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JennyPenny
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I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
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LisaW
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
I'm going to answer even though we are not dealing with MF
Dh swears that he is not resentful of me...but he does always say that he is thankful that its me not him b/c he thinks that I would hate him 
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| Posted 6/12/08 12:18 PM |
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MrsPornStar
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
We had MF only. I can honestly say that I was never resentful of my DH. I know how much be beat himself up about it and how "broken" (to quote him) he felt. I found myself becoming upset with my body that I couldn't just give him a baby. I never once blamed him. I felt like we were in it together.
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| Posted 6/12/08 12:19 PM |
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mom2mgn
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
I never feel resentful. I feel bad b/c I know it hurts him to see me go through all this and there is nothing he can do to help his problem.
It was so hard telling him what the doctor said. He was devestated. It's not his fault, it's nothing related to anything he did. He feels horrible enough.
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| Posted 6/12/08 12:22 PM |
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Kissy331
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
I have to completely agree with Hollie. We are dealing with strictly MF & DH was heartbroken when he found out. He even commented to me that "maybe he was not meant to be a dad." That broke my heart more then anything!!!  I would never resent him for this, we have to play the cards we were dealt! As I said to him, we are in this together & I would not change that for the world.
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| Posted 6/12/08 12:25 PM |
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kmac
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
We are dealing with male factor, DH had varicosele repair and we are still hopeful that our count and motility will go up.
I do not feel resentful that he is the reason that we are not getting pregnant. We are a team and and his problems are my problems, we are in this together. We've both grown so much through this process and I know how much it hurts him and how much he wants this so I could never be upset w/ him over something so out of his control. He's been wonderful through all of this and I wouldn't ever trade him for an easier path.
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| Posted 6/12/08 1:01 PM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
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rose825
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
I am appalled that someone thought this was a rude question. I think its a good one, and real, and honest. So far I am the only one who answered yes- but I am being honest. This is a great question for this board
Most of the time, no I dont resent him, but if I am going to be honest, every once in a while a tiny bit of me does. Its fleeting, but its there.
Am I mad at him because of it... no. I think he would feel the same.
But I also resent myself for having some part of this as well, even though no one knows what that a
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| Posted 6/12/08 1:49 PM |
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sfp0701
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
No I don't. We also had a m/c so i guess he could feel resentful of me if that was how it worked. But you know what, he can't control it. He would do anything to get pg. So how could I resent him.
what I do resent is when he makes me go to all the appointments alone and just lets me carry all the burden. That was last cycle and we had it out. Now he is much better. 
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MrsRbk
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
Posted by sfp0701
what I do resent is when he makes me go to all the appointments alone and just lets me carry all the burden. That was last cycle and we had it out. Now he is much better.
I guess I see that differently. I never expected my DH to get up at the crack of dawn with me for regular cycle monitoring (i.e. bloodwork and sono's). IMO, what's the point really? But I did expect him to come to any follow up appointments with the doctor. Back when we were doing IUI's he would come on the days we thought would be an IUI day. Other than that, no reason for him to be there while they draw my blood.
To the OP's question - I have no resentment towards my husband for our MF issues. We have dual issues, both him and I, but it in an IUI situation, or natural situation I can ovulate all I want, his sperm just can't do the job. But it's not his fault.
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| Posted 6/12/08 3:18 PM |
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Diana712
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
we both have the issues but I know he resents me. only
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| Posted 6/12/08 11:22 PM |
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leighla
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
The only reason I was resentful was because DH was still smoking and we read numerous things that said smoking decreases counts.
I saw his smoking as not really wanting to try. He saw it as coping with the fact that it wasn't happening.
Round and round we went.
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| Posted 6/13/08 8:30 AM |
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Daisy32
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
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we both have the issues but I know he resents me. only
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| Posted 6/13/08 8:56 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
Maybe because we both have issues it might effect how I feel...I dont think I can know any other way, but No I have never even thought of that, resenting him. He cannot control it.
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| Posted 6/13/08 8:59 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: I'm not sure this is appropriate: THOSE DEALING WITH MF ONLY
We are opposite - I'm the one with the issue, and I lay into myself with a LOT of guilt over it. I half expect Dh to resent me, though he assures me he doesn't.
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