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NervousNell
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If you "left" Facebook....
...did you deactivate your account completely or just delete the app from your phone, tablet etc?
I feel like i need to take a break from it. It's making me hate people, it's making me rage, it's making me feel toxic in so many ways.
Everything people post and do irritate me to no end.
I don't like the way it's making me feel.
I feel like it's toxic to be honest. And not worth it.
So if you took some time off, did you just delete the app? Were you tempted to go look at it?
I feel like it's an idle habit and when I'm bored I go there to look around. Especially at night on the couch watching TV- I just mindlessly go on, then get aggravated.
Did anyone take some time away? How did you do it- delete the app or deactivate for awhile?
Did you go back?
Did you like not being on it?
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MissJones
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I deleted the app but it didn't help. I don't want to deactivate it but I'm close.
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| Posted 10/9/17 3:46 PM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Not the same, but I never went on and had an account. I love not being sucked into all that sht.
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| Posted 10/9/17 3:47 PM |
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stinger
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
I left for 5 years and it was not an issue. My ex made a comment about our divorce and i never looked back.
It is toxic. Politics took over. Its easy to get addicted so sometimes i delete the app from my phone. And go back after a couple of days.
But now i feel like there are RL communities i am part of that i have to go on FB to get updates on. There are other positive interest groups i am a member of where i find it very resourceful.
I admire people who say they dont do FB! I was once one of them
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| Posted 10/9/17 3:51 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
i've left it for lent and i've left it just because.
one time i deleted the app from my phone. the other time i just didn't go near the app.
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| Posted 10/9/17 3:53 PM |
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Adri
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
I deactivated it for a month years ago. I was in a bad place, and many things were rubbing me in a bad way. I decided to deactivate, because I access FB not only in my phone, but also my laptop, so it wouldn't have done anything for me if I had only deleted the app.
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| Posted 10/9/17 3:57 PM |
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shadows
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I fully deactivated it in 2012 and have not looked back. You couldn't pay me to be on FB at this point. I actually feel like it does more harm than good for many (not all, of course) people. I am somewhat anti social and have no patience for anyone to begin with lol - let alone the nonsense that goes on on FB. It's not for me.
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| Posted 10/9/17 4:37 PM |
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limomof2
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
PEOPLE DRIVE ME NUTS!! Seriously, it started to make me crazy because people are sooooooooooo full of $hit. I can't delete bc a lot of stuff is posted on the school FB page but I only go on to see odd&ends stuff and school stuff. I don't know how people have the time to post the amount of stuff they do, it's insane.
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| Posted 10/9/17 4:38 PM |
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KateBennetReel
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
I took baby steps :D
first I removed it from my phone.
then I changed the login & shortcuts on my desktop.
then I set it to never send me any notifications. that helped the most because once you stop logging in, you'll get emails saying so & so posted something new.
After that, I forgot about it, and when i needed to see something, I would have to type in the url, and type in my login to gain access.
I made it so I wasn't mindlessly logging on.
Months went by before I logged on again. A year passed before I began to notice I was logging on more frequently, so I made a conscious effort to remember what I did with my time before I brought FB back into rotation. And out it went again.
I'll go on from time to time to keep up with family, but in all honesty, I'm not sure it's worth it. Especially in this political climate we're in. It's change my relationships with family. The little time I spent logging back in again has really hurt my relationships with some of family members. I should have stayed off, but then I would never know what they truly think of certain things? Like, how differently we feel towards humanity. I don't know.
Some of my relationships were better without Facebook. Some of my relationships were helped with Facebook.
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| Posted 10/9/17 4:50 PM |
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Sparrow
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I use it to keep in contact with close friends and family who live far away. Why not block the people who are annoying you?
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| Posted 10/9/17 5:53 PM |
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
I've deactivated, but then I go back. I feel like it's gotten hard to live without it, which I kind of hate. But I've found good job leads there, and it's also the easiest way to learn about local events, as well as things happening in the schools (But does anyone else find that their town's/schools' parenting page is completely nuts? Holy shit, the locals are crazy.)
I think more about leaving again because I too end up there mindlessly- I don't even realize it. I need to address that.
I unfollow people who irk me, and a couple months ago a bunch of old friends got together and didn't invite me. And I decided I didn't want the drama of unfriending so they are now all on my restricted list, and I feel better. Overall, I'm trying to tailor it to fit what I like and need.
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| Posted 10/9/17 6:17 PM |
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
Posted by Sparrow
I use it to keep in contact with close friends and family who live far away. Why not block the people who are annoying you?
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I love FB because it makes me feel like I'm still "close" with the people i moved far from. I see their everyday life, watch their kids grow, little videos of them being silly, etc. When people annoy me, I just unfollow them. If they are just outright morons, they get deleted and they just "don't exist" anymore to me.
I won't let the braggers and political nut bags who ruined my feed make me get rid of it. I just unfollowed and my news feed is full of stuff I like to see.
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| Posted 10/9/17 6:28 PM |
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Disneygirl17
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
I just unfollow the annoying ones. Lol. I’ know I’m on it way too much and I’m trying to cut back. I don’t see a reason to deactivate.. yet.
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| Posted 10/9/17 6:53 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
Posted by shadows
I am somewhat anti social and have no patience for anyone to begin with lol - let alone the nonsense that goes on on FB. It's not for me.
This is me to a T.
I have zero patience for people and find myself hating people when I see their bulllshit on FB.
Then I start ******** to DH about it.
Then I just want to never leave my house or talk to anyone ever again.
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| Posted 10/9/17 8:27 PM |
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ChristinaM128
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
I deleted the app and don't have the webpage favorited. I rarely go on, but kept my account because I do like the local moms group, and dd's school sometimes posts things. Plus, some very local small vendors have Facebook pages only.
I post maybe 2x/month, mainly so my relatives who live across the state and country can see my dd's.
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| Posted 10/9/17 8:53 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
Posted by Disneygirl17
I just unfollow the annoying ones. Lol. I’ know I’m on it way too much and I’m trying to cut back. I don’t see a reason to deactivate.. yet.
Ditto, or I just unfriend them altogether. I get sick of seeing passive aggressive posts, so those people get the boot!
I am too "invested" to deactivate. Our school group posts activities, updates, etc. in there. I visit the local special needs groups a lot for information. The travel groups are always handy when planning a trip. The buy/sell groups for various things. Many events for my kids I find out about in the "discover events" section. And most importantly, keeping up with my family that doesn't live in NY.
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| Posted 10/9/17 9:33 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
For example...a friend of mine is currently announcing the Yankee game in her statuses.
Nice slide! Safe! 6-3 Yanks!
C"mon Judge, swing the bat!
Every 5 minutes.
She does this during award shows too. Comments on the outfits, the performances, etc.
Just.....why?
Nobody ever answers her.
If I do stay and just unfollow people she will be the first to go!
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Kate
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I’ve deactivated and deleted the app. But like someone else said, I found it was making my life harder, not being on it. School and local information are posted frequently and I was missing out.
However, when I wasn’t on it, life was better. Try it!
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MC09
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
Posted by NervousNell
For example...a friend of mine is currently announcing the Yankee game in her statuses.
Nice slide! Safe! 6-3 Yanks!
C"mon Judge, swing the bat!
Every 5 minutes.
She does this during award shows too. Comments on the outfits, the performances, etc.
Just.....why?
Nobody ever answers her.
If I do stay and just unfollow people she will be the first to go!
I find that there are some people that are just lonely. They'll act like fb is an actual person and happens to be a friend they can confide all the details of their day to and other nonsense things no one actually cares about or is responding to.
Think of it as a private conversation between the entity of fb and this woman, only she hasn't set the conversation to private.
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| Posted 10/9/17 10:10 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
I get reminder texts, emails, and phone calls from the school. I also have a reminder app on my phone for school so I never used FB for school info thankfully.
I am seriously considering it. FB has really ruined some people I know...its disturbing.
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| Posted 10/9/17 10:11 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
Posted by MC09
Posted by NervousNell
For example...a friend of mine is currently announcing the Yankee game in her statuses.
Nice slide! Safe! 6-3 Yanks!
C"mon Judge, swing the bat!
Every 5 minutes.
She does this during award shows too. Comments on the outfits, the performances, etc.
Just.....why?
Nobody ever answers her.
If I do stay and just unfollow people she will be the first to go!
I find that there are some people that are just lonely. They'll act like fb is an actual person and happens to be a friend they can confide all the details of their day to and other nonsense things no one actually cares about or is responding to.
Think of it as a private conversation between the entity of fb and this woman, only she hasn't set the conversation to private.
This had me 
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MC09
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
Posted by NervousNell
I get reminder texts, emails, and phone calls from the school. I also have a reminder app on my phone for school so I never used FB for school info thankfully.
I am seriously considering it. FB has really ruined some people I know...its disturbing.
Since you're not actually getting any important (school, kid-related) info from fb maybe take a short term hiatus and see if it helps. You can always go back. But first start with clearing out the nonsense people and see if you prefer it streamlined. Then if it's still really bothering you it's time to have the "it's not you, it's me" talk with fb lol.
I do know what you mean though about it ruining some people for you, but I have to say I know some people that were sadly already ruined before fb came along. Now they're just worse thanks to the steady stream of diarrhea coming from their fingertips.
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| Posted 10/9/17 10:23 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
I haven't taken a break from Facebook, but I have limited the things I see or the people I communicate with on it. Facebook is so customizable. It is what you make of it.
I was in a bunch of fb groups that for various reasons I felt much better not being a part of. I either left the group or hid it from my feed (so I can go to it to on my own terms if I ever feel so inclined). I also stopped chatting as much with people who are negative/judgemental/unhappy. It's made me so much more relaxed.
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| Posted 10/9/17 10:35 PM |
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SusiBee
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
Posted by Sparrow
I use it to keep in contact with close friends and family who live far away. Why not block the people who are annoying you?
This. I have only a handful of FB "friends". I've denied a lot of friend requests because they come from someone I barely know or have never even met but DH knows them.
I unfollow those whose posts I don't care to read anymore - political crap, stupid memes, people who post how much they love their spouse, gush about their kids.
I joined 2 groups after the hurricanes hit St. John and St. Thomas. It was a way to connect with those who needed help and how we Stateside can help. It's turned into such a shit show with accusations of lies, "I have it worse than you do", and flat out hatred that I unfollowed the groups.
I don't post a lot of stuff about me. My life is private and I want to keep it that way. I've had arguments with DH about posting every little detail about what we were doing, where we were going, etc. If I want to tell someone, then fine, but the whole flucking world does not need to know about us.
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| Posted 10/10/17 8:15 AM |
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BargainMama
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Re: If you "left" Facebook....
Posted by SusiBee
Posted by Sparrow
I use it to keep in contact with close friends and family who live far away. Why not block the people who are annoying you?
I don't post a lot of stuff about me. My life is private and I want to keep it that way. I've had arguments with DH about posting every little detail about what we were doing, where we were going, etc. If I want to tell someone, then fine, but the whole flucking world does not need to know about us.
....but the whole world isn't seeing it, only the people you are friends with on FB. I keep my FB friends pool VERY small. I'm only friends with people I'm actually friends with. People that I don't mind sharing my life with. I know some people are friend collectors have thousands of them...I have like less than 100!
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