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hbugal
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OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
...but I have to ask.
You and your SO go out to dinner with 3 other couples. You already agree that the check is going to be split evenly as this is what you always do. One of the couples is a last minute tag-a-long and they have already eaten dinner and are going to just get their drinks from the bar....which is fine with you and the other couples. Tag-a-long couple doesnt order any food from the table BUT they do eat from the bread basket...pick at the apps order by the other couples..and leave their glasses on the table instead of bringing them back up to the bar...goes through a ton of water etc...My question is this...should they have chipped in on part of the tip for the waitress?
This happened several months ago and we arent friends with them our neighbors are...we just found out that they havent spoken to them since then b/c they thought that they should of thrown in part of the tip b/c they did eat and they were "waited" on by the waitress..
Opinions????
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
ehhh... they SHOULD have... but not everyone thinks of tipping when they don't actually order anything from a table.
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| Posted 2/24/08 9:53 PM |
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Reese32
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
If it were me, I wouldn't have let them tip. It would have been a nice gesture, but in my opinion, not necessary. To not speak to them because of it is a bit much. But if we were the other couple, we probably would have offered to leave the tip.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:00 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
It would have been nice and considerate of them to volunteer to, but not a huge deal that they didn't. The waitress was probably making the same trips to the table that she would have if they weren't there, to serve food and refill water. Honestly, if my friends had done the same thing and offered to put in for tip, I probably would have waved them off and told them not to worry about it.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:03 PM |
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by Reese32
If it were me, I wouldn't have let them tip. It would have been a nice gesture, but in my opinion, not necessary. To not speak to them because of it is a bit much. But if we were the other couple, we probably would have offered to leave the tip.
ditto, totally agree on all points.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:04 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
I would never expect someone to contribute to the tip if they didn't order anything, even if they were waited on. I think that is so odd. And I certainly wouldn't stop speaking to someone over this.
Message edited 2/24/2008 10:08:08 PM.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:07 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
If it was me who was this tag-along couple, I would offer tip money because I am sitting at the table and it's the right thing to do in my mind. But if someone else was the tag-along couple, I woud refuse their offer to leave a tip. However, I would not have thought twice if they never offered.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:08 PM |
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by prncss
If it was me who was this tag-along couple, I would offer tip money because I am sitting at the table and it's the right thing to do in my mind. But if someone else was the tag-along couple, I woud refuse their offer to leave a tip. However, I would not have thought twice if they never offered.
Agree.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:11 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by prncss
If it was me who was this tag-along couple, I would offer tip money because I am sitting at the table and it's the right thing to do in my mind. But if someone else was the tag-along couple, I woud refuse their offer to leave a tip. However, I would not have thought twice if they never offered.
That was basically what I meant to say, but it didn't come out quite as succinctly. 
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:12 PM |
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Yes, they should have offered. If you all just ordered nothing, you would not have had a table to sit at and enjoy your evening. They took advantage of the stuff on the table that was not technically on the bill.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:13 PM |
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Alli06
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
I don't think it's that big of deal! I get more upset when people your out with order food and don't give enough money, and your stuck with putting more money in.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:35 PM |
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by Jax430
It would have been nice and considerate of them to volunteer to, but not a huge deal that they didn't.
ditto. i wouldnt end a friendship over something so frivalous as chipping in for a tip. i would just  at the situation and move on.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:47 PM |
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by Reese32
If it were me, I wouldn't have let them tip. It would have been a nice gesture, but in my opinion, not necessary. To not speak to them because of it is a bit much. But if we were the other couple, we probably would have offered to leave the tip.
I feel the same way. Although it could be the last straw fo rthe couple.
I would also think differently about the couple who cut off the friendship - mainly that they were hypersensitive & if I wanted to be close with them, I'd have to watch my step.
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:53 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by Kerie-is-so-very
Yes, they should have offered. If you all just ordered nothing, you would not have had a table to sit at and enjoy your evening. They took advantage of the stuff on the table that was not technically on the bill.
I think this was my neighbors point..they really ATE a TON and made a huge mess at the table....
I honestly didnt think anything of it until I innocently asked my neighbor how this couple was doing...
I just wanted to know what other people thought..b/c when I thought about it I felt they should of paid part of the tip..but I never would of expected it...
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| Posted 2/24/08 10:54 PM |
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
I think it would have been nice for them to offer but wouldn't accept it from them. I wouldn't end the friendship over it though -- unless of course there are other circumstances that caused the friendship to deteriorate .
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| Posted 2/24/08 11:04 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by hbugal
I think this was my neighbors point..they really ATE a TON and made a huge mess at the table....
From your initial post, I was under the impression that they just nibbled a little. If they ate that much, then they should have offered to chip in with the bill!
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| Posted 2/24/08 11:27 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by Jax430
Posted by hbugal
I think this was my neighbors point..they really ATE a TON and made a huge mess at the table....
From your initial post, I was under the impression that they just nibbled a little. If they ate that much, then they should have offered to chip in with the bill!
Oh NO!!!! They literally ate EVERYTHING that wasnt tied down...Sorry for the misrepresentation..
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| Posted 2/25/08 7:58 AM |
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
They should have tipped. They required the waitress/bussers to clean their mess and they did eat some food.
JMHO
ETA: As far as your neighbors not speaking to them, I feel like this is not the only reason. This was probably what put them over the edge.
Message edited 2/25/2008 8:25:37 AM.
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by prncss
If it was me who was this tag-along couple, I would offer tip money because I am sitting at the table and it's the right thing to do in my mind. But if someone else was the tag-along couple, I woud refuse their offer to leave a tip. However, I would not have thought twice if they never offered.
ITA.
I think it's entirely bizarre (not to mention childish) that your neighbors haven't spoken to them since over this.
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Dani922
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
If I were the tag-a-long, I wou've offered at least a couple of dollars for the tip because I think that's just the polite thing to do. However, if I were with another couple who did not add to the tip, I really would not be bothered by it, and I certainly wouldn't be bothered enough to end a friendship. That's a bit extreme IMHO.
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Okay...I mean seriously, what are we talking about $5 they would have contributed? People really end friendships on things like tipping?
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Peronsally, I would have thrown in $10 bucks or so for a tip....but to end a friendship over $10, is a bit much...if you think their cheap, just dont go out to eat with them anymore!
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| Posted 2/25/08 10:08 AM |
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Posted by Reese32
If it were me, I wouldn't have let them tip. It would have been a nice gesture, but in my opinion, not necessary. To not speak to them because of it is a bit much. But if we were the other couple, we probably would have offered to leave the tip.
I agree 100%!
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| Posted 2/25/08 10:09 AM |
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My2Boys
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
They should have offered. Do they think the appetizers were free? It's just tacky, IMO, to not make an attempt to pay *something*.
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| Posted 2/25/08 10:25 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: OMG..I cant believe Im bringning up tipping...
Ok that is seriously the MOST nit-picky thing I have ever heard - These people are not FRIENDS with them anymore b/c of that ??? I really hope there is more to that story -
I personally would have thrown some monry in for the tip, and it would have been appropriate if they did - but if they didn't........I wouldn't give it a second thought
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