I feel like I missed out

Long story short... I was 10 days late and sched to be induced at LIJ May 28th. B4 they even gave me anything (besides the IV) the doc said I was already contracting every min to min in a half... but never felt it. The baby's HR dropped and the shot to get his HR up didn't work so they rushed me to the OR and put me under. When I woke up an hour later the nurses had told me it's a boy and his name b/c DH told them. DH got him 10 mins after my surgery.
I'm thrilled the Doc made the right decision and my boy is happy and healthy, but I never got to see him being born or even hold him the first day b/c i was so out of it. I guess I pictured it delivering Mason and I would hold him first and say his name. It was almost like falling asleep preggo and then waking up and not preggo anymore with a baby boy.
Becareful what you wish for b/c I kept telling everyone... if there's a way they could knock me out and wake me when the baby is here I'd do it. LOL!

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Im sorry that happened

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awwwww

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First, many I am really sorry that your L&D experience was not what you had foreseen for yourself and that you were not able to hold your DS immediately after he was born. Second, your feelings are completely normal. I like many other women had to come to terms with the fact that DSs birth was not what I had originally planned. He was a c/s. I cried when I had to have the c/s. With time I sincerely hope that you are able to come to terms with your birth story b/c in the end all that truly matters is a healthy baby and a healthy mommy.

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Posted by LSP2005

First, many I am really sorry that your L&D experience was not what you had foreseen for yourself and that you were not able to hold your DS immediately after he was born. Second, your feelings are completely normal. I like many other women had to come to terms with the fact that DSs birth was not what I had originally planned. He was a c/s. I cried when I had to have the c/s. With time I sincerely hope that you are able to come to terms with your birth story b/c in the end all that truly matters is a healthy baby and a healthy mommy.

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Im so sorry your birth experience wasn't as planned.

My sister also had to be put under for an emergency c/s, they didn't have time for the epi. She felt very much like you do, for a very long time. She has since had two more children and was wide awake for both of their births.

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i'm sorry!

happy that you are both doing well though...and love the name Mason!!!

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I kinda understand how you feel. While not fully out , I had a c/s and regret it and always will. I have no choice due to a cervical surgery I had, I cannot deliver Naturally , and well if I could, they wont even let me try this time around b/c Im having twins and the risk is too high. Basically I feel cheated of a vaginal birth. And I wanted it so badly.

Your situation is a bit different, but I can totally understand how you feel and why youthink of it. It is OK to feel the way you do

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I know EXACTLY where you are coming from!
I was checking out of the hospital after the resident misdiagnosed my stomach pain....the dr. rushed in to tell me I was having the baby ASAP!!! And to boot they had to put me under and DH wasn't in the room I was beside myself upset. We didn't know the sex and I had a birth plan (not a good idea)! Long story short, I was put under, woke up and asked the nurse whether I had a boy or girl, the nurse brought the baby out to the hallway to my husband...NOT at all as I planned!!! I still have days where I feel very sad that I missed out on the "normal birth". I never once had a contraction and totally missed hearing them say "it's a girl". But I try to tell myself everyday that I am SO lucky the dr. caught my condition..I had HELLP syndrome, a very severe form of precclamsia.

I hear where you are coming from, it sucks!! But we can't go back, and we have a healthy child, in the end that is all that matters, but I feel where you are coming from

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I am so sorry that happened to you

While not as severe as your experience, I know how you feel in a way. I really wanted a vaginal birth & DD ended up being a c-section. To make matters worse, the doc on call that I ended up with was a complete d*ck head & would not allow my husband (who was just my boyfriend back then) to be in the room. Basically, he was picking on us for being young & unmarried. He gave me the choice between having my mother present or being alone. Needless to say, the images I had of myself & my baby's father cooing over our new little miracle in a peaceful delivery room were shot to hell. I didn't get to hold my daughter for 12 hours & I was not there to see her daddy look at her for the first time. I had a VBAC with my second child which was almost every bit the experience I hoped for. It helped me a long way in healing from the trauma of my first.

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Posted by karanthony

I know EXACTLY where you are coming from!
I was checking out of the hospital after the resident misdiagnosed my stomach pain....the dr. rushed in to tell me I was having the baby ASAP!!! And to boot they had to put me under and DH wasn't in the room I was beside myself upset. We didn't know the sex and I had a birth plan (not a good idea)! Long story short, I was put under, woke up and asked the nurse whether I had a boy or girl, the nurse brought the baby out to the hallway to my husband...NOT at all as I planned!!! I still have days where I feel very sad that I missed out on the "normal birth". I never once had a contraction and totally missed hearing them say "it's a girl". But I try to tell myself everyday that I am SO lucky the dr. caught my condition..I had HELLP syndrome, a very severe form of precclamsia.

I hear where you are coming from, it sucks!! But we can't go back, and we have a healthy child, in the end that is all that matters, but I feel where you are coming from

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I had the same experience and always said I was so glad I knew what I was having I had his name picked out and was ready for him because otherwise I would have been so ****** I had a baby and EVERYONE else but me would have known what I had way before I did and I did all the work-LOL
Anyway you never know what is in store but I am just glad the babies are healthy in the end! I understand your thoughts though I have them sometimes too-hey maybe next time I will see my child born!

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awww I am sorry it happened this way ~ Happy to hear that your dr made the right decision!

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I'm sorry this happened to you...

My situation wasn't nearly as bad but I do look back on that day and wish some things would have been different.

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I am sorry things didn't go as planned, but congrats on the birth of your DS!

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i'm so sorry that must be so disappointing--i can't even imagine.

i'm so glad you and mason are healthy and okay though!