Need Advice from the BTDT Parents

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Background:
DH had been unhappy at his job for a while now b/c he feels he has been pidgeon holed. His company is bidding on a new contract with Company A and if they get it, he will not get the promotion he should get (to program manager). If they don't get the contract, it is very likely that Company A will not renew the current contract next year. At this moment, DH's entire job revolves around Company A. He can start looking for a new job, which I'm not in favor of b/c in this economy it will be very difficult, and IMHO, given how well liked his in at his present job, if layoffs come, he is NOT at the top of the list. also, if he does leave this company and go to another one, if that new job has layoffs he will be a front runner b/c of his lack of employment history with a new job.

Yesterday he found out there is a possiblity his old job within his present employer will open up. (he received a promotion @ 18 months ago). That postition has more job security than his present position b/c it is not dependant on ONE single contract with Company A.

The problem is that the shift will be midnight to 8AM, with random off days during the week (definitely not weekends), and it will require him to work all holidays unless they happen to fall on his day off (yes, he would have to work both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day).

The good side of the transfer back to the old position would be that he could be home with DD all day and we wouldn't have to send her to daycare at all. BUT, our relationship would be relegated to two days a week (his days off) between the hours of 6 PM and 11PM (if we're lucky, since that would be his sleep time on a work day).

He asked me last night how I would feel about him going back to that position. I'm really torn.

My question . . . for the parents that have partners that work wacky shifts, is it worth the strain on the relationship to have the other parent home with DC all the time???

Re: Need Advice from the BTDT Parents

For me I would rather DH have a reg. 9-5 job but thats all I know...BUT I also have my mom to watch DS so im not sure, It may be great becasue of the no daycare and with all the $$ you save you guys can do a lot on your days off together

Re: Need Advice from the BTDT Parents

D, I'll fm you as soon as this T-storm passes...I'm shutting down