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I am 8 weeks pregnant and I just don't like it at all.

I started having food aversions, which at first I thought was funny cause I wanted things I would NEVER eat like Kraft processed American cheese and Yoo-hoo. But, now after eating the same crap for like 2 weeks, I am getting upset. My body does not like it. And now I am starting to feel more nauseas. Even water is unappealing to me.

All I want to do is lay on the couch. I am weak and tired and getting upset. I hate this because I am normally a very healthy person. I eat very well and exercise. I don't just sit around. And now that I am not eating normally or exercising, my digestion is all messed up if you know what I mean. I can't even think about going to the grocery store without gagging. Thank god I am off for the summer, but I can't even fathom going back to the classroom in two weeks.

And to top it all off, I went to my first doctor's appointment last night and I didn't even have a sono! I asked but she said my appointment wasn't a sono appointment and that I could come back in 2 weeks. It was the one thing that I was looking forward to and we were going to use the pics to somehow tell our parents. That was the last straw! When we got home I lost it. I told my DH I was over being pregnant (at 8 weeks ) and that I just wanted my body and life back. I feel so guilty at the same time because I do feel blessed having gotten pregnant on the 1st attempt.

Has anyone felt like this? Sorry for being a downer, but I can't talk to anyone about this except DH and let's face it, they don't know what we are going through.

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These are perfectly normal feelings you're going through...one of my friends and my SIL are both 9 weeks now and feel EXACTLY like you...it'll get better I promise! Its just that your body is getting adjusted to the pregancy hormones now which affect your physical and psychological well being...once the second trimester rolls in, you're going to feel better and it'll get more exciting from there...

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I am exactly feeling how you do...but I know that the nauseausness will go away. I agree, water does not help at all for me either, and I find myself only being able to eat hamburgers and grilled cheese. I can't go to the supermarket either, makes me sick to my stomach.

DH just came back from training with the army, so I have been having all these issues by myself. Today was his first day home, and he proceeded to talk about something really gross. I started to gag, and he was like, I am soooo sorry. All I coud say was, no more gross stuff, pleeease!!

Just be comforted that you will start to feel better. I too went for my first appointment and I had to schedule a sono for 2 weeks after that. Totally normal.

If you need to talk, you can FM me!

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I can totally relate. That was EXACTLY how I was feeling until just a few days ago. I still have horrible food aversions and I can't stand the smell of most everything. I was completely miserable for weeks, I felt lazy, gross and just plain icky. I'm usually a very active person and feeling that way made me depressed and sad (which I'm sure also were my hormones acting all wacky).
Just remember that it will pass, things will improve, You just wake up one morning and start to feel better. Here are some to get you through the next few weeks!

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Wow- I read your post and it was almost like I should have typed it myself. I know EXACTLY what you mean and how you feel. It's such a lazy, disgusting feeling sometimes and last week when I was exactly nine weeks, I just sat down with DH and cried. I thought that maybe I am too young (I'm 23) and that maybe we should have waited another year. But you know what? Tomorrow I'm going to be 10 weeks, and my nausea is slowly quelling and I'm no longer feeling sick in the AM anymore. Although I'm still yucky feeling the rest of the day, it's a WONDERFUL feeling. After feeling so crappy for 3-4 weeks, it feels like a breath of fresh air when it starts to get better. I wish I listened when people told me that, I wouldn't have been so depressed either.

So- trust me- HANG IN THERE... IT GETS BETTER!

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Your feelings are 100% normal... but if it helps at all mentally, just think of it as a side effect of a growing baby inside you. It will not last forever, at around 12-14 weeks you will look back at this time while you are eating whatever you like to eat and say to yourself that it wasnt so bad. Hang in there!

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I never had any morning sickness, but the fatigue is sometimes really extreme. I am also into fitness and have been able to exercise 4-5 times a week. What I found helps me is to not eat beforehand. Once I eat, I'm ready for bed.

Seeing or touching raw meat repulses me still at 11 and a half weeks, so I either order out or make meatless dishes. Can you eat smaller bland meals? Like crackers or soup just for some stamina?

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Hugs to you as you are not alone!

I had morning sickness from 7-14 weeks and basically lived on bagels 3 meals a day for 2 months. Right now you are in survival mode (as my doctor called it!) Poor DH didn't see a home cooked meal in months and I am pretty sure he lived on PB&J!

This is going to pass! Try to focus on how amazing this is. You are nurturing a new life inside you and that in itself kept me smiling, even after the trips to the bathroom and the nausea!

Hope you feel better and remember that this is temporary!!! You are going to do great!!!

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I know exactlty what your saying...i'm about 9 weeks. I was just telling my mom this morning that I was miserable about the way I feel. I feel perfect for the 1st hour i'm awake and then it goes downhill from there. I actually went and took a nap in my car on my lunch break yesterday because I couldn't keep my eyes open. Everyone tells me it will go away soon...soon isn't fast enough for me.

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It is a natural phase for most women. Don't worry! I had many food aversions in the early stages of pregnancy. I couldn't eat meat or foods that had a lot of texture to them. The breaking point for me was when I began gaging on tomato (my favorite) I survived on hot tea and donuts for th first 14 weeks. Then my appetite came back and I was not as tired and I felt great!

I promise, it gets better! Also, remember, your body has a lot of hormones in it at this time and don't feel badly about how you are feeling! It is totally natural!

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I think so many of us have been there.

I really thought I would love being pregnant, now ahhh its not so fun IMO. I will say that first trimester is the hardest especially if you aren't feeling great. You dont really feel pregnant but you also know that you dont feel like yourself. Its a hard time. It will get better.

Around 11 weeks I was less tired, less nauseous, etc. Now that I look pregnant, feel the baby and have more energy its much more enjoyable.

I also found the beginning hard because I felt like I was holding myself back from being attached to what being pregnant. I was acting as if it wasn't real. Once I saw the baby, heard the heartbeat and got out of the first 12 weeks I was much happier!

As my best friend says, we just have to keep our eye on the prize. In the end it will all be worth it!!!

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Welcome to being pregnant! I sometimes want to slap people who say it is so wonderful because it isn't. I felt the same way as you in the 1st trimester...miserable. I am a teacher too and I missed 1st period the last two months of school because of morning sickness. I couldn't eat anything, I cried, I got every symptom of being pregnant...it was awful.

However now that I am 18 weeks it has gotten so much better. There are still days when I say I will never do this again but they are getter further apart.
It will get better for you.

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I think we have all been where you are at some point...the beginning of pregnancy is very stressful bc your body is going through so many changes so quickly, and you don't know what to make of it. The fatigue does lessen, and the sensitivity to food does decrease a little too. It will get better!!!!!

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I can relate to your post on so many levels! I am also just over 8 wks. and I am a teacher and home for the summer, and I have been feeling like the biggest, laziest, most unmotivated blob. I have queasiness most of the day, without actually vomitting. I agree about the food aversions and food shopping. I can't imagine going back to work. I have barely made any meals for DH in the past few weeks and feel guilty about that. I also feel guilty that I basically crave salt, carbs and things like fast food hamburgers. I am in & out of the bathroom all day because I typically do not eat like this. I want to eat better for my baby, but at this point, I feel like I literally can't eat a very well balanced diet. I do think it will get better and keep trying to think of the life growing inside of me. I am trying not to be too hard on myself and do see the light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you the best and obviously by the responses I hope you realize you're not alone.

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OMG... your post could have been written by me when i was 8 weeks!!

everything you are going through is NORMAL. the food aversions, the nausea, the fatigue, the constipation, and the negative feelings - all of these are due to your changing hormones!

i know it may not make you feel better now, but for what it's worth, it DOES get better! all of those symptoms tend to fade away, and i predict you've only got a few more weeks of feeling so horrible. then before you know it you will be feeling your little one kicking and squirming and you will be TOTALLY in love with hiim or her!!!

hang in there!!!!!!

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What you are going through is completely normal. I was the same way. I could only eat grilled cheese sandwichs or mac and cheese. I was digusted with myself and tired ALL the time. I did not make it to the gym in a month and a half. Once I hit week 14 I started feeling much better. I can eat a lot more now and I have been going to the gym again. I know it is hard to see the light that the end of the tunnel now but it is there. It will be over before you know it!

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The fatigue and "morning" sickness can be a real disappointment when you are supposed to be enjoying being pregnancy. It does get better though! I love being pregnant and feeling this little person move around. Hang in there, only a couple of weeks until you are out of the first trimester!

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totally normal...wait a few weeks - you'll love the second tri. try to ride out the first, it does get better, like everyone says.

initially, i had food aversions, nasuea, odd cravings for all of the same foods and then it subsided and got better. now i forget im preg if i'm not looking at myself or feeling the baby. it'll get better

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Before I got pregnant, I ate nothing but fruits and veggies and went to kickboxing and did weights 5 times a week. Once the nausea hit, I could only get down a few french fries and a waffle here and there, and slept for the 1st few weeks - this is all normal!!!

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it does get better....i am a very get up & go type of person, and i was totally incapacitated by fatigue the first few weeks, just felt like a totally different person---even my DH was like 'what happened to my wife?'---but slowly im starting to feel better and more myself. i think what you are feeling is totally normal

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welcome to pregnancy...i hated it too...i was sck untill week 20 puking every and all day...i a also a teacher and spend may and june puking in the hallway during snack time...

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I was pretty miserable throughout my first trimester. I actually wondered why anyone would do it again. I don't think I was ever more miserable in my life. And it doesn't help when you can't see the baby, or your doc won't do a sonogram b/c it's so early. I think what you are feeling is totally normal.

It really does get better. You may or may not love being pregnant, but seeing the baby grow and seeing the end in sight is reassuring. Sometimes I think I might even miss being pregnant, and in the beginning I never ever thought I'd say that.

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I'm nine weeks and feeling exactly the same way. From the food aversions, dreading the grocery store and scared of going back to teaching next week. Being pregnant is much harder than I thought it would be. I'm counting down the weeks until the second trimester.

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I felt the same way. My first tri I was nauseous and soooooo that I didn't want to get off the couch. I foud it depressing because I had no energy and I am usually a pretty active person who isn't used to sitting around and doing nothing.

After my first tri the nausea was replace by major back pain, both lower and mid back, as well as pretty bad knee pain. I was still miserable I kept telling DH that he could carry the next one because this was it for me.

Now FINALLY at 22 weeks a am starting to feel much better and can actually imagine doing this again.

Sorry for the rambling, but what you are feeling is totally normal and it does get better. Hang in there