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mommyIam
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please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Thank you all who responded, I appreciate it. I was just out of my mind yesterday I guess. DH and I talked and all is forgiven, I was really out of line I'm starting to see I need to let him take the lead with the baby sometimes, instead of taking over. Especially when I'm out of sorts.
The idea of letting him put the baby to bed solo, is the best idea I ever heard 
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Honestly if you're mad about it then you have your own reasons and you're own right to be.
Do I think you're over reacting? Heck if I know.. there's a lot that goes into a bedtime routine and I don't know, did it really bother your son? Was it something he's done before and got on your nerves? Do you think doing it again will have the same reaction out of you? I don't know
There's always a first for everything. If its his first slip well I hope you reacted harshly enough there will be no seconds 
At the end of the day tho. Was your son bothered by it? If not, then meh. If so, yep Ape Sh!t sounds about right to me 
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jteach
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
I am sorry but I would not be angry about that in the slightest. I get that your routine is important but he didn't really ruin your routine. He took a quick call and left the room when you asked and got off the phone quickly
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| Posted 3/31/11 8:05 PM |
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mommyIam
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by jteach
I am sorry but I would not be angry about that in the slightest. I get that your routine is important but he didn't really ruin your routine. He took a quick call and left the room when you asked and got off the phone quickly
don't be sorry, I am asking for these kind of answers, because I want to know how crazy I really am 
Does it matter that he answered right in front of DS, before I asked him to leave the room?
I just think it would annoy me if I were getting ready for bed and someone answered a phone call right in front of my face that had nothing to do with me.
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jennandrob
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
I might have been annoyed too ----
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twicethefun
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Although I might have been annoyed I would have tried to bite my tongue. And if we had a better relationship, I would have let him know that in the future I wish he would just take it outside.
With my first child, I was a nut about the routine. But with my second it often gets messed up and I realize that its just part of life.
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by jteach
I am sorry but I would not be angry about that in the slightest. I get that your routine is important but he didn't really ruin your routine. He took a quick call and left the room when you asked and got off the phone quickly
I agree--if your DS wasn't upset by it, then I wouldn't be. The routine will be disrupted from time to time, and while a routine is good, I think it also needs to be flexible enough to allow for slight changes like this.
I think you interrupting the song by saying to your DH in front of DS "are you kidding me, we are doing bedtime? can you go to the other room?" in what I assume is an angry tone is probably more upsetting to your DS than your DH answering the call.
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by jteach
I am sorry but I would not be angry about that in the slightest. I get that your routine is important but he didn't really ruin your routine. He took a quick call and left the room when you asked and got off the phone quickly
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
annoying a bit, but not a huge deal for me. I think it was an overreaction on your part.
Now if it had woke your son up and you had to spend a lot of time getting him back to sleep, I'd be on your side...
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
I can understand you getting annoyed, but I don't think I'd be angry. I'd probably talk to him about not doing that in the future once I calmed down.
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| Posted 3/31/11 8:33 PM |
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Kahuna
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Yes, you are overreacting.
60 seconds of distraction during a bedtime routine that you and your husband will repeat several times over caused you to "have a cow"?
The baby certainly isn't upset. Heck, the baby probably isn't even aware that Dad took a call.
Also, something I noticed...you referred to DS as "my baby". It might help to start thinking of DS as "our baby". Give up some of that tightfisted control you have and stupid things like this won't send you over the edge. Why doesn't your DH pick a night and put DH to bed all by himself? A little dad to son bonding and no fights about missing the last lines to "Baa baa black sheep".
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| Posted 3/31/11 8:36 PM |
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by jteach
I am sorry but I would not be angry about that in the slightest. I get that your routine is important but he didn't really ruin your routine. He took a quick call and left the room when you asked and got off the phone quickly
I agree.
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by -Lisa-
annoying a bit, but not a huge deal for me. I think it was an overreaction on your part.
Now if it had woke your son up and you had to spend a lot of time getting him back to sleep, I'd be on your side...
This.
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by -Lisa-
annoying a bit, but not a huge deal for me. I think it was an overreaction on your part.
Now if it had woke your son up and you had to spend a lot of time getting him back to sleep, I'd be on your side...
ITA!
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by jteach
I am sorry but I would not be angry about that in the slightest. I get that your routine is important but he didn't really ruin your routine. He took a quick call and left the room when you asked and got off the phone quickly
sorry but I totally agree
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by jteach
I am sorry but I would not be angry about that in the slightest. I get that your routine is important but he didn't really ruin your routine. He took a quick call and left the room when you asked and got off the phone quickly
I agree--if your DS wasn't upset by it, then I wouldn't be. The routine will be disrupted from time to time, and while a routine is good, I think it also needs to be flexible enough to allow for slight changes like this.
I think you interrupting the song by saying to your DH in front of DS "are you kidding me, we are doing bedtime? can you go to the other room?" in what I assume is an angry tone is probably more upsetting to your DS than your DH answering the call.
ITA...I am one to be more of a stickler but I think you're definitely overreacting with this one.
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GioiaMia
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
You think it was disrespectful to the baby? I think you are wrong, sorry  I would never even THINK to be mad at that.
If you were mad bc he woke the baby up then I would understand.
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by -Lisa-
annoying a bit, but not a huge deal for me. I think it was an overreaction on your part.
Now if it had woke your son up and you had to spend a lot of time getting him back to sleep, I'd be on your side...
ditto. but it would also depend on how bad i was pms'ing.
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jambalady
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Is it annoying? yeah, a little.
But I would not be mad about it.
The only reason I may be mad is if my DS was such a high maintenance child that he needed the perfect routine to sleep and never slept otherwise.
If it didn't bother your DS, it shouldn't bother you.
And, I used to be stickler with bedtime routine with DS#1, and still am somewhat with my younger DD.
However, I often wonder if I did DS a disservice by being such a stickler to his routine, bc now I have a DS that can't sleep anywhere but his bed, in our house, with our routine.
Sleep on vacation or at grandma & papa's is a nightmare bc he NEEDS routine.
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Yes I think you are overreacting but I can understand bc I think I would have been livid too. I'm crazy about things being a certain way for my DS so I understand where you are coming from. But, what I have learned in the past month and especially last week, is that babies are more flexible than we give them credit for and that our world and their world doesn't fall apart bc something doesn't go our way.
e.g. DH and I went out 1 night for dinner anout 1 month ago, 1st time ever that neither of us was there for bedtime, only the 2nd time ever that I hadn't been there (1st time was for an emergency). Anyway, my parents put DS to bed in our house. I was so worried he wouldn't fall asleep bc the routine wasn't going to be the same. Not only did he fall asleep easily and on time, but he slept 8:13 the next morning! (he'd been waking at 7)
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mommyIam
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by waiting4ablessing
Posted by -Lisa-
annoying a bit, but not a huge deal for me. I think it was an overreaction on your part.
Now if it had woke your son up and you had to spend a lot of time getting him back to sleep, I'd be on your side...
ditto. but it would also depend on how bad i was pms'ing.
you hit the nail on the head, I just checked the calender AF is on the horizon 
Thanks everyone for putting it into perspective.
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mlny
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
It would have really annoyed me. But don't get me started on how much of a stickler i am when it comes to bed time in this house! 
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Diana1215
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Re: please talk me down, am I wrong? re: bedtime routine
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by jteach
I am sorry but I would not be angry about that in the slightest. I get that your routine is important but he didn't really ruin your routine. He took a quick call and left the room when you asked and got off the phone quickly
I agree--if your DS wasn't upset by it, then I wouldn't be. The routine will be disrupted from time to time, and while a routine is good, I think it also needs to be flexible enough to allow for slight changes like this.
I think you interrupting the song by saying to your DH in front of DS "are you kidding me, we are doing bedtime? can you go to the other room?" in what I assume is an angry tone is probably more upsetting to your DS than your DH answering the call.
ITA
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