I think i need help

I have been feeling very depressed lately. I am not enjoying being pregnant. I'm only about 8 weeks, and there is still no joy. I worry that once the baby is here, i won't love it. I really don't know why i'm feeling like this. When i first found out, i had a lot of mixed emotions, but i thought i would be happy by now. There are days that i'm really excited, then there are those days when i cry and feel so depressed. I've always wanted to be a mother, and i love children. I feel horrible because my whole family is so happy, not to mention DH. I hate feeling like this. Should i seek professional help? Did anyone else go through this period of depression? I hate feeeling so sick all the time. I know it sounds like i'm complaining, but i don't know what else to do.

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At 8 weeks I definately wasn't enjoying my pregnancy either, so I know exactly how you feel. I even told DH that I didn't want any more children. It does get better. I know that it was hard for me to believe when I was in your position, but trust me, it will be better. Your hormones are out of wack, you're always tired...you have thislittle baby draining all of your resources...that's enough for anyone to feel down.

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At 8 weeks I was still in denial...a teacher having a baby in sept - so not what I wanted....but now I have learned to accept it and am enjoying it..then again, I am lucky enough to have had a great pregnancy!!!

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It's completely normal to go through highs and lows. You can't help it...your hormones are all over the place and that makes you have all kinds of mixed feelings. I think we have all had down days too. I don't think you should feel guilty or upset yourself about how you feel. If talking with someone would make you feel better, then do it. Remember, we are always here when you need some support.

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In the beginning you are thinking about all the changes your life will go through, how crappy you feel and you are so tired. I am sure it will get better.

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I have been really sick for this pregnancy and not enjoying it at all. I feel so horrible thinking it and saying it out loud but I can't help it. I am constantly nauseous, I am always throwing up or dry heaving and so on and so forth. Im 17 weeks and cannot wait to be 40 weeks. I feel horrible for not enjoying this time and totally loving it when all thsoe around me do. You are not alone and you should try not to feel so down on yourself, you cannot help it. If you need to talk FM at any time.

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I wanted to say that its very normal to feel this way, I would say that I spent the first 20 weeks of my pregnancy feeling very sad and down. It will go away!

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at 8 weeks, I already diagnosed myself with post pardem depression. I was so depressed preggo that I thought for sure I would be a depressed mom. Really, only up till 2 weeks ago(wk 14) I turned my frown upside down, I now I feel so full of the joy others around me carried from the start.

It is a huge change, around you and in you. Your body is not your own, it is still early on, a total adjustment period. You just signed up to dedicate your life and being to another helpless person. I was in a complete funk, it will pass.

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I'm sorry you are feeling this way, but as all the prior posters said it's quite normal. Your body is going through changes, your hormones are going crazy and you are realizing how much your life is going to change. I think as time goes on you will feel better physically and emotionally. We are all here if you need to talk

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I have to say I also was not enjoying the pregnancy due to my MS. Do not feel bad. There are still days I try to figure out how people do it. How they manage.

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With both of my pregnancies I had horrible MS, this one it has at least gone away. My first I was sick the entire time. I still remember vividly hysterical crying to my DH making him promise me that we would only have one child and that I would never have to do this again. But here I am preggo with #2. Now my fears are how could I possibly love this baby the way I love my son, and I am so afraid if it is a girl I will favor my son over her. I am also so worried about how he is going to feel and how he will be when I am in the hospital for 4 days(scheduled c-section) I totally think it is normal and once you start feeling better and the baby starts moving around inside you it will bring joy to you!! We are all here for you!!!

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Message edited 7/14/2006 10:52:56 AM.