Moms of school age DC I need your advice

I just got a call my from DS vice principle. DS got upset in gym class today when he got tagged and decided to bite the shoulder of the other kid. He has NEVER shown this kind of aggressive behavior before and NEVER tried to bite before. I am shocked.

I don't know what's the right way to go about and deal with this. Should I put him on punishment or something. I feel like a fool because I don't know how to handle this.

Any advice you ladies might have I sure could use.

We have big plans tomorrow afternoon, I have tickets to the LI Game farm and we were going to go apple picking, should I cancel that trip?

DH wants me to take away TV and toys for the rest of the day today but I don't know if that is too much or what.

I am so upset.

Message edited 9/21/2007 3:14:51 PM.

Re: Moms of school age DC I need your advice

I'm not a mom but I was a kindergarten teacher - sorry for invading your board!!! - but I wanted to let you know that I found it helpful in stopping violent school behavior when parents did intervene with some kind of consequence at home to back up the school rules.

Since it's the first time he did it, and hopefully the last, my advice to you would be to impose a consequence you feel is appropriate today when he gets home (no TV, like your DH suggested, or something along those lines - I'd say one or the other is fine, probably no toys AND no TV will leave him bored and looking to you for entertainment), and explain to him that there is no biting allowed in school, and he broke that rule, so no TV today. He needs to understand that you're not going to tolerate violence, but after that let it go, and enjoy the weekend you already have planned. He doesn't need to be punished all weekend for making one bad choice.

HTH - actual moms, feel free to correct me if I'm way off in my advice!

Re: Moms of school age DC I need your advice

Posted by JessInCA

I'm not a mom but I was a kindergarten teacher - sorry for invading your board!!! - but I wanted to let you know that I found it helpful in stopping violent school behavior when parents did intervene with some kind of consequence at home to back up the school rules.

Since it's the first time he did it, and hopefully the last, my advice to you would be to impose a consequence you feel is appropriate today when he gets home (no TV, like your DH suggested, or something along those lines - I'd say one or the other is fine, probably no toys AND no TV will leave him bored and looking to you for entertainment), and explain to him that there is no biting allowed in school, and he broke that rule, so no TV today. He needs to understand that you're not going to tolerate violence, but after that let it go, and enjoy the weekend you already have planned. He doesn't need to be punished all weekend for making one bad choice.

HTH - actual moms, feel free to correct me if I'm way off in my advice!

Re: Moms of school age DC I need your advice

You are not alone. My son just started kindergarten and has been on yellow and red ( they use the traffic light system) everyday! I never went through this - my other children have always had wonderful behavior in school and I am at a total loss as to what to do. I'm going to try JessInCa's advice too.