Im at my wits end with this kid.

Ds listens for sh!tt. Its a constant battle. Constant. I can be all soft spoken and he laughs, i can scream and loose my voice he laughs. I have taken things away, thrown toys out put him in time out, everything. I can not take it anymore and im going to loose my sh!t if it doesnt change. What else can i do. He is constantly going the other way. I say left, he goes right.

He understands EVERYTHING you tell him. He knows he isnt listening to you, he laughs. Im seriously going to flip out. I will try anything. Although, not sure what else i can try.

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Cant edit on the ipad, he will be 2 at the end of the month.

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do you ignore him? I did this with my lil brothers and sisters and all the other kids in my life.

when they wouldn't listen or act out, all fun stopped and the would get nothing from me.

not sure if that will help you.

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I do. He will then give you 1000000000 kisses to get you attention. I have walked away, left him screaming went outside. All the "normal" things. It does not bother him one bit.

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Jen - I wish I had some words of wisdom. You know Samantha is only a week or two younger than Jaz, and I am dealing with the same thing. She "gets" the whole Time Out thing and does sit, but so far it's not really working. I ignore and it creates more of a tantrum. She is extreamly defiant right now too, and such a smart azz for a 2 year old! For example, I will say "Samantha, do that again, and I turn the TV off" She will hand me the remote and say "ok" Or I will threaten to take a toy away and she will just hand it over to me.

right now I know alot of it has to do with the baby. I was/is dealing with some pretty severe PPD and now I've started to handle the baby more, it's starting to get worse with her. She's had all my attention for the past 4 months and now she has to share me, but I know ALOT of it is also the age.

There are days I just plain don't "like" her. Yeah, I know it's a crappy thing to say, but it's true.

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Michelle, not crappy ita.

It goes like this. His new thing is light switches. He pulls his chair over and flips them on and off. I say, no dont do that. Give him 2-3 no's. Then go get him off and let him do something else. Well he will for a min and go right back. I then take away the chairs, so what does he do? He goes in his room, dumps his toys and brings the big bucket over to stand on that and flip the lights! So, then i get nuts.

We went to the ped the other day. I go to pay, and this one takes off running through the office all the way in the back and gets stopped by a pharm rep. Im mortified. He then since now i wont let him down, pulls my hair and rips my sunglasses off. So now im in a public place, let alone the freaking drs office and he KNOWS i cant kill him. And turns around and smiles, whilw i sit there burning and being embarrased.

Yes, my name is Jenn and my kid is a brat.

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Jenn I either ignore Chels..but what really works for her, is if I warn her with a timeout...I swear, I will do it she'll scream NO throw herself on the ground cry for a few second and come over and give me a hug and say "sowwy" I have given her time outs before so I think now the thought of it just scares her

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Well as you know I have two around the same age. Luckily Ronan listens reasonably well(I can't really leave the room but at least he listens.) Declan is just like Jaz it sounds. Laughs in my face, hits me, will try to headbut me etc. Declan also will walk by Ronan grab a chunk of his hair and just keep walking holding on to his hair. Won't put on is jacket, his socks etc.

One thing I am constantly thinking is Pick your battles. The lightswitch-whateva! Go crazy you know? Now if its something that is a danger to them that I get right on. Obnoxious to others(besides for me or DH) On it! I really have no good advice but they don't call it the terrible twos for nothing

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And to think, 3 is worse they say.

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Posted by JennZ

And to think, 3 is worse they say.

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I wish I had advice for you but I don't. What worked one day wouldn't work another. Just ride it out and pray that you don't kill him in the meantime

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I agree it's SO common at this age. And he's not a brat, don't worry. He's TESTING you. Totally! Any parent who's had one this age and survived it are normally very very very calm about the defiance don't worry!!!

It's a total game of "throw stuff at the wall and see what sticks" .
I agree with pp about the lightswitch - if it's not a danger to him or others, just let him go for it; soon enough the novelty will wear off on that!

Here's one thing I do on the days he's driving me BERSERK. In his yoga class they do a "freeze dance" activity.... You dance around like maniacs when the music's playing... teachers stops it and they're supposed to FREEZE! (in a yoga position she calls out). When he's bouncing off the walls at home I play this game with my ipod and use the remote control to stop the music. You don't have to do poses just say FREEZE! and stop moving.

I've also used this when we're walking around the neighborhood - he totally fights holding my hand and likes to run ahead of me; with driveways etc it's scary. So now I run right behind him and if we approach a driveway I yell FREEZE and he does ! Then we GO! after I know it's safe. (PS I always grab him or pick him up at crosswalks, he's starting to understand there's NO GAME at those).

I ignore a LOT of stuff cause I don't want to give it negative attention, but I try to be very very excited when he listens or does something "good" - I jump around and give him high 5s for that and he really loves it.

And even with all that, it's still one day at a time for us. Sometimes it's one HOUR at a time

(PS Bops that song is on a constant loop in my head now, thanks!!! I haven't heard it in 20 years and now it'll be with me for another 20 )

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(PS Bops that song is on a constant loop in my head now, thanks!!! I haven't heard it in 20 years and now it'll be with me for another 20 )

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I'm at my wits end with dd and she is only 17 months She is going through a "let's give mommy repeated blood curdling screams whenever I don't get what I want" phase... If it's this bad now I'm afraid to see what two is like

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Well thanks ladies. Im glad my kid is not the only nut out there.

Stacey, just leave room for me in the nuthouse

Colette, im going to try the freeze game. Yo gabba has a hold still song and he digs it.

Thanks i appreciate it.

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You are definately not alone. DD will be 2 next month and shes getting worse everyday. For some reason when DH disciplines her she listens, but not to me. When i ask people why she doesnt listen to me everyone says "cause your the mom". I dont get it.