I'm slacking...

And I know it. At my job, at home, to my DD and my DH. I keep forgetting things, like packing her lunch for DH to take in the morning, I can't focus on my work during the day, and I can barely sit down on the floor and play with DD when I get home. I'm ashamed to admit how much TV I've allowed her to watch, and how many mini-pizza's and chicken fingers I've let her eat on the days Dh comes home late and can't cook dinner

I just feel like crap ALL the time, whether it's the nauseau, indigestion, gas or tummy cramping. Either that, or I'm simply exhausted from writhing in pain from the above in the wee hours of the morning.

The guilt is starting to set in, and I know DH is starting to notice how I'm slacking and getting a little annoyed.

Please tell me I'm not the only one, and how are the rest of you dealing with it?

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I've been slacking and I don't even have any symptoms. The only pain i've had is the sciatica (which is bad in itself).

For instance: last night we were having my cousin and her boyfriend over and DH was cleaning the apartment because i've been slacking with cleaning. While he cleaned- I literally sat on the couch- eating.

I think he understands I just wanna rest as much as possible, but I don't know how long it will last until he starts getting annoyed.

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Beth - I'm sure you're doing more than most. You're practically superwoman!

In all seriousness - pregnancy is tough. It can literally suck the life out of you and you shouldn't feel guilty. You have so much on your plate and sometimes in life something has to give.

You do your best and for now, everyone is just going to have to be ok with that. If not, then they need to step in and help out or you need to ask for it.

Hope you're feeling better soon - I know how awful it is to feel lousy all the time.

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I'm slacking because I am just to uncomfortable to move. My hands are numb, my feet are huge. My DH, thankfully has picked up a lot of slack. This is new to me. Up until a few weeks ago Iwas still food shopping, doing laundry cleaning bathrooms and using the vacuum. I was up at 5:30 this morning because I couldn't sleep and suprised myself by cleaning both baths, his office and 2 loads of laundry. Im shot now. But Im resting. I will attempt food shopping and hitting Baby Depot today. If not tomorrow is another day.

You DH should realize, this is temporary. Its VERY hard to function when you want to puke your brains out. It will get better and then you will be a bit more "normal". Don't worry about it, you really have no control over it. And if he likes, he could try be pregnant for a day and then he will know!

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Dude, I am a slacker by nature. But, when you are pregnant-- you have nature working against you as well.

Give yourself a break-- it's only temporary. And tell your DH, he is not cooking a baby!

Maybe try to commit to one thing a day in each part of your life-- that way it's easy to achieve/accomplish, and you will feel less guilty and less overwhelmed with all the things you are not doing.

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Posted by lorimarie

Beth - I'm sure you're doing more than most. You're practically superwoman!

In all seriousness - pregnancy is tough. It can literally suck the life out of you and you shouldn't feel guilty. You have so much on your plate and sometimes in life something has to give.

You do your best and for now, everyone is just going to have to be ok with that. If not, then they need to step in and help out or you need to ask for it.

Hope you're feeling better soon - I know how awful it is to feel lousy all the time.

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Beth I'm right there with you my house is becoming a mess, laundry is piling up. I'm slacking big time at work. I haven't been putting my lessons together to teach.

All I do is sleep and that's all I want to do. I have no energy to do a damn thing!! I've been so lazy. I have to drag my butt into the shower.

I'm sick all day everyday since I've been 6 weeks and I'm 10 weeks now. I keep asking myself, when will I feel better and live again.

Hang in there you are not alone

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First of all - you aren't slacking. Your body is just focusing on a different task right now - cooking that little bun in your oven!

It is completely normal to let some other things slide. I know that I just didn't have the energy for a while - especially at the beginning! I don't know how far along you are, but I got a ton of my energy back at around 15 weeks. Up until then, I needed a cup of coffee at around 3 in the afternoon just so that I could keep myself awake to watch my 2 year old.

Don't be so hard on yourself - it will get easier!

I am at 37 weeks now and doing WAY more than I was early on. I am still cleaning, vaccuuming, doing laundry etc.

No one expects you to be superwoman!

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Slacker here!! (ashamed to admit it).. Its just soo hard to keep up with everything.. I want to but, Im just too exhausted to do so. I need another 10 arms.

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I have been slacking big time. It really shows at work and at home. I have tons of unfinished projects at work. The laundry is getting crazy at home. All I do is sleep when I get home. I hope that it will get better.

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OMG! You can't possibly think that you are slacking. You are totally allowed to be tired.

DH doesn't expect me to do anything. I spend most of my time in bed or on the couch feeling sick. I can't imagine taking care of another child AND expected to do housework. You are superwoman!

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You are not alone, I am slacking too & I feel terrible. Mine is partially bc I am still on "light" activities since the Egg Retrieval bc my ovaries are still swollen. I am not allowed to lift over 10lbs, so my poor DH is carrying the laundry up & down the steps, taking the groceries in, taking the garbage out..

I feel on the weekends all i do is nap & my house is starting to show. I am not dusting or vacuuming as much but I want to try to do more each day. I know that my DH understands bc it is so unlike me to be like this.

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totally normal!!! now that my second DD is here I cant tell you how many times DD#1 has had chicken nuggets or strawberries for dinner. I also use noggin A LOT now. sometimes you just need a break! now at 6 weeks PP we are just starting to get into a routine. Please dont feel guilty!

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You're definitely not the only one. There are so many things I feel I should be doing for DS and DH that I'm not or just can't right now. Food aversions have started to hit me big time so cooking is not fun at all. What I've done is made some things for DH and DS to eat that can be defrosted and reheated or, as a last resort, I give DS the Gerber Toddler meals. I know they also make Preschooler ones now so you can maybe look into those for your DD.

My focus at work has been a struggle as well but I'm trying to tackle that by going back to the basics and making a "to do" list. It's a long list but it definitely helps me to not forget as much.

I keep telling myself this phase won't last forever and before long, we'll be back on our regular schedule. I wish the same for you.

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Posted by Bxgell2

And I know it. At my job, at home, to my DD and my DH. I keep forgetting things, like packing her lunch for DH to take in the morning, I can't focus on my work during the day, and I can barely sit down on the floor and play with DD when I get home. I'm ashamed to admit how much TV I've allowed her to watch, and how many mini-pizza's and chicken fingers I've let her eat on the days Dh comes home late and can't cook dinner

I just feel like crap ALL the time, whether it's the nauseau, indigestion, gas or tummy cramping. Either that, or I'm simply exhausted from writhing in pain from the above in the wee hours of the morning.

The guilt is starting to set in, and I know DH is starting to notice how I'm slacking and getting a little annoyed.

Please tell me I'm not the only one, and how are the rest of you dealing with it?

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I feel the same way. You shouldn't feel guilty about it. Pregnancy really takes a toll on you physically, mentally and emotionally. Just enjoy that fact that you're entitled to slack a bit since you're pregnant.