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NoStressMom
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OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Ok make this short and sweet my brother is getting married for the second time. great
Fiance has a big family
Fiance has allot of nieces and nephews
Fiance wants all her family at the rehearsal dinner but they aren't in the wedding party! My parents are inviting all of her brother and sisters and there wifes and husbands but not all of there kids and she is making a big deal but they all live here and see each other every weekend!
Don't u think it is rude to be asking to have them all there when this is something that my parents are paying for!!
My brother was surposed to tell her this 4 months ago and must not of!! So parents are mad and might just say fine but I don't think they should! I need opinions Thanks
I hope this makes sense!
TIA Denise
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Posted 7/22/05 9:19 AM  |
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Leeners
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Honestly? I think they should be at the RD. IMO, it's for your BP and immediate family. To me, that includes my brothers and sisters, as well as their spouses and children.
But that's JMO.
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:22 AM |
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Janice
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
If it is not too late, maybe your parents can just give a set amount of money, and if they want more then it is out of their pocket. I don't personally understand big RDs. It turns into a mini wedding.
But if children are not in BP, they should be left home with babysitter.
Message edited 7/22/2005 9:25:45 AM.
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:24 AM |
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june262004
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Posted by Leeners
Honestly? I think they should be at the RD. IMO, it's for your BP and immediate family. To me, that includes my brothers and sisters, as well as their spouses and children.
But that's JMO.
Me too
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:24 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Posted by Leeners
Honestly? I think they should be at the RD. IMO, it's for your BP and immediate family. To me, that includes my brothers and sisters, as well as their spouses and children.
But that's JMO.
Me too. We had all brothers and sisters, spouses and children. It may seem like a lot to your parents, but if her parents are covering the entire wedding that's a lot more $...JMO. It is hard when it is a large family.
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:25 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Well, I don't think it's necessary to invite all of her nieces & nephews. If anything she can have another get together on her time w/ all of her family. When someone else is paying for something you can't be demanding and expect to get everything you want. I think your parents are being generous enough.
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:26 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
is the Fiances parents paying for the wedding? Meaning the hall? Are your parents contributing to the wedding itself?
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:31 AM |
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NoStressMom
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Yes my parents gave them some money but her parents are paying for most of it!
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:33 AM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Personally, I think its important to have her neices and nephews at the rehearsal dinner - besides who would they leave the kids with if all their parents are at the dinner? Even though they aren't part of the bridal party - they are still part of her immediate family and should be part of their aunt and uncle's rehearsal dinner.
How many neices and nephews does she have? Now if they start bringing dates and such - then it could get a bit exaggerated- but otherwise i think its still reasonable and important to have them there.
sorry - just my opinion.
Message edited 7/22/2005 9:39:51 AM.
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:38 AM |
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TAD
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Posted by Leeners
Honestly? I think they should be at the RD. IMO, it's for your BP and immediate family. To me, that includes my brothers and sisters, as well as their spouses and children.
But that's JMO.
I agree to but maybe have your folks just say a set money that they were going to pay with and have your brother and future SIL pay the difference. but I do think immediate family should be there.
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:38 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Posted by NoStressBride
Yes my parents gave them some money but her parents are paying for most of it!
hmmm...well i do think that RD are for people in the BP. And all aunts and uncles is excessive. It would be a nice gesture on your parents part!
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| Posted 7/22/05 9:43 AM |
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lullabella
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
I agree with your FSIL, I would want my brother and sisters there. How would you feel if you weren't invited?
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| Posted 7/22/05 10:02 AM |
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NoStressMom
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Posted by lullabella
I agree with your FSIL, I would want my brother and sisters there. How would you feel if you weren't invited?
Her brother and sister are coming but it is also there kids who are old enough like 14 15 18 years and then dates for them etc.
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| Posted 7/22/05 3:16 PM |
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dpli
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
I invited nieces and nephews to ours, but left it up to the parents whether or not they wanted to bring them. But...my RD was pretty small, only 10 people, including the 2 kids.
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| Posted 7/22/05 3:17 PM |
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dpli
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Posted by NoStressBride
Posted by lullabella
I agree with your FSIL, I would want my brother and sisters there. How would you feel if you weren't invited?
Her brother and sister are coming but it is also there kids who are old enough like 14 15 18 years and then dates for them etc.
OK, I would say DATES for the nieces and nephews is a bit excessive.
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| Posted 7/22/05 3:18 PM |
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Juliet
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
My brother is getting married again next month and I don't even think they are having a rehearsal dinner. My mom said she paid for the first one and she won't pay for this one. His circumstances are different though, he didn't wait to get divorced before he planned another wedding so he is waiting for his papers to be signed by next month.
As far as the nieces and nephews bringing dates, that is definitely excessive. Your parents are generous enough to be hosting a rehearsal dinner for your brother's SECOND wedding. I am not saying that there shouldn't be one since it is his second wedding, just that the groom's parents shouldn't have to pay for another one. I think the situation is different for a second wedding because your parents are not offering your brother in marriage the way they might have the first time around. He has been out of the house and on his own and is getting married again.
Her siblings should be there, but nieces and nephews who are over 13 or 14 years old can take care of themselves and probably wouldn't want to go anyway!
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| Posted 7/22/05 4:00 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
Posted by Leeners
Honestly? I think they should be at the RD. IMO, it's for your BP and immediate family. To me, that includes my brothers and sisters, as well as their spouses and children.
But that's JMO.
I agree with this as well! At my RD I even included my flowergirls brother (a cousin).
IMO its a nice gesture to include the immediate family.
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| Posted 7/22/05 4:20 PM |
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suvenR
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
We had everyone at our RD. It was going to be too dramatic to leave off people. For example: we had one cousin in the BP, that person's parents are my God Parents. They also have another child ( my other cousin) so how could we leave him out?
We had 50 people at our RD 
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| Posted 7/23/05 9:30 AM |
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dooodles
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
IMO: I think the aunts, uncles and cousins with dates is a bit excessive. I always counted the RD just for the BP. Isn't the whole family going to be together at the wedding?
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| Posted 7/23/05 11:52 AM |
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pschica
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Re: OPINIONS PLEASE!!
i love having kids around - and that is how we grew up - kids were always invited and attended evertyhing - funerals, weddings, parties, etc. (and we were good, not bratty kids, which i think made a difference!)
is the location already set? sometimes restaurants offer free or 1/2 price meals for kids - could this be an option?
i think in all, its up to your parents and your brother and his fiance. if she and/or her family still want them there - maybe they could offer to pay for the kids, or they could talk to the management to see about reduced prices? how did it work when other siblings of hers got married? (were the kids invited?)
i can understand how hard it must be for everyone, big  s to you and your parents
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| Posted 7/23/05 12:09 PM |
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