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MsSissy
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
I would just wait for him to come home with out calling him. Try and get all your thoughts together so you're prepared to hit him with with everything when he walks in. Don't give HIM time to think about anything. Stay strong.
Message edited 6/21/2007 9:33:58 AM.
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My2Boys
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Is there anyone you can call to help you calm down a bit? I wouldn't call your husband b/c I'm sure he will hear it in your voice.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:04 PM |
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Phyl
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Posted by julz33
I would wait until he gets home. Ask him about it again. When he says "why don't you trust me" that is when you take the printed out evidence outto show him.
ITA. Talk to him face to face.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:05 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
I would wait until he gets home. You want to catch him off guard and you want to SEE his reaction when you question him. Don't give him time to think of all the right things to say.
Did you print out the emails? I think that's a good way to start the conversation and to see his "OH Sh!T" look.
I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now. 
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:05 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
What do you want to do?
The spiteful side of me says clean out the joint account, deposit the binder into your account, pack his stuff & leave it on the porch.
The rational side says sleep on it (if you can) tonight & see how you feel in the morning.
The big thing is don't let him turn this around on you. Focusing on you "violating" his privacy. That's not the issue.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:05 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Diana - good idea about the emails. Maybe you should just go to bed & leave them on the counter.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:06 PM |
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Christine
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
I am so sorry you are going through this.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:06 PM |
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julz33
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Posted by nrthshgrl
The big thing is don't let him turn this around on you. Focusing on you "violating" his privacy. That's not the issue.
I am sure that is what he is going to do... make sure you prepare for that!
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:07 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Posted by nrthshgrl
What do you want to do?
The spiteful side of me says clean out the joint account, deposit the binder into your account, pack his stuff & leave it on the porch.
The rational side says sleep on it (if you can) tonight & see how you feel in the morning.
The big thing is don't let him turn this around on you. Focusing on you "violating" his privacy. That's not the issue.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
That's what I said in FM - that he will feel backed against the wall and try and turn this into a "you went into my email" fight - hand him the printout...
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:07 PM |
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Wendy1220
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
I wouldn't call him because if he has an idea, it'll give him time to come up with a story. I'd confront him and see what he has to say and if he still denies it, then I'd show him the emails. But then the crazy side of me would make him think I bought the story and surprise him with the printed emails on his pillow when he goes to bed.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:09 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Don't even justify any of his issues with you checking his email. Your GUT was telling you that something was wrong and you were right. You have NOTHING to defend, you are not the one who did anything wrong. He is your husband - and if you thought something was going on you had every right to do what you did.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:11 PM |
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Bellaocchi
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Message edited 6/21/2007 3:30:10 AM.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:11 PM |
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Wendy1220
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
I agree with everyone else, he's going to try to turn it around on you. Don't buy into it, you had a gut feeling and followed it and turned out to be correct, this is all him, don't let him make you feel other wise.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:13 PM |
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MrsPornStar
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Posted by Diana1215
Don't even justify any of his issues with you checking his email. Your GUT was telling you that something was wrong and you were right. You have NOTHING to defend, you are not the one who did anything wrong. He is your husband - and if you thought something was going on you had every right to do what you did.
I agree. You did not do anything wrong. I think you should print the emails and show them to him on paper.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:14 PM |
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My heart is hurting for you - I don't know what to say, so I'm just going to send some and "be strong" vibes 
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:15 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Posted by hmpena
Posted by Diana1215
Don't even justify any of his issues with you checking his email. Your GUT was telling you that something was wrong and you were right. You have NOTHING to defend, you are not the one who did anything wrong. He is your husband - and if you thought something was going on you had every right to do what you did.
I agree. You did not do anything wrong. I think you should print the emails and show them to him on paper.
I would print them, before they get deleted somehow.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:15 PM |
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IrishTracy
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
So sorry you are going thru this!!
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:16 PM |
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beautyq115
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Him cheating on you definetely outweighs you looking through his e-mails especially since you had reason to
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:17 PM |
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nickipa
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
i am sooo very sorry you are going thru this! Do you feel up to talking to him tonight about this? I think you did the right thing by following your gut and checking it out, and don't let him make you feel bad for checking his email--it doesn't change what he was doing. Please know we are all here for you!!!
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:17 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Posted by Mssissy
Posted by hmpena
Posted by Diana1215
Don't even justify any of his issues with you checking his email. Your GUT was telling you that something was wrong and you were right. You have NOTHING to defend, you are not the one who did anything wrong. He is your husband - and if you thought something was going on you had every right to do what you did.
I agree. You did not do anything wrong. I think you should print the emails and show them to him on paper.
I would print them, before they get deleted somehow.
I also agree with printing them. And, I for one would throw them right in his face as he walked in the door.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:17 PM |
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skew
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
edited to protect the privacy of the OP
Message edited 6/21/2007 10:31:32 AM.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:20 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
My heart aches for you right now....please know you're not alone, and we're ALL here if you need anything.
I am so sorry.
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:25 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Vee - you still there?
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:41 PM |
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Jenziba
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
OMG...I'm so sorry you have to deal with this...
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| Posted 6/20/07 11:43 PM |
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DaniJude
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Re: PLEASE HELP ME!!
Posted by nrthshgrl
What do you want to do?
The spiteful side of me says clean out the joint account, deposit the binder into your account, pack his stuff & leave it on the porch.
I'm so with you on this one 
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