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Blu-ize
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I'm just sitting here at work
quietly crying. I don't know how much more of this I can take.
thanks for letting me get it out.
Most of the people around me here are sick of the story already and I don't feel like talking.
Writing is much easier.
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Maathy317
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
 for you and  that eveything works out for your brother.
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| Posted 9/5/07 2:42 PM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
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Lauren
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Waste06
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Just look at how far you've come. You've done so much for your brother, and your family.
You're entitled to a few stressful tears.
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| Posted 9/5/07 2:45 PM |
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Smileyd17
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
You have been so strong!
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| Posted 9/5/07 2:49 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Posted by Blu-ize
quietly crying. I don't know how much more of this I can take.
thanks for letting me get it out.
Most of the people around me here are sick of the story already and I don't feel like talking.
Writing is much easier.
Ohhh Susan, I know how you are feeling right now, I really do. You have so much bottled inside, but so much responsibility that it's hard to just breakdown and be vulnerable for a moment. And you feel like all you do is complain and vent, that no one wants to hear it anymore.
But, we do. We are all here for you, and we are all here to support you through every little emotion you go through. You're under a tremendous amount of stress - most would crack by now (I already have  ). You should be proud of the person you are and all that you have done for your family. At the same time, allow yourself to feel your emotions and experience them.
You don't always have to be strong - you can feel weak and vulnerable and cry and vent. But, at the end of the day, we all know you aren't - you've shown time and time again through all of thise you are one amazing pillar of strength.
Hang in there 
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| Posted 9/5/07 2:49 PM |
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TreAnt427
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
I really hope that once your parents are here, things will be A LOT easier for you!!
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| Posted 9/5/07 2:51 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I really hope that once your parents are here, things will be A LOT easier for you!!
but it will be harder for them and I have tremendous guilt about it. I feellike I'm saddling them with this disabled person who they will have to care for. the whole thing is not fair to anyone mostly Fred, but it's changed our lives forever.
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| Posted 9/5/07 2:53 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I really hope that once your parents are here, things will be A LOT easier for you!!
but it will be harder for them and I have tremendous guilt about it. I feellike I'm saddling them with this disabled person who they will have to care for. the whole thing is not fair to anyone mostly Fred, but it's changed our lives forever.
don't assume that it will be harder for them. I am sure they are prepared for this. that's why they're moving back right?
you will be able to share the burden with them.
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| Posted 9/5/07 2:55 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I really hope that once your parents are here, things will be A LOT easier for you!!
but it will be harder for them and I have tremendous guilt about it. I feellike I'm saddling them with this disabled person who they will have to care for. the whole thing is not fair to anyone mostly Fred, but it's changed our lives forever.
Don't feel guilty - this is what family is for - they take care of one another and share in the burden (or, at least, they should). There's no reason on earth why the burden of your older brother's care should fall entirely on his sister's shoulders. I'm sure your parents WANT to share in this burden - hie is, after all, their child. A parent would do anything for their child. Please don't feel guilty...
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| Posted 9/5/07 3:00 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I really hope that once your parents are here, things will be A LOT easier for you!!
but it will be harder for them and I have tremendous guilt about it. I feellike I'm saddling them with this disabled person who they will have to care for. the whole thing is not fair to anyone mostly Fred, but it's changed our lives forever.
Try not to feel like that. This is their son and I'm sure they have a lot of guilt for everything that has been placed on your shoulders.
Once they are here you can all lean on each other for support.
ETA: Because of all you have done for Fred, they still have a son. He was very close to not being with you anymore, please try to remember that. He is here because he received the best care possible. He will continue to improve with support and love from his whole family.
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| Posted 9/5/07 3:01 PM |
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Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I really hope that once your parents are here, things will be A LOT easier for you!!
but it will be harder for them and I have tremendous guilt about it. I feellike I'm saddling them with this disabled person who they will have to care for. the whole thing is not fair to anyone mostly Fred, but it's changed our lives forever.
Don't feel guilty - this is what family is for - they take care of one another and share in the burden (or, at least, they should). There's no reason on earth why the burden of your older brother's care should fall entirely on his sister's shoulders. I'm sure your parents WANT to share in this burden - hie is, after all, their child. A parent would do anything for their child. Please don't feel guilty...
This is what I was going to say, that's what family is for, you have NOTHING to feel guilty about!!!
You've been through so much stress, it's ok to cry, that's getting it out in a healthy manner. I'm sorry "no one" wants to listen anymore, but you know you've got shoulders to lean on here!!
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| Posted 9/5/07 3:04 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
My parents are older and my mom is disabled herself. They do want to help him but it will be hard.
They have given up a lot of their lives for him in the past and now it's the same.
I wish I could turn the clock back. I would have taken him out of that place and gotten him to the right hospital. None of this would have happened.
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| Posted 9/5/07 3:07 PM |
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baghag
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CunningOne
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this... I hope things get easier soon. Jus tknow that you can always come here and let us know how you are. Many
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| Posted 9/5/07 3:09 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Tomorrow I sign the lease on the apt. I feel like I'm running everyone's life.
and the money!
All I can say is that my husband is a saint. He has been so understanding and supportive.
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| Posted 9/5/07 3:11 PM |
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Kara
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Sometimes you need to let it out.
You're an amazing person, but what you're dealing with is difficult! It's understandable how stressed and overwhelmed you are.
Your parents will be here soon... hopefully that will help.
Just know you're doing an amazing job - and it's okay to cry sometimes.
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| Posted 9/5/07 3:13 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
I just spoke to my dad. He's calmed my nerves for now. How canhe keep his head so straight when I feel like I've lost mine?
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| Posted 9/5/07 3:59 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Posted by Blu-ize
I just spoke to my dad. He's calmed my nerves for now. How canhe keep his head so straight when I feel like I've lost mine?
Because you're his daughter and that's what parents do
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| Posted 9/5/07 4:03 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
I think part of the problem is that I have been helping them and helping to take care of them for years now. Now, they have shown me that they don't need me to do that as much.
Weird.
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| Posted 9/5/07 4:05 PM |
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evnme
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
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| Posted 9/5/07 4:05 PM |
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daisy
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
Posted by Bxgell2
Don't feel guilty - this is what family is for - they take care of one another and share in the burden (or, at least, they should). There's no reason on earth why the burden of your older brother's care should fall entirely on his sister's shoulders. I'm sure your parents WANT to share in this burden - hie is, after all, their child. A parent would do anything for their child. Please don't feel guilty...
Well said. You have done so much for your brother, and feeling overwhelmed is natural and normal. With family, you always share the pain AND the joy, and it all works out!
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| Posted 9/5/07 4:05 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
Member since 7/05 32475 total posts
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Susan
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Re: I'm just sitting here at work
I wish this nightmare was over. It seems that it's always something.
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