No I do not want to know what the gender is!!!!

People are starting to drive me crazy!!!


Why is it so hard for people to understand that DH and I are waiting until the birth to find out what we are having!??

Whenever I have a conversation with someone its either " so what are your having?" "We're not finidng out" " Ohh... well that makes it hard to shop for" OR " Do you still not know what youre having?" (As if we would change our minds).

I know its not the "norm" these days with sonograms and such but please respect our decision and not make remarks just because you are sooo nosey!


(Thanks for letting me vent)

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Vent Away! I went through this with my first pregnancy.
I LOVED the "But it's soo hard to shop for you comments"..Ummmm I registered, just look at my list, it's NOT that hard, if you really want to get me/the baby something.
This time around, no questions asked. I guess because, we've BTDT.
We don't want to know. Plain and simple! ALL I want to know is that the baby is healthy and not only do I care if its a boy or a girl, the "surprise" at the end is the most AMAZING feeling!!

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Thank you so much for validating the way I'm feeling.
It feels somewhat better to know I'm not the only one whos ever had this happen.

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it's more fun this way! i like to think that it's driving them crazy inside dying to know what we're having and nothing they can say or do will change my mind about not finding out...sorry it got to you!

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thanks for the vent! I am only 13 weeks and already I am getting this! we want to be surprised. to me a healthy baby and the surprise of it all is more important than coordinating the boy's blue nursery with his blue towel with his blue onesie! I DON"T Care!!!!

Message edited 12/28/2008 4:31:12 PM.

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Vent away...it is already an argument in my family. DH and EVERYONE else wants to know and I don't

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awww.. vent away! It is just cause most people find out now adays, that is why you get asked those questions more!

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Would it be easier??? sure- I could totally get a bedding set I want and clothes and colors etc


But this is the only true suprise DH and I can share together- noone ( not even the dr.) knows what this child is.

I dont mind the guesses- I think thats fun that people are trying to figure out. But its the comments that make it seem like I'm crazy for doing this that gets to me.

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Went though it with my DS and now this one too- Its enough to make you crazy ( perfect strangers and all think they have a gender entitlement !)

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haha.. you should hear the comment I get...

We know and wont tell anyone...

People get like P*SSED about it... especially MIL.

I just and

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I SO hear you. I get so sick of this question. It's probably the reason why I've given in and want to find out now.

Now the question is, do we really tell everybody?

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WTH is wrong with people. I swear I think people just like to be annoying. I know what I am having and everytime I tell someone they say " I'm surprised you wanted to find out since its your first." I am so done with everyone and their comments.

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I know you're frustrated....but honestly, it works BOTH ways. DH and I found out what we were having with DD, and we're hopefully finding out this week what we're having this time around. When people ask us if we're finding out we get a lot of, "Oh, but that ruins one of life's only surprises" comments.

Bottom line....people s u c k in general, and will give you a hard time no matter what your choice. Don't let it bother you. It's not worth the headache.

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I'm sorry it's driving you so crazy. I am 23 weeks and we didn't find out. I think it's so funny that people get so crazy about wanting to know what it is...and can't believe that we don't. Of course it would make it easier but I think it's more fun this way, plus it's my choice and I don't really care what other people would prefer in this situ. I do hear from a lot of people that they are glad we are waiting though too. It all goes by so fast so just try to ignore them and enjoy your time.

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I agree! People are so annoying!

We know but haven't told anyone. We only found out because DH won't be there when I deliver and I wanted him to know.

I love the "I hope it's a girl" "this family has too many boys" comments I keep getting when I know I am having a !

People suck.

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Everyone has a comment while your pregnant. You get a comment both ways. I find more people get disappointed when you find out instead of waiting.

We are not sharing the names, and that also drives people nuts. They don't understand why I won't tell anyone. I don't want to tell them its because when I did share a few in the beginning, I got a lot of nasty comments. I find it much easier not telling anyone. No one will tell you anything once the baby is born.

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This happened to DH and I all the time with DS. Now with DC it is happening EVEN MORE....I actually laugh at these people now. Why do they NEED to know if I dont??

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I dealt with that for all my pregnancies. Now I am getting did you try for the girl....ah no I tried for another baby. If it is a boy I will be just as happy as if it is a girl! (I have 2 boys)

People are stupid!

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We went through the same thing with DS#1. We did not want to find out and no I do not care how "hard" it is to shop for others.

It was the best thing to hear "It's a Boy!" in the delivery room, and I am so glad we waited.

With DS#2, we had to become a little more practical about it as it is our last time, and we are renovating our house. The gender of this baby dramatically drove our decisions as to how the house would be laid out, so we found out.

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it's ok to vent
you should be around the people i know
im getting the" why do you want to know" thing .. and i know how annoying that is lol
it's your choice tell them to shhhh

Message edited 12/29/2008 8:46:26 AM.

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We didn't find out and I'm so glad we waited. It was such a wonderful surprise. DH actually got to tell me we had a boy. I'm surprised you've gotten a lot of criticism. I always got positive comments from people when I told them we were going to be surprised. Don't worry about what others say.

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Posted by angnick

awww.. vent away! It is just cause most people find out now adays, that is why you get asked those questions more!

Just so you know- its not you are anyone at your house last night.

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Being a total type A personality, people are suprised that I don't want to know the gender. Their greatest concern is the decoration of the bedroom and the baby clothes. That quite frankly is my last concern. Boy or girl, I will love it no less or no more. Though I generally don't like suprises, this I feel is one of those last little suprises that can wait. People just don't get it. I just reply with a short and simple "we want to be suprised", and put a huge smile on. Most people don't ask again.

I classify this annoying question with the questions I got when I was getting married. How big is your ring? How much did it cost? How much are you paying per plate? Are you parents paying for the wedding? I could get annoyed and ****** off, but it is so not worth it. People are nosy plain and simple.