People can be so naive

I hope this doesn't offend anyone if you have once been in this position ........ but since everyone on here knows that having a baby doesn't happen automatically, I think we can all agree and

A few people in the family have either recently had a baby or are pregnant. A cousin of mine is getting married this summer and talks in detail about how SHE WILL get pregnant on her honeymoon. She is so convinced this will happen for her right away and says she wants her baby to be around the same age as another cousin who is currently pregnant.

She is just CONVINCED that she will leave for her honeymoon, and return as a family of 3 She loves to plan things and thinks she has this one all figured out.

Who knows, maybe she will be lucky.... but I feel like if she was SERIOUSLY hoping to conceive this summer she should open up a book... and turn to the page that says there's only a 20% chance each cycle....

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I have a friend who is like this...she makes me want to

I don't say anything - figure she'll realize soon enough that you don't always get things your way...no matter how much you plan.

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I currently have a friend who just decided to start trying and thinks the same way! Although it is somewhat frustrating, and you just want to educate them so they don't set themselves up for heartbreak, I know I was the SAME way at first. I think everyone has this preconception from movies, tv, and people who get pregnant without even trying, as well as the fact that this is our overall reason for being a WOMAN, that it will just happen the second we defy protection. I know for myself, I have spent the past decade using various ways of avoiding pregnancy thinking it was such a simple mistake to be made (pre being ready for a baby). My mom got pregnant the second the thought entered her mind with all of her children. So she has also fueled my whole though process that we are fertile myrtles and will get pregnant instantly. It is so scary when you have these misconceptions and you think you will get pregnant right away, and all of a sudden you struggle and realize it isn't so easy. When my husband and I first started trying, I kept saying, "are you really sure you are ready, bc it will probably happen right away." 5 months later, sudden irregular 50 day cycles, and being diagnosed with PCOS has quickly made that thought disappear from my mind. Now I am just grateful that I am 27 and have time on my hands. I think this can be an extremely frustrating road if you have such high expectations going into it! It is frustrating enough as is lol! I totally understand what your saying now...we are already *seasoned* TTCers and realize that TTC implies much more than 1 night and 1 month for MOST of us. I know when I talk to my friend I sound like such a Negative Nancy so I try not to even talk about any of this. I hope she gets pregnant right away and if not she will know to talk to me bc ive been down this road. Maybe a good idea would be to suggest a book to her or buy her one if you are close to her. It is a great resource and has a lot of great information! Taking Charge of Your Fertility is the most informative! I hope this helped! Don't get yourself down about the *Holiday* baby talk...I have been there...people just do not understand until they go through it themselves!

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This is when you just nod your head and say good luck. I hope she is that lucky but you and the rest of us know the real deal.

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I have a close friend who is the exact same way (honeymoon story and all!). I just smile when she says it. DH and I know the truth (as do many on this board). If it takes her longer than expected, I'll be there for her. If not, she's lucky. Only time will tell.

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Posted by incinta

Posted by hidingmybfp

This is when you just nod your head and say good luck. I hope she is that lucky but you and the rest of us know the real deal.

ita, b/c it IS how it happens for some people as unfair as that seems.

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Posted by TryinTC

Posted by incinta

Posted by hidingmybfp

This is when you just nod your head and say good luck. I hope she is that lucky but you and the rest of us know the real deal.

ita, b/c it IS how it happens for some people as unfair as that seems.

That's exactly it. As much as us experienced TTCers don't want to hear it (I'm now on month #5), it does happen just like that for some people. Two of my closest girlfriends both recently got pregnant the first month they tried. So then when the time came for us to try, it was like what's wrong with me that it didn't happen overnight for us Everyone's different I guess.

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Posted by incinta

Posted by hidingmybfp

This is when you just nod your head and say good luck. I hope she is that lucky but you and the rest of us know the real deal.

ita, b/c it IS how it happens for some people as unfair as that seems.

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Posted by yeah-yeah

Posted by incinta

Posted by hidingmybfp

This is when you just nod your head and say good luck. I hope she is that lucky but you and the rest of us know the real deal.

ita, b/c it IS how it happens for some people as unfair as that seems.

I also agree.

I also don't think it's necessary to roll eyes at someone who doesn't "open a book." Sometimes I think too much information can be a bad thing...