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ok... im stating MY OPINION HERE.... (long sorry)
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Re: ok... im stating MY OPINION HERE.... (long sorry)
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...however, I do have a problem (as was the case with my SIL) when a woman is fully capable and has a HUGE amount of supply (I'm talking about pumping 8 oz. of milk 2x a day 2 weeks pp) of BM but just doesn't want to do it, is too tired and felt like she was a slave to the pump since she did not want to nurse. Once again, it was her personal decision to stop but it bothered me bc I struggled with my milk supply, pumped my a$$ off and suffered from cracked and sore nipples until I got the hang of it...that kind of bothered me.
But see, that's just it, it doesn't matter that she can or that it would be easy for her to do it. It's the choice of her and her husband on how they want to nourish their child.. Just because it is easy for her and she chooses not to has no impact on how easy or difficult it is for you-so why should you have a problem with it?
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Re: ok... im stating MY OPINION HERE.... (long sorry)
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Posted by MST9106
...however, I do have a problem (as was the case with my SIL) when a woman is fully capable and has a HUGE amount of supply (I'm talking about pumping 8 oz. of milk 2x a day 2 weeks pp) of BM but just doesn't want to do it, is too tired and felt like she was a slave to the pump since she did not want to nurse. Once again, it was her personal decision to stop but it bothered me bc I struggled with my milk supply, pumped my a$$ off and suffered from cracked and sore nipples until I got the hang of it...that kind of bothered me.
But see, that's just it, it doesn't matter that she can or that it would be easy for her to do it. It's the choice of her and her husband on how they want to nourish their child.. Just because it is easy for her and she chooses not to has no impact on how easy or difficult it is for you-so why should you have a problem with it?
You're right, it absolutely 100% was their choice, and who am I to say anything...and I didn't. It was my own problem, for ME I WANTED to BF my child and I did, although it was hard as h e l l at the beginning, I sacrificied and gave it my all, I also supplemented with formula, with guilt but I did, and eventually I was ok with it. I really don't care what she feeds her child, it just bothered me that she had it so easy and did not want to do it while I had to struggle to do it, that's all. I really don't care what other people do, maybe bc she was family that's why it hit close to home.
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CrankyPants
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Re: ok... im stating MY OPINION HERE.... (long sorry)
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Posted by MST9106
...however, I do have a problem (as was the case with my SIL) when a woman is fully capable and has a HUGE amount of supply (I'm talking about pumping 8 oz. of milk 2x a day 2 weeks pp) of BM but just doesn't want to do it, is too tired and felt like she was a slave to the pump since she did not want to nurse. Once again, it was her personal decision to stop but it bothered me bc I struggled with my milk supply, pumped my a$$ off and suffered from cracked and sore nipples until I got the hang of it...that kind of bothered me.
But see, that's just it, it doesn't matter that she can or that it would be easy for her to do it. It's the choice of her and her husband on how they want to nourish their child.. Just because it is easy for her and she chooses not to has no impact on how easy or difficult it is for you-so why should you have a problem with it?
You're right, it absolutely 100% was their choice, and who am I to say anything...and I didn't. It was my own problem, for ME I WANTED to BF my child and I did, although it was hard as h e l l at the beginning, I sacrificied and gave it my all, I also supplemented with formula, with guilt but I did, and eventually I was ok with it. I really don't care what she feeds her child, it just bothered me that she had it so easy and did not want to do it while I had to struggle to do it, that's all. I really don't care what other people do, maybe bc she was family that's why it hit close to home.
Gotcha-that makes sense.
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Re: ok... im stating MY OPINION HERE.... (long sorry)
Agree with this post 100%. There are many reasons why it is not a good idea to BF. And I would include just not feeling comfortable with the idea or having the energy to pursue it. It's hard enough to be a new parent without forcing yourself to do something that makes you miserable because everyone says it's beneficial. And I hate when people are sanctimonious about BFing. If you can do it, I think that's great for you and your child, but leave it there.
I have not done it since I need to take medication that could harm my DS (a lot is released in breastmilk). In my mind, this is a VERY good reason not to BF and it did pain me not to BF. But, do some of the breast police see it that way? No! One friend who knows all of this told me she thought my son was colicky because I didn't BF. I am still mad at her about that comment. I had one nurse in a class insist that it would be okay to BF also, though my own research and talking to a few doctors said otherwise. I find it very irresponsible to promote BFing over a child's cognitive development.
So, I've turned this into my own rant. Bottom line, I think moms need to do what is best for them and their children and have the right to do so without someone making them feel bad about their choice.
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Re: ok... im stating MY OPINION HERE.... (long sorry)
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I didn't breastfeed, I didn't even try. It just doesn't feel natural to me. I try not to feel guilty about, but I do sometimes. When people ask if I did or if I am going to I find myself making "excuses" as to why I didn't rather than just stating that it's not for me.
It was a decision my DH & I were comfortable with. I will not BF my  either. It doesn't mean I love them any less - I would be miserable BF'ing so actually it makes me a better mom to my DC in my opinion.
YOU just need to feel good about the decisions you make for your DC whatever it is (BF, not BF, co-sleep, etc.) You don't need to defend your decisions to anyone.
I could have written this myself. Although I have to say, even though I didn't want to I had a physical/emotional reaction about 6 days after DS was born (2 days after milk came in). It was like I needed to breastfeed--my boobs killed, I had cramping every time he cried, I felt so guilty that I didn't even try, like I had done something to hurt him. I really wasn't expecting all that. But once my milk dried up and my hormones calmed down a bit I knew I made the right decision for us. I will make the same one for the next DC also. DS is happy and thriving and so is mommy!
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