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maryg
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Our obsession with the house that "got away"
This has sort of become an obsession with my dh and I even though she never accepted our offer and we are in contract for something else....
There was this house which is really quite...crappy, we were interested in. We made an offer but it was too "low". The person who made the second offer a week later, it was 7K more than our highest and he got it.
Anyhow, his offer got accepted but the owner, this older lady rejected his offer and refused to sign the contract AFTER she found out he was black. (He saw the house during an open house so I guess she didn't know.)
Today while speaking with our re agent whom has become "friend" like, told us she didn't accept our offer NOT b/c it was too low, but it's because I am not white. (my husband is but I'm not) 
I have to say I was really surprised to hear that. Apparently the neighborhood is very white. Not that it matters we're still moving to the same town! 
We keep "checking" up on her to see if she got anymore offers, which she hasn't. I don't want to wish bad on her but it sort of ****** me off, maybe sadden me to think that she thought of me that way. I mean what will the neighbors in my "new" neighborhood think of me? I'm not dark but I'm not white so I guess it groups me in the undesirable people category. 
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beachgirl13
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
wow that's crazy. It's sick there are people out there like that.
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| Posted 6/29/06 12:22 AM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
 i would totally report her prejudice azz!!!
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| Posted 6/29/06 12:42 AM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
It is really sad to think that this still goes on. Years ago it was a very common practice, hence the reason why LI is still very racially segregated.
For example, and extreme case I know, but several years ago I was privy to 3 cases where neighbors in Garden City chipped in and bought three different houses (all way over a million 15 years ago) on three different blocks rather than having the "potential buyer" be, according to them, an "undesirable" race/ethnicity/religion.
Actually, years ago, and not too many, real estate agents would deliberately not show houses in certain areas to minorities... they would always steer them to other areas or lie and say certain houses were in contract.
The most important characteristics for me in a neighbor are
1. Do they take care of their property?
2. Are they respectful?
3. Are they loud at unreasonable hours?
Right now my Dad has a white woman who has lived next to him for years, she can't afford the house anymore and her property is in shambles
People need to wake up and realize what really makes a good neighbor.
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| Posted 6/29/06 12:47 AM |
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sunnyplus3
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
this is disgusting....but I'm not surprised its still happening. People here on LI like to say they believe in diversity, but for the most part its a lie.
My school district is racially diverse....and many people shy away from it-saying it doesn't rate well. Thats a lie, it gets the same marks as other middle class mostly white school districts, people say its very violent, again lie-none of its schools even made that list for the most violent. People make excuses why they don't want to live in racially diverse areas.
Here's a great one that I flipped out over, I'm on the board of directors for our neighborhood civic association, I just found out a few weeks ago that our by-laws STATED "members must be white" till the LATE 70s!!!
What the frig were these people thinking?????
I think I'd make a call to newsday or write the lady a letter or something.
I would not let that go.
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| Posted 6/29/06 6:09 AM |
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danielleandscott
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
This is illegal....You can report her.
I dont know what will happen....But this is discrimination.
Scott
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| Posted 6/29/06 7:39 AM |
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Maathy317
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
This is blatant discrimination and should be reported immediately. Some years ago, friends of my husband were selling their house in Floral Park. They refused to sell to a black couple. This couple not only met their price, but, exceeded it. Not long after, a representative from New York State was standing at their door and telling them that a discrimination complaint had been filed against them. They were told that if they continued what they were doing, they could not only be fined, but, could have discrimination charges placed against them and face legal action. This is a very serious matter and this woman should have been told by her real estate representative that she cannot legally do this. Shame on her!
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| Posted 6/29/06 7:53 AM |
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MegZee
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
thats awful.
Its amazing people think like that.
Im sure you will find an even better home 
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| Posted 6/29/06 7:57 AM |
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
Wow, that woman is a real moron. Hope that house sits for a looooong time.
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| Posted 6/29/06 8:44 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
I agree...I hope the house sits for a long time too!
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| Posted 6/29/06 8:46 AM |
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azoodie
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
what a crazy bi zotch!! i wouldn't waste my time even worrying about her! That house just wasnt meant to be for you and everything will work out for the better i'm sure!
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| Posted 6/29/06 8:47 AM |
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BigB
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
It doesn't make it right, but it is the owner's choice who they sell their house to.
For example, many older couples prefer to sell their house to a family with small children because it reminds them of the family that they raise. As long as the broker is not influencing or shooing away potential buyers, then the owner can do what he/she chooses. The fiduciary responsibilities lie in that of the sales person, not the seller.
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| Posted 6/29/06 9:40 AM |
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maryg
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
A lot of you are saying to report her but I think she will get away with it.  She'll say, she didn't accept our offer b/c it was too low and she didn't accept the other buyer's offer b/c they couldn't come to an agreement with something or another. Unfortunately, unless someone actualy meets her price or exceeds it and she doesn't accept, then maybe they would have a better chance. Now it's just a game of you said and I heard. I think maybe the re agent is privy to this info like a lawyer. I don't even know if the agent could testify against this or something.
It really is upsetting b/c my dh and I are good working class people. Well, he works and I change diapers but same thing. 
maybe the house will sit on the market forever since it's slowing down....
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| Posted 6/29/06 9:40 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
OMG! that's nuts! what a racist witch
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| Posted 6/29/06 9:55 AM |
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riniko
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
What an absolute bigot. What town was it in?
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| Posted 6/29/06 9:57 AM |
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LIBOUND
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
Posted by maryg
A lot of you are saying to report her but I think she will get away with it. She'll say, she didn't accept our offer b/c it was too low and she didn't accept the other buyer's offer b/c they couldn't come to an agreement with something or another. Unfortunately, unless someone actualy meets her price or exceeds it and she doesn't accept, then maybe they would have a better chance. Now it's just a game of you said and I heard. I think maybe the re agent is privy to this info like a lawyer. I don't even know if the agent could testify against this or something.
It really is upsetting b/c my dh and I are good working class people. Well, he works and I change diapers but same thing.
maybe the house will sit on the market forever since it's slowing down....
We experienced the same thing, only no one had the ba!!s to admit it. MY RE in the beginning showed us nothing short of crack dens in crappy areas, and from day one I set her straight and said that if she showed me one more house like this that she would not be hearing from us again. Her tune quickly changed.
As part of a mixed couple (hispanic-me and dh is black/mixed) we had at least two of these instances, but could prove nothing. All I needed was to see the looks on the homeowners faces to know that even if I tried to give them double the price, they would have had some excuse or another to not sell to us..not that I would ever do that anyway!
Your house is out there somewhere. Ours was and we're extremely happy with our choice. This homeowner realized that my money was just as green as the next person's.
...and don't forget, Karma is a beyotch!!!
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| Posted 6/29/06 9:58 AM |
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Ladybug63
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
All I can say it that I'm disgusted
I hope she gets some White Trash family in there who destroys her once beloved home. 
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| Posted 6/29/06 10:04 AM |
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maryg
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Mary
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
Posted by riniko
What an absolute bigot. What town was it in?
The house is in Lindenhurst.
My other house that I am in contract for is also in Lindenhurst. Just a hop skip away (5 blocks) from this woman's house. When I move into my new house and should she still live there maybe I'll wander around her block until she sees me.
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| Posted 6/29/06 10:14 AM |
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Beth
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
my Dad said he doesn't care who buys his house - he's moving
but while the what the lady did is gross- the only way it's illegal is it the real estate agent refused to show you houses in certain neighborhoods b/c of your race, religion or ethic background
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| Posted 6/29/06 10:17 AM |
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anjerandunder
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
i'm sorry that happened to you guys. that is an awful way to live life and karma will come back to her.
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| Posted 6/29/06 10:24 AM |
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dpli
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
Posted by maryg
Posted by riniko
What an absolute bigot. What town was it in?
The house is in Lindenhurst.
My other house that I am in contract for is also in Lindenhurst. Just a hop skip away (5 blocks) from this woman's house. When I move into my new house and should she still live there maybe I'll wander around her block until she sees me.
You should get a bike and ride laps around her block when she has future open houses.
I think it's racist but people get away with it because they come up with some other "reason" why they didn't sell to a particular buyer. I am white and would rather have a good neighbor of another race next door, than a white neighbor who is disrespectful, obnoxious or keeps their property a mess.
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| Posted 6/29/06 10:39 AM |
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MegZee
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
Posted by maryg
Posted by riniko
What an absolute bigot. What town was it in?
The house is in Lindenhurst.
My other house that I am in contract for is also in Lindenhurst. Just a hop skip away (5 blocks) from this woman's house. When I move into my new house and should she still live there maybe I'll wander around her block until she sees me.
Oh I would!!! jog past her house every day, when she comes outside smile and waive. IM sure the house will still have the for sale sign in front.
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| Posted 6/29/06 10:55 AM |
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Jessee
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
You should totally send in some friends or family who are black, or not white, have them show interest and offer something close or at asking price - let the woman struggle with an excuse then!!
Sorry you had to deal with this. To me, a good neighbor is not based on race - it's just ridiculous.
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| Posted 6/29/06 11:01 AM |
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Maathy317
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
Posted by BigB
It doesn't make it right, but it is the owner's choice who they sell their house to.
For example, many older couples prefer to sell their house to a family with small children because it reminds them of the family that they raise. As long as the broker is not influencing or shooing away potential buyers, then the owner can do what he/she chooses. The fiduciary responsibilities lie in that of the sales person, not the seller.
While you are right that the owner can choose who to sell their house to, it is illegal to discriminate on the basis of color. That is exactly what this situation is. This woman proclaimed that she would not sell to blacks. She cannot do this. If she didn't want to sell to a particular couple based on the color of their skin, she can pull her house off the market, but, she absolutely, positively cannot deny them the house if they meet all the criteria, based on their skin color. If she does this, she can have a civil suit filed against her by both the couple and the State.
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| Posted 6/29/06 11:11 AM |
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Freddie
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Re: Our obsession with the house that "got away"
This is so incredibly sad! I'm so sorry.
Once all these old bats die, I hope that alot of these issues die with them.
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| Posted 6/29/06 11:20 AM |
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