is. We leave. I take my ORIGINAL registry print out with me and buy everything DH and I thought was necessary. Some patterns/colors we changed bc we let our DS pick. Some things we decide are not necessary.

That night look at registry online and notice that almost everything was double, in the sense that If I requested 2, 4 were purchased, 1 then 2 were purchased, plus diff patterns. I thought to myself that there must've been some error with the scanner. End of story for me.

Couple weeks later DH tells me a "secret" that his mom found out that my mom/dad had purchased almost everything off my registry. I was shocked as that's unlike my mom (plus, they were already buying the crib) and she doesn't do surprises so I was excited envisioning some sweet thoughtful way they'd give us the stuff. Annoyed my DH told me. Many weeks passed, no mention of anything. I'm 34 weeks now.

Yesterday I see that my mom takes a gift out of her car and hands box to MIL. MIL gives it to me. I wait and open it last night and it's Dreft stain spray, pack of soothies, baby toothbrush and a Britax cup holder. Leftovers from registry that I didn't really want.

Call my mom for receipt since I know she picked it up for MIL. Mom is upset I don't want these things, they were on registry, blah blah. Angrily tells me she bought everything else on my registry that is what was left. If you didn't want something you shouldn't have put it on there! ?????? Hello, registry was for me not anyone else.

That's how she divulged what she did. I tried to act stupid so as to try to preserve a semblance of it being a surprise hoping she would present the gifts nicely, exactly when who knows since I'm already 34 weeks. Dad comes over today and says what was the problem with the gift from MIL, we bought everything, you are so ungrateful! ????????

And, what do I do now? I still have everything we purchased so there must be 4 starter bottle sets, 2 bottle warmers, lots of soothies, 12 swaddle designs and aden/anais swaddle blankets, etc. Do I ask my mom to return what she bought ( i used the 20% coupon, don't think she had one)?

Seriously! How is this my fault???? Thoughts...opinions... comments......

So much for a sweet surprise. Should've known I was expecting too much.

Posted 7/15/13 2:00 PM