Oversensitive?

So I figure Christmas was an opportunity to brighten my spirits after hearing my pre-ovarian failure diagnosis just 2 weeks ago, but apparently, I was wrong.

So, Christmas Eve, while at my Grandmother's house with my Dad's entire side of the family (which I was already dreading b/c of all the "new" young children in the family), my cousin decides to announce that he and his wife are expecting their 2nd child. Its not that I am not happy for them, but hearing it just 2 weeks after hearing that I have an extremely low (like 6%) chance of having my own children without a DE, was gutwrenching.

Needless to say, I couldn't stay in the room and the casual glass of wine I was enjoying, became several to just get through the night. In their(my extended family) defense, they are not yet aware of our entire situation, but know we are having difficulties. Needless to say it was a rough start to the holiday and put a damper on the entire thing for me. Am I just being oversensitive?

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No, you are not being overly sensitive. You are grieving normally after having just gotten some VERY diffucult news two weeks ago. Your feelings are completely normal. I would have felt the same way and done whatever I had to to get through the day.

It isn't that you aren't happy for your cousin, it is that you are still sad for yourself and that is understandable. Some people just have babies without thinking about it, while others (through no fault of their own) have a much, much harder time.

I'm sorry you had a tough Christmas.

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Posted by Sneezy

No, you are not being overly sensitive. You are grieving normally after having just gotten some VERY diffucult news two weeks ago. Your feelings are completely normal. I would have felt the same way and done whatever I had to to get through the day.

It isn't that you aren't happy for your cousin, it is that you are still sad for yourself and that is understandable. Some people just have babies without thinking about it, while others (through no fault of their own) have a much, much harder time.

I'm sorry you had a tough Christmas.

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No, you are not oversensitive. It is a perfectly natural feeling to have.

You do not begrudge them their future child, you are just longing for your own.

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Thank you! I wasn't sure if it was just me overreacting or if my feelings were "justified". I am on a very high dosage of Estrogen as well, so I didn't know if that wasn't helping either.

I guess until my time comes, I am just going to have to deal with these situations, because they will occur. But I am completely happy for them!

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Posted by IrishLass

No, you are not oversensitive. It is a perfectly natural feeling to have.

You do not begrudge them their future child, you are just longing for your own.

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I think your reaction was normal. I was the same way after hearing the same news..... it is very difficult sometimes but it gets a little easier with time.

FM if you need to talk.